Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss -February 2009

Em - dont ever feel like we want you to stop "going on" about it.. it is a really important part of healing. I have found talking to people.. online and in real life.. very healing. Even people who don't know about or have never had a m/c... sounds stupid but educating them a little about it all has somehow made me feel good... like if, god forbid, they ever have to go through it then they will know that it is ok to talk about and share your grief.
When I had my first i had never met ANYONE who had had a m/c... then when I had my 2nd it was very similar.. but as you talk to people out and about they will say "oh yeah, I had one of those" or "my sister had one of them" or "my mum had a few of those" - for some reason it seems taboo to talk about at the time ?????????
but anyway, i am getting side tracked with what i wanted to say... here you have a wonderful group of people who know exactly what you mean and who will not judge you or ever wish you to stop discussing.. so please continue - i know how much it can help :)

oh, also it took 5wks to the day for my af to return.. when I had it done the doc said between 4 to 8wks.. i was so scared it was going to be 8 :wall: but was lucky to only have 5, which ended up being my normal cycle after that.

an in terms of testing.. they told me there were going to test the "products of conception" but i didn't ever find out the results.... makes me wonder though. I may have to ask at my next appointment. I think it is fairly normal practice.

I know exactly what you mean about it all seeming like a bad dream.. some days I just stop and think ... am I or aren't I.. was I ever??? it all just seems so unreal at times - that one can be pregnant and expecting and planning for a little one and then you end up standing there with nothing :( and wondering what the hell happened. I hope it gets better too! for all of us!

Hannah, Jen and Shortcake.. thanks so much for the well wishes. I am still having spotting on and off - daily but not full on spotting all day iykwim. I guess I am still holding onto that tiny bit of hope but we will have to wait and see. 12dpo tomorrow and at this stage I am having no desire to test.. i am hoping to make it to Sunday/Monday if no AF arrives.


Babymiracles - woohoo and congratulations. :hooray:

Hey Ladies!!!

Babymiracles: :dance: you enjoy every sec of it hun!!!!!! :clap: for heartbeat

I just got back from midwife, all ok. she had trouble figuring out what was bubs bum and head tho, but we got there evenutally, head is still up top. Have to go back in 3 weeks to sort out the birthplan.

Am having mega mega trouble sleeping at the moment, i look like a walking zombie. Luckily my boss is allowing me to work from home 2 days a week, so i can sneak off and have little power naps. Hopefully that should help.

Thats about it from me.

Hope all you other ladies are doing fabulously!!! :grouphug:

Babymiracles - Woo hoo - how fantastic! :happyforyou:

Boble - It may have been too early to test :noaf:

Abbey - Sending some :noaf: vibes your way as well.

Jen - That is not weird at all. I completely know what you mean about wanting answers (everyone here would be wanting the same). When the Dr told me I started to cry with just such relief. I remember saying to the nurse that he must think I am weird for wanting something to be wrong! I know I was very lucky though as I got some answers but my problems weren't serious and were able to be fixed. Hopefully it works! I have my :crossfingers: for you!

AFM - Well the nurse checked my wounds today and although I am still quite swollen and a bit bruised she said it is healing nicely and we are good to go! DH will be happy :lol: I haven't really been keeping track of my cycle the last couple of months but I think I am coming up to O time in the next couple of days.

Soooo.....am going to ask :tmi: question! I have read so many articles on how often you should :bd: during o, every 2nd or 3rd night or morning and night for 5 or 6 days! What do you girls think? Any advice from our recently pg friends?

Big :hello: to everyone else!

jen - Thanks so much. And I know what you mean about wanting answers. I hope you find them. :hug:

abbey - I hope you get your BFP in a couple of weeks. :bluedust: :noaf:

boble - Still sending loads of anti-AF vibes your way with lots of :pink-babydust: :stickyvibesboy:

fifi - Sorry you're having trouble sleeping. Sounds like you have a supportive boss to let you work from home sometimes. :bellyrubs:

Mel - Glad you're healing nicely. Sorry if :tmi: coming up. Most of what I've read says every other day is fine. Partly because daily may affect sperm quality. The other thing that I came across recently is that it is better for a guy to ejaculate on a regular basis. I guess the :sperm: think they're not needed and get lazy or something. HTH. I'm glad you brought this up actually, as I'm interested in what others think.

