Soul, I am not having a go at you. A girl age 16 can get the Pill without her mother knowing if she so wishes. But every teenage girl I have ever known whose mother is cool with the Pill has assumed that her mum is cool with sex - if that's you I won't judge whatsoever. Not everyone agrees with keeping sex for just one person - many people no longer believe in marriage - and I will not be drawn into making a blanket judgement on everyone, just wanted to say what my friends and I believed as teens and point out that it isn't that great a contraceptive, especially when you are ill.