There is no way on this earth I would allow any child of that age to have their GF/BF stay over. By all means don't fight the relationship but if you don't want them having sex, don't encourage it.
I wouldn't trust most 15 year old girls as far as I could throw them...I remember what they are like! I don't think you and DS can trust that she will use contraception...will Drs even give a girl under 16 the pill? Not sure. I agree with the condom thing...he will have to be the one to take responsibility into contraception. Most teens - no matter how good or bad - will generally go ahead and do something once they have their mind set on it.
Not sure what to suggest to help...my family is full of girls!
Maybe if you totally open up to the real life facts of sex...sure it can be nice, but it can also be sore, messy, emotional and a responsibilty...and be really blunt about all the birds and bees and contraception use, maybe it will turn him off a little? Any way to find out what they have done together so far? I know that is a little personal but it might gague how likely they are to go ahead and DTD.
Thanks for all of the advice & opinions, My thoughts were heading down a similar path. DH & I sat down with him last night and had a really good chat. I have a feeling it may have fell on deff ears but atleast we made it clear what our view point on the matter was & also set new ground rules. I still don't trust her though & will watch her like a hawke... DH & I will accept her as his GF & make her feel welcome but we certainly wont encourage it. (in other words, not invite her to things or offer DS to invite her ect If he does that on his own then thats his choice) I really hope this is short lived & DH is trying even harder now to get a job in the mines so we can move as far away from here as possible! Ofcause I know we can't just up & move when ever he gets a GF we don't like but this has already been our goal for a while now only now we have something to encourage us to try that little bit more. If that makes any sense at all???
Thanks again guys!
Yeah it does make sense I think the hardest part is that here is a 14yo boy who is full of raging hormones and more than likely thinking about sex and girls constantly - not that he would probably know a great deal about it - and to cap it off he has an older girl txt him and tell him openly that she wants to have sex with him and is specific enough to give him an actual date for it LOL. So that might be what is driving the relationship as opposed to him really liking her ITMS. I hope your talk with him worked and he might reconsider some of the choices he was going to make
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I think the hardest part is that here is a 14yo boy who is full of raging hormones and more than likely thinking about sex and girls constantly - not that he would probably know a great deal about it - and to cap it off he has an older girl txt him and tell him openly that she wants to have sex with him and is specific enough to give him an actual date for it LOL. So that might be what is driving the relationship as opposed to him really liking her ITMS. I hope your talk with him worked and he might reconsider some of the choices he was going to make
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