AFM - Just focusing on getting through the next two days and then I have 2 weeks off from work. Then I will get to my homework (jen, you can hold me to that).

Hi girls, I have been looking for somewhere to post and this seems like the page to do it! I have such a confusing story and situatin. On the 22nd Dec last year I miscarried at about 5 weeks. They think that my hcg levels were evidence of an eptopic and the pregnancy just wasnt viable. I also had a big cyst on my right ovary. When I miscarried, a scan showed everything did what it was meant to and the cyst dissolved. I still have not gotten a period, so I am just over 7 weeks down the track. I didnt have a d&c and because I was so early with my loss, I thought my cycles would return to normal. This has posed the question, am I pregnant again? I have sore breasts, bad period like cramp and am exhausted come lunch time every day. So far stick tests have been negative and a blood test come up negative. My doctor seems to think I have polycistic ovaries, which I dont believe considering I have conceived three times so easily! I am having a scan on Friday to check. She is now talking putting me on the pill and ovulation medication. I am worried as I feel pregnant. I dont know what to do. We just want another baby and its turned into such a drama. Never have I just wanted my period to come or my stick to have that extra line ...I just want answers! I feel like I am obsessing. Any words of advice?

babymiracles--:hooray: I couldn't wait to log on this morning to hear about your scan! :leap: I'm so happy for you--what a great early b-day gift! Well done! Now relax and enjoy!



Abbey--Fingers crossed you caught that eggie!



boble--Sending lots of :noaf: vibes your way!



fifi--Sorry to hear you're having trouble sleeping! Happy for you that you get to work a few days from home--take advantage of the time and get some extra rest! :hug:



Mel--They say as long as there's nothing wrong with the :sperm: you can BD every day if you want to! I tend to think the more the merrier... just that many more chances of success! Otherwise, they say every other day should suffice, since the spermies are still alive and kickin' in there waiting for that egg to come! Glad to hear your healing nicely.... bring on the :bd:



Hannah--Ok, you've got a 2 day reprieve on your homework! But after that, you better get busy, missy! Enjoy your 2 weeks off--I'm completely jealous! But don't think for a minute that I'm going to let you forget about that assignment! :hug:



kazaraz--I'm so sorry for the loss of your little angel! :comfort: 7 weeks seems like a long time to wait for AF, especially if you didn't have a D&C.... were your HCG levels checked to make sure they've come down? Wishing you the best of luck for your scan on Friday! I pray you get the answers you're seeking!

plc--Thanks for the great pics! :hug: I love the one of you and April! Glad we had a chance to catch up last night--thanks for the chat, I've been having plc-withdrawals! :o guffaw.... chortle.... chuckle (anything but lol!)



Toccara--Thinking about you! :hug:



Big :hug: for AJC & Samuel!



mollycat--It's been a few days... missing you and thinking of you! :hug:



smi--Hey, stop being a stranger! Big *hugs* and :bellyrubs:



Krystie--Super duper :hug: for you and little Chyan!! Not long to go now!



Me--Today's supposed to be O day.... don't think I'm feeling it yet, tho. Going to keep those BD shoes on and :bd: like crazy just in case!

Hey Gurlies...

babymiracles...so happy for you!

jen...I have been a stranger...sorry...I'm just not myself these days...as happy as I am to finally be pregnant...I am also a bit depressed...not due to the pregnancy...just life in general is not what I'd hoped...

Hi to all my ladies...not even gonna try with naming names...be good!

:bluedust::pink-babydust:
:stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

Jen - I'm here hun, always lurking - rarely posting now. Missing you too. (But hey - it's almost Friday) Not sure if I'll catch you this weekend - heading off wedding shopping with my SIL- to-be on Saturday morning. :ttc: (there's a sign for your front door - or attach it to DF's parachute)

Babymiracles - good news with your scan - Enjoy the rest of your pg. won't be long now cause it will just go so fast and that little bub will be in your arms.

Fifi - I hope you get the sleep problem sorted soon. Perhaps it's just bub giving you lessons in staying awake for those night feeds, I remember PLC had the same thing (could have been around the same time).

