Menstrual Cycle after Miscarriage

[alic]

Hi, Have never posted before but found all of your comments to be of comfort. I think I'm a little further on than you all, in that I naturally M/C in April '08 at 8 weeks. My period didn't arrive for 6 weeks and then all seemed OK (28-32 days for the next few months). Like you all, I also just got on with life and took a pragmatic approach to the M/C, and thought I'd dealt with it all OK.

However, over the last 2 months , when ttc I have experienced really late periods. This month (the month when the baby would have been born) it was a record and very cruel 44 days until I had my period. Boobs were like rocks and painful to the touch and have felt sick for weeks (but not pregnant), as well as tearful and highly anxious. Again I was highly relieved to have had my period.

I'm guessing its hormonal imbalance (either that or I'm going crazy) and will be going to see a specialist in the New Year to try and get back on track. I just wanted to share this with you all, as it can be so stressful, confusing and frustrating, but I guess a miscarriage is a common, but quite a major event that needs some time to recover from both mentally and physically. Good luck to you all in that process.

[Karen van]

Hi Alic

Glad we could be of comfort because Lord knows - there's little comfort in your body playing silly buggers with you (I figure that's what my 3 year old is for... )) - maybe this is why some practitioners suggest that TTC could be left for at least 3 cycles after you m/c - perhaps many of us take longer to get back on hormonal track than others - at my age - I certainly didn't expect to just bounce straight back. I have found my nettle, red clover flower, oatstraw and raspberry leaf tea mix infused for a few hours in a jar daily seems to have settled everything down PMS symptom-wise (I also have a lousy digestive system so it has been brilliant for that) and am feeling the best I have all year. Here's to getting on with the job!

BFN
Karen van

[laluna]

Babbles

I had a missed miscarriage in August 08, which required a curette and with no sign of a period for 6 weeks, I decided a visit to my natupath. She put me on a mixture of herbs to try and get my body back in some sort of balance-which worked!-big time! At the end of October we found out I was pregnant and a week and a half later I started bleeding and was told I had had a failed pregnancy. Another curette! We then decided I would not go back on the herbs and see what happened and this time my first period arrived yeasterday 4.5 weeks later. I think our bodies react in different ways and there may be other alternatives worth looking at. It is such a emotionally draining time when you are waiting and also dealing with losses. I have found what is best for me is to go with how you are feeling and talk about it. Some days are worse than others, with tears and if only questions and scenarios.
I don't know if this has helped at all but sometimes it's nice to know you are not alone. I wish you the best of luck
Laluna

[anital]

Hi Babbles,

I had a miscarriage about 5 months ago. We found out at 10 weeks when we had our first scan, there was no hearbeat. We were absolutely devasted. I still find it difficult to talk about sometimes without breaking down. I was actually quite surprised at how hard i took it considering i was only 10 weeks along. But we were so excited when we first found out. The whole ordeal was a nightmare for the rest of the week. I was booked in for a D&C which never happened, even though the hospital kept me in over night with no food or water. Finally the next morning the doc came around to tell me they could only fit me in that evening. I made them take my IV out and booked in to a private clining a day later. I ended up having the D&C on our 4th wedding anniversary

After the inital bleeding (and pain)from the D&C (which lasted 2 weeks!) I didn't get a period for 6 weeks after that and ever since my cycles have been at a minimum 40 days long and PAINFUL for the first 2-3 days.

I don't know if what's happening to my body is normal but I plan to go and see my doc once my next period comes along (currently at 32 days and counting...). We're talking about trying again maybe in a couple of months and i'm now worried the D&C has screwed up my whole system.

I went thru so many different moods and phases after the D&C. My poor husband just didnt know what to do. He was so supportive and gave me my space and time to do what i needed to. We really lost our connection for a while there, but thank gd we are now back on track. I don't think i'll ever get over it, but i realise that i need to move on now and enjoy the things i have. It was our first try and i'm only in my mid twenties so we have time to try again.

I never realised how common it was to miscarry, very few people actually talk about it.

I hope you have a lot of love and support around you

AL

[alic]

Just wanted to provide an update to my previous post, when I was still hormonally challenged and basically still quite unwell 7 months after my miscarriage with our first child, last year. At the time I went to see a couple of local GPs who wanted to diagnose me with irritable bowel syndrome (after I quite clearly stated my symptoms of ovarian pain, sore boobs and excrutiatingly long cycles)

I finally went to see an obstetrician privately, who after a tv scan had my problems diagnosed within seconds. I have mild PCOS and my system was struggling to get going again, my eggs were not reaching full maturity, not being released regualrly and were clogging up my ovaries. Having received this diagnosis I was able to take some positive action regarding diet and fitness and after ruling out all other potential probs such as blockages, sperm count etc. we were able to discuss various treatment options (as we have no children and I'm 38 already).

Since January I've been following a low gi diet and exercising more regularly (45-60 mins sessions) and have lost 7lbs (now weighing 135lbs) and, most importantly, my last 3 cycles have returned to normal (between 29 and 31 days). I've been booking in with my local GP nurse every cycle for a blood test (timed 7 days before bleeding is expected to start) in order to measure my progesterone and sure enough levels have indicated that I've started ovulating again. My ovarian pain is gone and I look and feel healthy and happy.

Last cycle my progesterone was much higher than usual and caused me to do a hpt, which showed a big fat positive. I am 6 weeks and 1 day pregnant now, with no complications yet (I'd already started spotting at 5 weeks last time) and I feel completely different about this pregnancy. This was conceived naturally, as I was due to start on clomid this coming cycle.

Time will tell whether all goes well, but I just wanted to share my experience that; a) if you can find a healthcare professional who can tell you what's wrong, you can regain control of the situation and b) by regaining control you stand a much better chance of taking that crucial first step on the long road that is pregnancy.

Good luck to everyone xx

[lauren22]

sorry for hijaking this thread
but a question i have piercing pain in my lower left abdomal ovary area
but its been only just 2 weeks since my miscariage?
i could not possibly be ovulating and ive only had ovulation pain and handful of time mostly when i first got my period at 11
i dont think it would be but what else could it be?