I don't have any real advice for you as i was exactly the same way at his age. It took for me to wake up and realise myself what i was doing. The more my mum tried to help me the more i rebelled against her.
Did something happen that hes not telling you about? Does he not like the course?
I really don't think anything happened, he said he really enjoyed his first day. He has been like this for ages, not getting up in the morning and he doesn't go to bed late either. He is still in bed right now, I just don't get it. I've tried in the past ripping his blankets of, asking him in a gentle tone to ending up yelling at him. He is a big boy so I can't even physically drag him out of bed.
Sounds like you've been very fair. All I can suggest is to let him suffer the consequences of his decisions on this one.
Maybe you could try setting up family routines so to speak for everyone for a while eg. we all get up at this time (except maybe the little one), we all do this at this time. It might encourage him to know he has to be up then???
I really don't have much advice on this one sorry. Big though. x
Could he actually be sick? Could he have something like chronic fatigue? Could it be depression? I know some children do suffer depression. I really don't know just clutching at straws....
I highly recommend checking out "Whatever! The science of teens". It really doesnt offer any advice, but it helps you understand and you can look at devising your own coping strategies. Last I checked it was still on Youtube.
hun, i know you've had a few issues with your DS - i'm wondering if there is more to it? is it possible he is depressed? i know as a teen, i went through many periods just like this. i would get headaches for no reason, and the sheer effort of getting out of bed was just too much. it wasn't until i was 19 and in uni that i was first diagnosed with depression. i didn't take meds (i don't react well to them at all) but went to counselling to find coping mechanisms. i wish i had known a lot lot earlier what was going on...
Thanks everyone, it is very possible he could have one of these conditions or both. It's just going from bad to worse. I was expecting world war 3 because of his phone but not world war 4. He got up when I picked the kids up from school and as soon as I walked in the door he demanded his phone back. The arguing went on for about half an hour so he said he's going out, I said no your not. If you give my phone back I'll stay home. I told him I would compromise and he could have phone back in the morning if he gets up and goes to his course. No not good enough, he has left the house. I just want to cry but feel so angry at the same time. I think I'll take him to our GP and see how that goes. Thanks again everyone.
So sorry I havn't updated until now, been in Court all day. DS did come home and we had a huge talk and I finally think we are getting somewhere now. He got up this morning and attended his course and had a fabulous day. He has accepted to come to our GP too. Thank you to everyone for your support throughout this.
I know this thread is old but I thought I would check and see how you are going. I know what you are going through.
My DD15 was dianosed with depression earlier this year. One day I accidently walked in on her after a shower and saw that she had been cutting her self so I started therapy with her straight away. I had so many people tell me tha she was doing it for attention but I knew otherwise. When she was diagnosed I felt like rubbing it in their faces (school was the worst of the lot)
For a while therapy help right up intil her absolute bestfriend took her own life and she was the pall bearer at the funeral (it is not fun to watch your DD carry her bestfriends coffin) and her cutting started again and she lost all interest in school work she couldn't concentrate and was struggling day to day.
Eventually she waqs placed on medication and since it has been in her system for a while now we haven't looked back. I went through so much guilt for my teenager needing meds but when it came down to it I needed to make her better and that is what it took.
This is just my story to possible help you out some, none, some or all may apply to your life who knows but I believe in talking about teenage depression and getting help for parents that feel lost by it all.
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