Smi - :hello: thanks for your emails - love them. Hope everything works out for you. xoxox


Special :pink-babydust::bluedust::stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgir l::bellyrubs: for everyone in this thread.

smi--Sounds like you could use a really big :hug: Hope things get better and life becomes a little easier for you... miss hearing your smile in your posts! Chin up! :)

babymiracles - I'm so very happy to hear your scan went well! :hooray: (love that emoticon LOL) I hope the spotting has stopped and that you can relax a little now. Jen is right, what a great early b'day pressie, now I'm hoping for a nice one next Mon when I go to see the ob ;)

smi - :hug: you sound a bit down, hope things pick up for you soon!

Jen - What are you doing on here?? Go get busy girl LOL Hope that cold has gone away for you!

mollycat - Hi there, good to see you :)

kazaraz - Hi and welcome! 7 weeks sounds like an awfully long time to wait for AF to me too, I had a D&C and still only waited 6. I would definitely be getting HCG levels checked before going on any meds, at the very least to set your mind at rest. I had no problems conceiving the first time around either, so certainly it is possible to have problems subsequently, but hoping that is not the case for you. Good luck on Fri, hope you find some answers.

HannahD - Yay for time off work! Hope you have a great time - have you organised that day at the spa yet?

Mel - Glad to hear you are healing nicely and yay for being good to go again! As far as BDing frequency goes, can't really help you out with what we did this time around LOL, but DD was conceived naturally (and easily, but that's another story) and we BDed every night for about a week. I'm guessing a bit here because I never kept track and its 5 years ago now LOL but we started about day 10 or so. HTH and good luck!

fifi - Glad to hear things are going well! Hope the sleeping improves for you soon, it won't get any better when the baby arrives so take what you can get now!

boble and mrzbaby - :hug:

Abbey B - Good luck for this month!

Shortcake - Thanks for the get well wishes :) Am finally feeling a bit better today yay!

Hi to anyone else that I have missed :grouphug:

AFM - Not going too bad now this cold has gone away, haven't been around too much over the last few days because I was feeling so cr@ppy. Anyway, my MS seems to have finally gone away too this week (or maybe I just didn't notice it because of the cold LOL) because I haven't felt sick since Sunday just gone now. Have my next ob appt on Mon though, so am starting to stress out a little, will be glad when it is over and just :pray: everything is OK.

megsmum - i think 7 weeks is a long time 2 wait as well ... when i had my bloods done after the miscarriage my hcg had dropped to 6 and then when i had it taken last sunday she said there was no evidence of pregnancy, but also didnt tell me what the reading was. maybe if i rang they could tell me?

when i read all of your posts, i see no one is having an easy time of it. its hard not to let it consume your life and i feel a bit like this is the stage i am at. trying to look at the positives in my life, but since losing the baby in dec i just think its makes me want another even more.

thanks for your thoughts girls x

kazaraz - Definitely give them a ring, there is no reason why they should not tell you - it is your body after all! Maybe it might be worth asking for a repeat test when you have your scan on Fri?

Are you seeing an FS at all? This is just my personal opinion based on my experiences, but I think that an FS is the best person to diagnose polycystic ovaries or ovulation problems and also to prescribe ovulation induction. They will also track your cycle - I have done both monitored and unmonitored OI cycles, and really do believe that monitoring (BT and scans) is the way to go so you know exactly what is going on in there and also so you can time BDing too. The other thing that an FS can do is have your natural cycle tracked so they can work out for sure that you need ovulation induction - if all you have is a CD21 prog the result can be influenced by early or late ovulation and can make you think that you are not ovulating when in fact you are KWIM?

You are so right about it consuming your life though, it is difficult not to let it and especially so I think when you have had a loss. I don't necessarily think that is is wrong to feel this way, m/c is such a traumatic event to go through and it has all kinds of effects on your life in so many ways :hug: Take care of yourself is probably the best advice I can offer.

Anyway, hope all of this helps a bit - feel free to ignore any bits that don't! :D

No its all helpful Meg, I think my main problem is all of the abbreviations! I dont know what people are talking about half the time. Haha, I need a cheat sheet!

Oops sorry :redface:

There is a thread here somewhere listing all the abbreviations, sorry don't know where, maybe one of the other girls can point you to it?

