Shell,

I'm so sorry for your losses. I've just been through my second m/c. But I was fortunate to enough to have my DD in between m/c 1 and m/c 2.

In terms of talking to friends I didn't talk to many people about m/c no.1 but I felt most comfortable talking to people who had been through it before themselves. One friend and I talked a lot about loss as she'd been through the same thing the month before me.

When I lost no.2 last week I talked with another friend who lost two babies. She now has two healthy boys. But she said that the second m/c did her head in and she has blocked a lot of it out and that was the only way that she coped.

Maybe your friends just don't want to remember, like you have said. Perhaps that it their coping mechanism. But it is a bugger for you. And you don't want to feel like you are forcing people to talk about it with you. But I hope your friends are kind enough to be there for you if you need it.

In terms of this loss I have spent a lot of time poking around on belly belly reading the stories of others. But I have also thought about getting some counselling for this loss. I feel like I need to get my head into good shape in order to look after my DD properly.

I wish you lots of baby dust and hope that you get your baby soon.

Josijo.