Is this normal?

[StrawberryMumma]

Eeeek! Probably was kinda (dare I say it) common cheeky teenage boy behaviour...maybe...but I think it is VERY wrong. I would just mention it to the mum, not accussingly (sorry sp?) or anything just say that something like that might have happened and it made you (if it did that is) uncomfortable as he was a guest in your home.
If I was the other mum I'd want to know if my son did that.

Poor Isla's mermaid! Get scrubbing FJ!

[briggsy's girl]

i would be saying something too - from the POV that obviously it was enough for Evan to take notice of and comment about. just say it in conversation, as Lee mentioned, so as it doesn't come across as accusing, just enough to draw mum's attention to it... i'd also have another conversation with Evan about what is and isn't appropriate

[sushee]

At 11 or 12 they start becoming very sexually precocious, and now is probably a good time for his mother to know that her son is displaying inappropriate behaviour, not to catch her out, but just so she knows that he's not quite grasping what is okay and what is not. At 11, you may get away with it, he won't in 3 years time and if he's behaving in that way around others, then it's a good idea to point it out so it can be addressed by his parents perhaps.

Unfortunately in my experience, this will happen, and quite a lot, as they move into years 6, 7 and 8. They are finding their feet as to what behaviour is acceptable among their peer group, and you will get those who are more overtly sexual at a younger age. My sons both hit puberty at 12, so sex was the only thing on their minds ever since unfortunately.

Ah the perils of puberty!

[*Efjay*]

Well I asked evan & it sounds as though it was just a cheeky naughty boy thing was over his clothes, he did't expose himself THANK GOD!
Now I hardly know this women, How on earth do I bring it up in conversation?

ETA - Turns out the boy is actually a tall 9yr old & I laughed it off telling his mum what happened & what fun I have to look forward to in having boys. She was a little shocked & said she will need to talk to him about it. But I kept it light & had a laugh about it so all's good

[Bathsheba]

Well done raising the issue with his mum FJ! sounds like you did it in just the right way too. It does sound like "showing off" and I hope his mother turns it around and uses it as a good opportunity to set boundaries of what's appropriate. At least Evan felt comfortable telling you! You must have a good relationship with him... when that kind of thing happened when I was a child I was too uncomfortable to tell anyone especially my parents.

[*Efjay*]

Yeah evan is good, I hope it continues that he will tell us stuff. I think at the moment he just hasn't hit that age where things become uncomfortable to share.

[kim73]

I think that it is really inappropriate. My son is 11 & I can't imagine him doing something like that. what blows me away in your post though is the expectation that you take all the siblings home too! Never heard of that being "normal" before. If we have a friend over, it is just that friend unless the mum comes too with the other kids.

Kim

[Celsie]

I have teenage nephews and this sounds like something stupis they'd do. They do stuff that has me scratching my head all the time, wondering if their Mum may have dropped them on their heads when they were little or something, because I can't figure out WHAT they're thinking.

I think this boy was just "showing off" to his mates. I don't think it was for sexual gratification or anything disgusting like that, just that sex is "naughty" and he thinks it's funny. I don't know if it's worth mentioning to his Mum at this stage, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt that it was just a one off and he was being a "boy" and if he does anything like that again, then say something?

Evan sounds like a nice honest boy, I'm sure he'll tell you if this boy does anything else.

HTH