She's ruining my perfect little boy ! Please help, I don't know what to do!

[Daytona's Mummy]

Thanks Guys, Jennifer, I pretty much said everything you mentioned, just in my post I was trying to not make it too long so just said "and all the usual things you say" I definately don't want him to have THAT for a MIL!
Trillian, I was thinking on going that way about it but didn't want them to think I was ok with any of it.... Maybe it is the best way to deal with it though. I have pregnancy induced insomnia anyway, I might sit up all night on guard!
Yeah he does think that I'm just criticising her so I have been trying to select my wording very carefully with him. And thats just the thing, he knows my veiw on abortion and would rather struggle financially to support them & unfortunately suffer the humiliation from spiteful people rather then an abortion. He's also thrown in my face that I was only 16 when I fell preg with him (17 when he was born) but I told him there is actually a BIG difference 2 years can make and besides his father was 24yo, NOT 14! WITH a job! He just has an answer for everything and to HIM his answers are logical... I thought of talking to his father about it all (not my DH) but I know he will go over board and my DS will NEVER get married or have kids even when the time is right with the right person YKWIM? And as for DH, well... he just said he was younger than that when he had his 1st time! & that he is a smart boy, he wont do anything stupid. So no help there! I think I should be making sure he knows how to put a condom on! (My DH can't even do it right!) OH DEAR!.... I'm definately not ready for this!