Hi Babbles,

I had a miscarriage about 5 months ago. We found out at 10 weeks when we had our first scan, there was no hearbeat. We were absolutely devasted. I still find it difficult to talk about sometimes without breaking down. I was actually quite surprised at how hard i took it considering i was only 10 weeks along. But we were so excited when we first found out. The whole ordeal was a nightmare for the rest of the week. I was booked in for a D&C which never happened, even though the hospital kept me in over night with no food or water. Finally the next morning the doc came around to tell me they could only fit me in that evening. I made them take my IV out and booked in to a private clining a day later. I ended up having the D&C on our 4th wedding anniversary

After the inital bleeding (and pain)from the D&C (which lasted 2 weeks!) I didn't get a period for 6 weeks after that and ever since my cycles have been at a minimum 40 days long and PAINFUL for the first 2-3 days.

I don't know if what's happening to my body is normal but I plan to go and see my doc once my next period comes along (currently at 32 days and counting...). We're talking about trying again maybe in a couple of months and i'm now worried the D&C has screwed up my whole system.

I went thru so many different moods and phases after the D&C. My poor husband just didnt know what to do. He was so supportive and gave me my space and time to do what i needed to. We really lost our connection for a while there, but thank gd we are now back on track. I don't think i'll ever get over it, but i realise that i need to move on now and enjoy the things i have. It was our first try and i'm only in my mid twenties so we have time to try again.

I never realised how common it was to miscarry, very few people actually talk about it.

I hope you have a lot of love and support around you

AL