FS - fertility specialist
BT - blood test
CD21 prog - day 21 progesterone
KWIM - know what I mean
OI - ovulation induction
BD - baby dance, getting jiggy with it, making love etc, etc

That should cover all the abbreviations in my last post ;)

Thanks heaps ... I will get there! I only just found out what UTD means? Talk about behind the times!

kazaraz - I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug: I agree that 7 weeks seems a long time to wait for AF since you didn't have a D&C. I don't really have any advice to offer and I think megsmum has pretty much covered it. Goodluck with your scan on Friday. I hope you get some answers. Oh and there is a thread on common forum jargon in forum help. Here's the link:
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-acronyms.html

jen - Goodluck for the upcoming BD marathon. I'm :pray: you catch that egg. This month just has to be your month. :pink-babydust:

smi - Sorry you've been feeling down. Sending a big :hug: your way. Take care of yourself.

mollycat - :hello: stranger! Have fun wedding shopping this weekend.

megsmum - Glad you're feeling better. I can't wait to hear all the good news after your scan on Monday. :goodluck:

Big hello and :grouphug: to all the other ladies.

HannahD - Hope you are feeling good and have a great two weeks off. You deserve it. Make sure you get some of that pampering done!

Megsmum - Glad to hear you are over the cold and the m/s. Good luck with your OB appt & scan on Monday.

Kazaraz - :welcome: - I don't think we have met, but be assured you will find the best people on this forum who totally understand what you are going through. I am not sure about the length of time AF returned, everyone seems to have a different answer, I had a D & C and mine returned after about three weeks.

Boble - GL with testing on the weekend. Hope you get that BFP.

Babymiracles - I am so happy the scan went well. :clap: I hope this pregnancy goes smoothly for you.

Jen - Hope you caught the egg.

Mel - Glad that you are feeling better and are ready to start afresh with the TTC journey. Hope it is a short journey for you and you get your BFP soon!

Fifi - Hope you can get a good nights sleep soon.

Abbey - We haven't met yet so hi. GL this month ;)

To all the girls I have missed - :bluedust: & :stickyvibesgirl:

AFM - Wish me luck girls, still no sign of AF and tested again yesterday morning and got two lines again with the second line darker than Monday's. Will test again tomorrow to, but I am pretty sure we have got ourselves a BFP. I am am feeling calm and happy but also want to take things day by day this time. I am happy but anxious too.

HannahD - I forgot to mention in my last post that I was so sad to read you didn't like yourself very much :( From where I am sitting there doesn't seem much not to like. Here you are going through a tough time, suffering depression and you are on this thread everyday supporting all of us. Only a fantastic, caring person would do that. :hug: I do know what you mean though, sometimes you can get so caught up in trying to make everyone else happy you can forget about yourself. You do deserve to pamper yourself, sounds like you have a great DH who looks after you. Have a wonderful break from work and remember to take time out for you :hug:

Polly - Oooh, how wonderful! Wishing you all the luck in the world! Good luck for testing tomorrow but it sounds like a BFP to me! :D

Kazaraz - Sorry for your loss. I can't help with how long it takes for the return of AF as I didn't have a D&C but it looks like you are getting some great advice from the girls here. I hope AF returns soon so you can start TTC again. Goodluck!

Megsmum - Thanks for the advice :) Glad your m/s is over, good luck for your ob apt on Monday, I'm sure everything will be fine. :stickyvibesgirl:

Mollycat - Hi! Have fun shopping!

Smi - Sorry to hear you are feeling down. Hope you start to cheer up soon :)

Jen - Thanks for the info - looks like we are cycle buddies! Have fun ;)

today I am having a bad day. An old work colleague told me a couple of weeks ago that she was preg... 12 weeks at the time - and oddly enough it seems we would have been due smack bang together. anyway, this is itself has upset me and I have tried so hard not to let it get to me because i don't want to be that person iykwim... but over the last couple of days it has been playing on my mind.. they weren't even ttc.. they are/were planning on getting married in Oct this year.. and it just isn't "fair"... other friends who are preg I could justify - they had been ttc for 12 months each so they totally deserved it. but this one, just... I feel like i deserved it more then her (oh my god, I can't believe I just admitted to that! Its so hard to put out there that it is how I am feeling :redface: ) and now - omg, even more so! she has just posted up on facebook in her status update "is starting to get a baby belly :( " something to be sad about???? what is wrong with her! Its ALL I want.. i WANT to be preg.. I WANT to make it to the point where I am getting a baby belly... I WANT to carry a baby to full term and have it be happy and healthy... I WANT WANT WANT a baby sooo soooo bad and she seems to only have bad things to say about the whole thing. even when she told me about it she made it sound like a bad thing.. nothing about being happy or over the moon or anything like that.. just "its scary"

