Hey Trish, am starting to have the same sort of problems with my nearly 10 y/o but have gotten Steve Biddulph's book "Raising Boys", Have only just started to read it but he says that at 14 testosterone levels rise nearly 800%. He recommends having some male mentors around (other than DH or ex). He goes on to explain that in other cultures boys at this age were taken away from their mums and the men of the village used to teach him. We in the west have stopped this but Steve says they need it still. Can his football coach or some other male in authority help you. Any way read the book as it is very helpful and is explaining to me what is happening with my son now.

Good luck to us all