Yep i have been asking a lot of questions and listening because i'm sure she's not used to someone just listening to her. What i find frustrating though is her answer to most things as in why she has done something or how she feels is "i don't know", and she laughs a lot, she thinks most of what she's done is pretty funny.
In regards to the sex thing, this worries me hugely, but i think her being around my boys (a toddler and a newborn) is enough of a reality check that she'll thinkg twice about it because she can see how hard it is. We've watched Juno and some other teen movies with these kinds of issues, its hard just bringing these things up though.
Its hard not to worry about them. It is also hard being a teen at this time. They are trying so hard to find where they fit that they will do things that they think are cool at the time, but may not be so happy with later.
Peer pressure is also hard to deal with too. When I went to high school smoking ciggarettes was the only thing we were really pressured into & I was never pushed.
These days they are sneaking alcohol in in their water bottles & smoking pot in the toilets. Not to mention other drugs.
I hope she realizes that she can be happy just being herself soon & not feel the need to please others as much.
Good luck.
I was a rebel, not against my mother, but against a world that preaches but doesn't practise. I was quite violent - one teacher said I had an avenging angel complex - and much enjoyed sex. I loved school and learning but wanted to argue the point about everything.
I'd worry more about the young people who don't rebel, the sad conformists that want to leave the world as they found it, but with more money in their pocket. But there are so many dangers now, drugs, unplanned pregnancy - I was protected - and crime. You know you will get the opposite effect if you go at your sister like a bull at a gate, but you may also get up her nose if you come the old "I'm your friend, I love you, lets' talk about this" stuff. Like politics, living with some adolescents is the art of the possible. Let the small things go, get her protected against pregnancy and concentrate on what you can reasonably do to help. It will be a longish task - you can't get instant result. Whatever you do, don't fall out with her - you''re her last resource it seems.
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Its hard not to worry about them. It is also hard being a teen at this time. They are trying so hard to find where they fit that they will do things that they think are cool at the time, but may not be so happy with later.
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