i so sorry to rant.. I just needed to get it out. No personals tonight as I don't think I can offer any sort of good advice :(

Polly - Sounds like a BFP to me too! Goodluck tomorrow anyway. I'm :pray: its a sticky one. :stickyvibesboy:

Mel - Aww...thanks so much for your kind words. I'm following jen's example in trying to help other people if I can. Even though I find it hard to do nice things for myself, I still feel like my depression is making me very selfish. Maybe if I stop being selfish, there will be something to like about me and then I'll be able to take care of myself. Does that make sense? By the way, get ready for truck loads of :pink-babydust: :bluedust: coming your way. I hope you catch that eggie!

boble - Big huge :comfort: coming your way. I'm sorry your friend seems so unaware of this great event in her life. I'm sure she will realise it one day. Once she looks into her baby's eyes for the first time, I'm sure she will wonder that she was ever less than happy about it. We're the unfortunate, but also fortunate in a way, who know how special and fragile is the life that can grow inside us. For some people, its only when they struggle to get what they want or have it taken away that they realise how much they want it.

In the meantime, if you find it hard to deal with your friend, maybe you should have a quiet word to her about how you feel. I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. We are all here whenever you need to vent or cry or scream.

mollycat--Will miss you in chat if you don't make it Fri. night, but I'll try to catch you earlier in the day so I don't miss you so much! Hope you have fun shopping for the wedding with your SIL-to-be! Wow, I just did the conversion on your weight loss.... around 27 lbs!!! That's freakin' fantastic! :clap: Well done, it's NOT easy!



megsmum--Your b-day pressie is going to be just as great on Monday! Hope you're going to do something fun (other than your appt!) for your day, my fellow fishie friend! :hug: Glad to hear you're feeling better, and I hope the m/s stays away for good!



kazaraz--Good luck with your scan today! Hey, good for you... it took me months to figure out what UTD meant!! My fist thought was "unable to decide", but it just didn't fit in with the conversations that way! :rofl:



Polly--Congrats again on your BFP!! :stickyvibesgirl:



Mel--Hey--Woo Hoo for being cycle buds! :hooray:



boble--Big :hug: Though it hasn't waned much, I suppose it has somewhat since it's been almost a year now, but I so remember that desire... almost like a hunger... to be pg again. It's very common to feel what you're feeling--don't feel bad for putting words to your thoughts.... we've all been there.



Hannah--Oh, honey, Mel's right... there's nothing selfish about you from where I sit! You're here everyday, encouraging and supporting everyone else--and you've always been--you didn't learn it from me! :hug: You just need to see yourself the way other people see you--you're smart, strong, supportive, caring, compassionate, empathetic--all the important things that matter, you ARE!!! Don't ever forget it! I'll be here everyday to remind you! Don't make me post in all CAPS to get it thru to you! :nahnah:

Its a :bfp: - I am so happy and can finally start to believe it today.

Thanks for all your support you lovely ladies.

I won't be going anywhere, hoping that there is plenty more this month.

Polly :D

jen - :rofl: You sound like my DH. Thanks though. It means a lot.

