Trying To Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss #3 August 2008

[babbs]

Hi Im new at this new on the site new on any chatroom actually. I'm at bit confused is this the right place to be talking to others above miscarriages and trying to conceive after one. You all seem to know each other quiet well, sorry if i've popped into a personal chat

[~ Mylitta ~]

Hi Babbs, You have definitely come to the right place I've so very sorry if you have had a loss, but I'm very glad that you have found our little thread. The ladies in here are all fantastic. We all understand what each other have been through, are compassionate, and above all else, supportive and friendly

I hope you feel comfortable enough to stay with us, and feel free to share your story with us

Good luck if you are trying to conceive, and I with you well on your journey

[mollycat]

Babbs - Firstly welcome and I'm so sorry you had to join us. You've come to the right place, we're a friendly bunch and newbies are always welcome. Our dream is to close this thread down, but unfortunately it doesn't look like that will happen, so we're here for each other, we give support and understanding as well as friendship. I hope your journey is not a long one and you are able to have your bub soon.

Krystie - Unfortunately I didn't score the day off, ended up with the three little ones. They're all in bed now so i've got a couple of minutes to spend on bb. Your DH's party sounded great. What a way for you to end the party. Hope the pillow trick worked.

[babbs]

Thank you for you message. Unfortuately yes we had a loss. Last Nov after just a couple of months of trying we lost our baby girl at 9wks. At my 9wk scan we discovered there was no heartbeat our baby had died, I had to go have a D&C

We started trying straight away and as yet nothing has happened it has been nearly a year from when we first started trying.....it doesn't get any easier!!!

The think I find the hardest to deal with is other people who fall pregnant. I fell at the same time as my best friend our due dates were a day apart and she now has a beautiful baby boy (my godson) and in the last year I've had 4 other friends fall. Three of them are due at the end of the year one in Oct one in Nov and one in Dec so it seems never ending! I hate to be jeaolous and resentful but sometimes it is just so hard to hide it! I often feel like a horrible friend for feeling like that.
I just feel that everyone is leaving me behind and no one really understands and so I thought it might help to talk to people who have gone through sometimes similar.

[mollycat]

Babbs - we've all had those feelings and their perfectly normal. It's as simple as you don't want to take away what they have - You just want it too.

Most on here know my story - I have two boys 16 and 11, it took 3 years to fall pg with my DS2 - with the help of clomid - we've been trying ever since for #3. I've been diagnosed with PCOS so that doesn't make it any easier, have had multiple attempts with clomid and finally fell pg naturally in Oct last year, unfortunately i m/c in Nov at 8w, this ended a horrible year in which we almost lost my father - who has only 17% of his heart working so we could still lose him at any time, our close friend (like a grandmother to our children) was murdered and then our bub. We've been "trying" ever since then back on clomid and tamoxifen, one of my clients had a bub four weeks before mine was due and my SIL had one days before mine was due. It's so hard watching all those pg bellies and wishing you were with them.

[Babyfever2007]

Krystielove- Oh wow sounds like you had a blast. Yeah I would have turned red too if DH would have said that too.. Go go for After party Bding. Glad to hear you had a great time

Babbs- Welome to BB Nice to meet you. I hope that you find the support your looking for theres many great woman here and pleanty of support and help. Dont be afraid to ask. I hope you get your bfp soon and sticky one. Sorry you lost your beautiful baby girl at 9weeks, I too started TTC right away. I had a miscarry about 5 weeks ago and lost my baby at 6 weeks 1 day. I understand how its hard to hide your jelousy of other pregnant woman its hard. I find myself looking at pregnant woman in the OB office or stores saying UGH why cant I be big like that ATM??

[mollycat]

Jen - really hoped that AF would stay away. Okay tell the truth you just wanted to be with the rest of us. SAY IT WITH ME...... I WILL FALL PREGNANT IN SEPTEMBER.

[tina_k]

hi girls,

just popping in to say hello..im still on my BB break!!!
havent been around for a few weeks now, so theres no way i can try to do personals! But i just wanted to say congrats to the BFP's ive missed..(there has to be a few right??)
and hang in there to those who are still trying ...i know how long and frustrating this process is, but i promise it will happen.

AFM, well, im doing great. Saw bubba again last week and it was wonderful. All signs are great , so so far so good
still not telling people and still really nervous, but starting to let go a bit i think!!!

to you all

[Easha]

Evening ladies,

Jen - bugger Bia%ch has arrived - what a sucky Aug, what have we - only 1-2 BFP's

Babyfever - sorry about the temp drop... for me that means AF will arrive that day or the day after

KL - how sweet is your DH - taking you home for and then going back to the club, I enjoyed my quiet day but then went to see a friend's band who launched their EP last night so was nice and noisy... good though

Megsmum - good to hear from you - what website are you setting up?

Babbs - sorry you have had to go through what you have but all the girlies are great here - hope your time with us is short

Tina - great to hear from you.... BFP's have been few and far between for Aug I'm afraid..... bring on Sept

AFM - no much to report - just plodding really

to you all