Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - December 2009

Afternoon all,
Matthewsmum hopefully your dream doesnt come true and AF stays away for a long time. SIL is getting better slowly, taking baby steps on the road to recovery at the moment. They had the rehab team come in last week and said they will be in hosi untill at least february as she has lost alot of feeling and movement down her right side, so still a long road ahead but shes getting there. The name pendant sounds lovely.
Snugglybean sore boobies sounds promising, hopefully if you do cave on sunday there will be a lovely BFP waiting there for you. Good luck with the packing, how long are you going away for?
craftmummy the pg guinnea pigs sound like a good way to pass the time, i bet the kids just love them, we had them as kids and they were so cute.
ferals :rofl: at the putting the sign on the door and forwarding her to murraycods address, if only it were that easy. 75% are good odds of a healthy baby, maybe you could tell the pgd nurses that if there so in favour of you having another round maybe they can consider paying for it.
Emmy yay to the pregnant guinea pig, hopefully it will rub off and you can get your BFP soon too.
Hello to everyone else, hope you all have a good weekend.
AFM tested this morning, BFN, i dont know why i dont just wait a few more days rather than being shattered early on. Other than that I had a good day, went and seen a friend and her 10mth old bub and had lots of cuddles. Had a bit of a meltdown and a huge cry again last night which has made me realise that i really do need to speak to someone because obviously im not coping all that well. My friend i went and seen this morning knows a really good grief councellor and has given her my name and phone number and she is going to get in contact with me in the next couple of weeks, so hopefully that will help and get me back in the right frame of mind.
Anyways better go and organise some dinner, talk soon

Eliselouise it was nice of your friend to help you organise the counselling, and glad to hear that you got some special cuddles! Sorry about the BFN, would be nice if it was just too early!, we should change the name of the TWW to the WAABW (week and a bit wait!!!)X

Matthew'sMum i hope you get a better sleep with some sweeter dreams tonight X (im watching Deliver Me as I type this....have it in for myself lately)

Tanya I haven't been diagnosed with any cysts, with the hundreds of scans I had when doing the IUI treatment nothing was ever said about it anyway, and my new FS in Adelaide has all the scans on the computer he says they are all good and healthy. I have suffered from sever period pain since I was 13yo, can't ever imagine having a pain free AF to he honest! Is there such thing!!!!!?????:o
Hope you are feeling well X

Emmy83 hope AF is kind to you over the weekend X

Ferrals I hope the PGD Nurses can respect the decision you have made, unless they want to pay for it for you!X It is your turn for some good luck, and I'm sure it is on it's way X Hopefully some wedding organising can help you take your mind off things, and you get a very special wedding gift X

Buy the way girls......why can't we breed as easy as guineapigs???!!!:rolleyes:

SnugglyBuggs I can't beleive you have not caved!!! You are a tough soldier. When I was at work yesterday I grabbed a PeeStick out of the ED and Peed on it within minutes! Then walked around with it in my pocket checking it every 15mins for the rest of my shift incase it changed it's mind and gave me a second line!!! Im out of control ATM.

AFM, still waiting for the results of my bloods taken yesterday to see what level my progestrone is down at, hopefully DOWN!
Still no AF. Not even the slightest pain today. Im over it. i give up:dunno::confused:

Mathewsmum-funny you say that i had this feeling somthing wasnt right when i was pregnant with abbi and i kept dreaming that at my 12 week scan they said the baby has downs syndrome and on the way to that appointment i was worried and felt not right then when they said i had a 1 in 2 chance the baby has downs i was in shock it was just like my dream and i couldnt believe it i think somtimes mothers just have a sense when somthing isnt right.

Eliselouise-sorry you got a BFN maybe a bit early and yes i told the pgd nurses the money was way to much and then they went on to tell me they can organise finance for me i was like :o.

Murrycod-you still have time for AF to turn up take this time to have some lovey dovey BDing because when the injections start and your full of eggs you get a bit bloated and tender and then after EPU you are pretty sore and if they put you on crinone surpositories (not sure of spelling) that is gross and you wont want to BD with that stuff so it might be a bit of a break for quality time with your man.

