Just a quick one... about to collect my 5yo from Kinder... to answer an earlier question: we are not a blended family but I was raised in one. We are having significant issues with our 13yo DD ATM... it might even mean we have to move house. I'll get back to that later... but I just wanted to add that my step father disliked me to the point of wanting me put in a boarding school and being very violent toward me in a very secretive manner... please trust your DD's if they seem scared of their stepfathers. No one listened to me... especially not my mother... that damaged our relationship forever.

to all the caring mums in this thread!