Sweetie if there is forgivness in your heart then your mothering will be better than you imagined! Its anger that does not allow one to move forward, and its anger that eats at ones souls, I have forgiven my abuser, not to his face but within my heart. We have a very similair background, so I know your pain, time heals it but the heart never forgets right? So long as we keep our hearts open, then we will never lose our self worth. My mother did not believe me that her brother could do such a thing and told me I wa a lier or I must have caused it myself, and I too feel she was abused too, but I pitty her more than ever, I pitter her because she will never know the love of a mother child relationship like I do now!