I'll keep an eye out for that book V

Just a quick update for me too... and welcome to Paycyn It's also always interesting to read other people's updates to see if there is any light at the end of the tunnel or just to know where other parents and their DDs are at!

Briefly: we are driving up to NSW this Saturday to spend a week with our DD who is still at boarding school. She now stays with my sister and her family each weekend. This seems to be suiting everyone very well. She is much better behaved for them, helps around the house and with their younger children without even having to be asked. They live on a small hobby farm and DD's uncle has taught her how to shoot a rifle and my sis has taught her how to drive a car (on their property). So instead of doing sneaking/risky stuff here in the city she is experiencing "safer and supervised" risks with responsible adults. And she's loving it.
We are hoping to eventually move up to this rural town but in the meantime it's been a very worthwhile exercise to send DD up there to both give us a break from her daily dramas and for her to feel a greater sense of independence... yet connectedness to extended family. I'm praying that once we move up there she will have passed through the worst of her moodiness/outright rudeness. At least she behaves herself with others so at the first sign of her being unreasonable I'll know that I have my sis and BIL as backup... teens really need their village!

I'll update when we get back.