AFM-wedding plans are all done we are eloping we are meeting the celebrant on this lovely waterfront area to get married no family just our kids and 2 wittnesses we are doing the beach/hawiian theme with a few frangipanis for flowers i have a really nice roxy dress and gold sandles all the boys have black knee length shorts white shirts and black thongs with a frangipani in there shirt after the wedding we have planned a xmass party with family where we will tell everyone.

Soulds so lovely Ferrals, DH and I wish we had of eloped!!!!!!

And Thanks X

morning all-eliselouise-good you have a recommendation for a councillor.I hope you find it helpful,i think you will.Fingers crossed it just to early to show on test,keep us updated...Murraycod-they talked to you about the meds to bring af on(forget the name,sorry,fs was going to put me on it at one stage but in the end didn't need it,i've heard it is pretty fast working though)didn't they? Or is my memory failing me again?..Ferrals-You're wedding sounds beautiful...

I dunno I'm a little confused myself TBH. One nurse the other day told me not to worry because they could, and everything would work out fine. Another nurse that called me today, said no, and that if i didn't get AF over the weekend I'd miss out for this years medicare. it's an $8000 diffrence if I don't get AF by Sun.
They will ring again on mon, and I will ask why I am getting mixed messages from the staff. I'm feeling pretty miserable now and Iv'e completely lost hope and i haven't even started.
Im never going to be a mum its just hopeless.

murraycod-i'm sorry this is such a uphill battle for you,but i believe it will happen for you ,you obviously have so much love to give,it will all be worth it in the end ,even the 2o'clock feeds.It is just not fair,thinking of you.

Thank You Matthwe'sMum, you always have a kind word to make me feel better.

:cheer::hooray::bluecheer::hooray: I JUST GOT AF!:confetti:

:pray: Thank you lord.............................................. .....................

Thank the lord for that Murraycod I was feeling really bad for you not being able to do anything to help,
You and eliselouise have all my prayers that you can gather the strength to carry on it will be so worth it in the end, there is no better job than to be a mum,
Just spent the day with my DD3rd she was 4 today and what a lovely day we had, makes me feels so grateful for what I have and think maybe I am being greedy hoping for another one !
Wish I could pass my chance on to you two and I will gladly wait my turn !

:happyforyou: Murraycod

Congratulations Tanya! What fantastic news! What great way to start off the December thread too. I hope you are the first of many this month.

Ferrals - congrats on your upcoming wedding!

craftym,ummy - I have guinea pigs too, I'm envious that you will be having babies, they have the cutest babies ever! Hope she brings you some luck!

Several of you have some very promising symptoms, I have my fingers crossed for you all. i'm going to have to keep checking back to see how your HPTs go!

WOOOHOOO MC!!!! Lets hope this is the last you see of her for a while!! ;)

xx

Morning all
:leap: murraycod so glad that AF showed up and that you can now go through the IVF at the cheaper rate. Hopefully it works first time around!
Twinsis thanks for the good luck vibes, how is everything coming along with you?
Craftmummy thankyou for the kind words, im glad you had a good day with your DD for her birthday and hopefully it will be your turn for another little one really soon.
Ferals the wedding sounds just beautiful I love love love frangipanis they are just gorgeous and im sure you will all look beautiful
Hello to everyone else, i hope you are having a good weekend.
AFM not sure whats going on, all the symptoms i had for both AF and pg symptoms have gone and AF is not here yet. Wanted to test again this morning but didnt because i dont want to see that one line. Might just try and wait it out and see what happens (if i dont go crazy in the mean time :lol:)

Murrycod-yeh! for AF turning up and i don't know what your ivf nurse was on about i was told by my PGD nurse and medicare as long as AF turns up by the 31st of december and you have collected your meds it will be classed as a 2009 cycle and billed at the cheaper rate anyway you dont have to worry now good luck on your ivf journey i hope you are lucky 1st time round.

