Hi Beky,

I'm so sorry you have gone through the losses of your angel babies.

I think the thing to consider is to ask yourself "Do i want to bring a child into this relationship, right now?". Not the r'ship you could imagine it being, not the r'ship it sometimes is on good days, but exactly as it is now.

When someone goes from one extreme emotion ("it's over") to another ("let's get back together and have a baby") in such a short period of time, it's easy to be relieved and excited when it goes from negative to positive. But unfortunately it also means it could fairly easily go back in the other direction.

I second Muppity's suggestion of counselling. I'd actually make it a condition of getting back together and definitely a condition of TTC. I know it's painful but stop for a moment and go back to the feelings you were having when you broke up. Not just the thoughts, but the feelings themselves. I'm sure you wouldn't want to be going through all of that again with the added pressure of being pregnant.

Hopefully you both can work things out so that you're in a place where you are happy and, most importantly, confident in your relationship.

xo