What do you think is the best position for birth?
Upright as muchas possible. Both my DD'2 were birthed with me on my back, but DD2 was more sitting upright then my first and it was easier.

What should i do to avoid tearing?
Dont push unless told to! Listen to what the midwife/OB says and follow their cues. IN saying that...i tore both labours..LOL

If i get an epidural, do you think i could get a general first??
Get a local maybe? Ive never had an epi so perhaps ask the hospital about this request

What did you find was the best time to leave for the hospital?
I left home when i began wanting drugs and pain was making me feel scared and not in control
What did you put in your overnight bag?
Undies, spare clothes, drinks, food, odds and ends
What can i do to keep myself calm?
Relax and let your body do its job. Breathing is important. Focus on the end result...your baby!