Eliselouise-i'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

AFM-just waiting for my +opk's usually around day 11 or 12 but i think it will be a bit later this month after all the hormones last month my AF was longer i'm just hoping i dont have an anovulatory cycle this month some women do after ivf i will just have to wait and see but we have been BDing every 2nd day to be sure and when i get a positive opk i will grab DH and molest him every night for a couple of days lol.

Thanks Girls :D
I have never been so glad to have a crampy yucky tummy and AF in over 4 years!!
The witch is definately letting me know she is here, but I'm soldiering on doing housework and folding cuz I just buzzing around the house. Poor DH can come out from hiding now :hide:
Poor thing had to put up with a few hissyfits this week!

Eliselouise giving you strength to hold out to see what eventuates in the next couple days. I dunno why I get addicted to POAS because it never makes me feel good in the end, just can't seem to help ourselves can we!:lol:

Speaking of which, Snugglybuggly.....I know your out there somewhere......I know your up to something and it's not packing is it!? :cool:

Ferrals I got told so many different things off different nurses in the last week and a half it made me so stressed out, but now as of tomorrow I will be given 1 clinical nurse who will make all of my appts and phonecalls, so I won't get different things said to me anymore thank god.
You must of been so strong to go through what you did, I'm scared i won't have the strength in me to cope.

Thanks Tanya, I hope you are feeling well X Keep popping in to let us know how things are going X

Crafty I PM'd you last night, thank you for your words XXXXXX

Coco if you are lurking, we miss you and hope that you drop by soon, hope everything is ok X

Murray Cod I am so pleased that AF has come for you.:dance: I am also pleased you will have one clinical nurse as a contact point, hope it helps you through this very exciting next phase of your journey

Eliselouise- any news yet? I have my fingers crossed for you. I went a saw a counsellor 2 weeks ago and it helped me, so hopefully it helps you too:goodluck:

Ferrals best wishes for your wedding, I hope it turns out to be everything you want it to be.:D

AFM, well I am CD 13 and by all calculations it should be O day. I have decided not to use OPK’s as they stress me so much so have been taking a more relaxed approach this month. It may have to do with the fact that it’s only 4 days till my cruise.

Not sure if I will get to post again before I leave, so I wanted to wish everyone a great Christmas and lots of BFP's. I look forward to reading about them all when I get back.

Greencake no news yet, still no AF so i suppose thats good but might try and wait till tuesday and test again then. In saying that it may get the better of me tomoro and ill probably test then. Have an awesome cruise and a great xmas and hopefully the more relaxed approach this month pays off :)
Murraycod i know what you mean about POAS too early, we know it wont show up so i dont know why we do it :lol: especially when it makes us feel worse. Sorry to hear AF is being nasty, hopefully its the last for the next 9 months
Ferals :ROFL: at molesting DH, goodluck and hopefully you catch that egg

Hi there
Greencake merry christmas to you too and have a great relaxing cruise ! wow how romantic !
Eliselouise85 get those damn sticks put in the freezer until at least thursday and forget about them I can't stand seeing 1 line so I give AF a good chance to get here and only test when I am at least a day late then it doesn't feel too bad as I never get to test lol.
The more you stress about them the later you will be so take a chill pill and go do something else stay out the toilet !!!!
Murraycod hope you pains are getting better I feel for you all that waiting now all that pain all because eve ate the damn apple !:ROFL:
Snuggly come on we know your in the toilet waiting to pee on your stick ! well what did it say !
Matthews mum are you in there too I don't know I think its the toilet convention this week !

Will check in later ferrals your poor DH give him a few days off hes getting hitched soon !

Best of luck girls waiting to test. Stupid AF arrived for me. Thats cools I can deal with it this month but gee the pain isn't nice. Back is killing me almost.
Snuggly, eliselouise85 and anyone else due to test in the next few days praying your celebrating a BFP or about to.
Hi to everyone else. I am lurking about but not posting much. And coco if your out there reading thinking of you also.

