Having a few issues here atm but somewhat normal at this age i think..
Dd is in one of her moods (time of the month) and challenging absolutely everything we say atm (more dp than me). We bought her a mobile phone for her birthday and up until the last month or so she rarely used it as most of her friends didnt have them but now it seems almost everyone has one therefore hers is going consistantly and is driving us crazy so we have place the following rules which to her are just "UNFAIR" and we are "PICKING ON HER".
1. Phone is turned off at bedtime and left in loungeroom (as she was getting messages at 12.30am from a friend who apparently couldn't sleep grrrrrrrr).
2. No Phone before school unless she is dressed and ready for school.
3. No phone to be taken to school unless she rides (which is security more for me).
4. No Phone sunday evenings (family tea at my parents, dad made a rule no phones, ipods, ds etc)
5. No credit unless she does chores to earn money.
6. Phone is turned off during homework and dinner times.

Thats about it and i dont think we are being unreasonable as i think having a phone at 12 is a priviledge not a necessity and if she cant be responsible to live by these simple rules i will take it off her.

We are trying to set boundaries atm with her and she has been doing really well up until the phone thing, Dp has threaten to take it off her but i said once we have given her the rules we need to give her a chance, these were discussed with her last night and she isn't talking to either of us atm as apparently the phone was a gift and she should be able to do with it as she pleases... grrrrrr