Fi,

I have no experiience of this age group, but I have recently been reading "Raising Boys" by Steve Biddulph, and apparently there is a real shift in "stage" at Glens age, where they "switch on" to masculinity. Its also at this age that they "lock onto" their Dad, as apparently it is at this age that they turn to the Dad to learn "how to be a male" IYKWIM?

Anyway, I have been using some of the books suggestions to deal with my 8 year nephew whwo has been staying with us, and it is all working well.

His message is that both Mum and Dad need to be consistant, that a boy will lean toward Dad, but still very much need Mum. And that the "discipline" methods from both parents need to be conversation rather than play based, no tempers (easier said than done) and conversational ie "How do you think we could handle this situation better mate?" type of approach.

(I am not explaining it very well.......I can't lay my hands on the book at the moment either!)

So maybe one to get from the library?