Hi everyone,Murraycod-so pleased af got her act together,one step done ,what's the next step to climb...craftmummy-i have a 4 year old too,they make you smile through the tears don't they...eliseloise-i'll be you testing buddy on tuesday if you like...emmy-hope back pain eases soon...afm-i've stopped myself from poas,waiting till tuesday,been emotional over the weekend could be symptoms of either though,also got santa photos done watching dd2 holding Matthew's bear instead of him actually being in the photo was comforting but upsetting at the same time

Hi girls...
Everything's crap here. I caved Saturday and tested. I got a faint faint positive, thought not much of it as was only 9dpo. Had one spot that afternoon, then one more later, so started to worry. This morning I weed in my little cup ready to test again, but the wee was really really pale, it's been so hot up here and I've been drinking a lot, so thought I might not - thought it might be too dilute to show up. I still had some spotting; left it for an hour or so, went back to bed, but it had got heavier. All pg symptoms were gone. It's only CD27, so too early for normal AF, but too heavy for the bleeding to be anything else. Anyway, I'm outta the game now until we're in Japan. Means a slightly more fun Christmas lead-up now, I guess.

Chocolate's good.

Morning girls

Greencake-have a great time hope you catch that egg and have a holiday baby.

Eliselouise-oooh still no Af i'm getting excited for you.

Craftmummy9-yes i will give him a break after we get plenty of BDing in the next few days he is on day shift this week so he will survive.

Emmy-sorry AF turned up for you hope the new year brings you more luck.

Mathewsmum-AWWWW! for mathews bear on santa's lap if my boys were younger and believed in santa i would do the same with abbi's bear.

Snugglebean-i dont know what to think with a faint positive and then bleeding you can still be a BFP with bleeding but if it is enjoy xmas have a ball in japan then when you get back you might have a surprise.

AFM-LET THE MOLESTATION BEGIN i had a pos opk yesterday on the internet cheapy and a not so strong line on the fortel opk so i expect it to be a strong positive today which is great means i am going to ovulate after all the ivf drugs so i should ovulate tomorrow DH is off work for 2 days i am working tomorrow but am home by midnight so we should get plenty of BDing in.

Awww, SB.... It can be implantaion.... I know women who have bled for one day and then no bleeding.... :( (((hugs))) Do you have a chart?

Emmy, so sorry AF arrived... you think just her arrival is bad enough then you gotta be sore too!! It sucks (<< word of the day!)

Have fun Ferrals ;)

Well I am in panic mode!! Can't help it, I suppose it comes with the territory of pg after loss.... *sigh* I just gotta keep occupied!

XX

Morning all
Just a quick post from me at the moment, i started doing a proper post with persies and i was nearly finished and my internet decided to shut down :wall:
So anyway i caved this morning and tested thinking i would only see 1 line and OH MY GOODNESS :bfp: :o I cant believe it, i couldnt wipe the smile off my face and had to ring DP and tell him and he just said "i knew you were" hahaha off course he did.
The second line is a bit fainter than the other but it is definately there, so ive made an appt for a blood test at 10 this morning, which is why im a bit rushed.
Im kind of in lala land now, dont really know what to do or think, but am on cloud 9.
Hopefully this is the month for alot more of us and we can have the best xmas present ever.
Talk soon

Thanks Tanya. At first I thought it was implantation too, cos it was just little spots. But now it is waaay too heavy and pretty chunky, so I have written it off and had a little cry and now I'm moping around my office pretending to be efficient.

CONGRATULATIONS eliselouise85
:happyforyou:

EliseLouise - OMG!!! :leap:
I am so pleased for you sweetie. What a Christmas present!

Tanya - Hang in there girl. Each day gets a little better and a bit more optimistic. I am 8 weeks now but still holding my breath.

SnugglyBean - I had one of those back in January. It's tough to get your hopes raised at any time, even briefly. Next one will be a keeper.

eliselouise-what wonderful news to read,congratulations !!!!

Congratulations EliseLouise

What awesome news to start the week with!
:dance: :leap: :dance:

eliselouise, I just knew you were up this month, I just had a feeling all along. Congratulations - you must be thrilled!

eliselouise!! YAY!! Congrats :D

I know that I said my Christmas goodbyes yesterday however I HAD to post.

I am so sorry snugglybean, I hope you get some well deserved rest and relaxation in Japan.

Eliselouise OMG I am so pleased for you. Good luck for the blood test and a million congratulations :dance::happyforyou::dance:

Eliselouise - BIG BIG CONGRATULATIONS....what a wonderful and exciting news:D:D:D:D
i am so happy for you....

Tanya - Congrats to you too for your BFP. Hows health and everything. did you booked your appointment with Doc?

Snugglybean - Huge hugs to you dear. i am thinking of you

Murraycod, Craftymummy, Ferrals - how are you ladies?

i am sorry i am not posting lately, i am just in my own world...but there is one positive and good news from me - my cycles are finally on track (28 days ). AF showed herself on Saturday, so no BFP to celebrate, but yet regularity of cycle is.

Hope we all have a good 2010 start and lots of BFP.

Ric, I am not seeing a dr... infact I am not seeing anyone until later.... Don't want the added stress... just taking it easy and seeing how things play out.

xx

Hi Ladies !

Just popping in to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a safe and prosperous New Year !!!!

I still lurk on and off to see how you are all going.

Congrats to Tanya and EliseLouise xoxoxo I will be keeping an eye on you both :)

SnugglyBuggly - I am sooo sorry to read your news - please know i am thinking of you and hoping like crazy that you have a little surprise package to bring home with you from Japan - have a fantastic time !! xoxoxo

Ferals - Enjoy ! Best of luck - i hope everything goes really well for you - congratulations on your upcoming wedding. xoxoxo

Hi to Everyone else xoxo

Take care
xoxo

afternoon all, Snugglebean-sorry...ferrals-good luck with the b'ding fest,save some energy to say 'i do'...tanya-keep occupied & keep positive,think of all the paml success stories out there...ric-sorry af turned up ,good that cyles are regular ,when she's late for no good reason it just add insult to injury....

Eliselouise- congratz that is wonderful news just before xmas after all these months trying i hope you and tanya are the start of many more BFP's to come.

Thankyou to everyone for their congratulations, still cant believe it but i suppose id better start getting used to it.
Went to the docs this morning and they done a urine test and it took ages for the second line to show up and i started to get really worried that it wouldnt, but it did, just very faint.
Had a BHCG done also and should have the results back tomoro.
Thankyou SO SO SO much to all the lovely ladies in here, you have all really helped me through the roughest of times. I really hope that you can all get your BFPs soon too.
Ill still be lurking and waiting to hear all the great news when it comes along and will definately be keeping an eye on Ferals, Snuggly, coco ( & cherished if your still lurking) coz you girls have been there right from the start with me and you guys deserve to mothers more than anything in the world.
Anyway bye for now and ill keep popping in to let you know how things are going (and for you's to stop my stressing and obsessing :lol: )

Congrats Eliselouise! That is awesome news!! Great to see some good news.

Just wanted to say hi to you all and to give you all my best wishes over the festive season. Hope you all have a nice and safe time with your family and friends, and hope the new year brings with it lots and lots of bubbas.

All is well here, 16.5wks but the nervousness never completely eases....getting there.

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!

oh and Ferrals - congrats on the wedding. Hope your special day is all you imagine it to be plus more.

Eliselouise85
OMG wow Im so thrilled for you :clap:
So tell me what day are you as I am day 25 of 28 day cycle and am trying to hold out until the 19th to test as I am so scared of 1 line again !

:stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:

:happyforyou:

Snuggly I am so sorry your faint line didn't stick maybe try again just to make sure in a few days ! Thats exactly why I hate to test before day 29 I hate having a faint line then AF turns up its better if you never knew ! if you know what I mean,
Have a good trip in Japan next year babe its your turn !

will pop back later !