Polly - :happyforyou: Congratulations honey. Wishing you a H&H 9 months. :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl: And you better not go anywhere. I want updates. lol

Polly-- :hooray: Huge Congrats on your confirmed BFP! :cheer: I'm so happy for you, and wish you a sticky 9 mo's!! :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy:



:hello: Hannah!! I like the way your DH thinks!! I'm glad you have him--now you just have to listen to him!!! :hug:

:loveshower:CONGRATULATIONS POLLY:loveshower:

Thats such wonderful news and hopefully your good luck will rub off on a few others in here ;) Sending you lots of love and :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy:

kazaraz - I know that after a m/c it can take your body quite some time to get back into the swing of things but 7 weeks is a fair amount of time. Seeing that the HCG wasn't rising I would be inclined to go with what the Dr said. It could be that the twins are sore because you are due for AF. If you think you are infact UTD again then seek the advice of a different Dr and get some other bloods done a week or so can make all the difference to the outcome. ;)


AFM - I think as women we can get so swept up in TTC that it can easily take control of our lives. I am trying to let it go and just get on with living rather than obsessing over O tests, when I DTD, how many DPO I am. I still want a baby but clearly for me this is not the right time so I am focussing on other things and IF I fall pregnant in the mean time .... then I will become all obessed again :lol::lol: :ROFL:

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind if I join you all. We are ttc our second child and aren't travelling too well atm. Has a miscarriage Dec 08 and I am still spotting. I'll give you the run down....

My cycles are all over the shop ranging from 30 days to 74 days (go figure) and is unexplained. I aparently produce too much oestrogen (not sure if that is true)...

So, we decided to get serious about ttc again Oct 08, and were dtd when I had O signs (ie: EWCM). In Nov I started POAS since 1 week after my af would have been due if I was on 28 day cycle (ie: 35 days), no af.... kept testing until about 55 days when a very feint + come up. I knew in my heart that this little one wasn't going to stick, but still called OBS to make an appointment, scheduled for 20 Jan 09. Not long after BFP I started, not spotting but when I wiped or looked in my knickers (sorry if tmi) it was brown mucky stuff (like then end of af), i knew it was a m/c.... :( anyway cancelled OBS appointment and decided that it wasn't obviously meant to be and ttc next month. Anyway still 'spotting' on & off until my mum virtually begged me to got to the gp in case I needed a D&C. So she sends me off to get bloods done & ultrasound. Got bloods done on the Fri and AF shows up on the Sunday, so I don't bother to get us done. Dr calls with bloods results saying I have HCG levels of 3,000! wt? Go get us and it shows NOTHING.... I am confused. Sonographer suggests I go back to Dr & get HCG levels retested in about 1 week to make sure they are dropping. Also suggests may have been an ectopic since there is nothing showing in uterus. Am ok with this but then on the Wed night I end up in the emergency dept. due to severe cramping only to be sent home and told to take buscopan & panadol.... was annoyed and feeling a bit raw & emotional but cramping had started to subside and no bleeding. End up going to the Naturopath to get some 'potions' to clean me out and try to regulate my cycles.... but alas I am still 'spotting'. On Wed went and got bloods done again and now are waiting to see what they come back with....... I am so confused about what is going on.
Sorry for the rant just needed to get it off my chest.
I see that there have been a few BFP - congratulations to all.....

Polly: CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here's to a h&h 40 weeks!!

Smi: Hope you're feeling a bit better hon. :hugs:

Jen: Officially in the tww (not that I'm chart stalking or anything :P)? Here's hoping it speeds to a bfp, darlin!! And I hope everything is going wonderfully for you!

AFM: Just over 7 weeks to go!!!! Charlie is growing really really nicely and making her presence known at every possible opportunity. DH says it's like watching "Alien" but in real life. Nice. I keep on telling her that if she wants to come a little bit early she's MORE than welcome! I remember getting funny about people who complained about being pg when I was ttc, now I totally understand what they were on about. I can't wait to meet Charlie and cuddle her and kiss her and be a good mum to her, but jeez I am terrible at this pregnancy thing. The m/s is more than I can handle, which I think is the main thing, so I'm not very good company. DH pointed out to me that I've pretty much been pg for 2 years now and that probably wouldn't help with the whole "feeling fed up" situation. I guess I'm just ansty to meet her. And I'm rambling. A lot. Sorry.

To all you girls (sorry to those who I haven't mentioned- my brain is official mush) I'm sending you big huge piles of cuddles and babydust!

Polly - CONGRATULATIONS!!!! on your BFP :happyforyou: wishing you happy and healthy 9 months.

:hello: and lots of :bluedust::stickyvibesgirl: for everyone.

Polly - congrats on your bfp.. I wish you an uneventful 9 months :dance:

Julia - sorry to hear about your m/c. Spotting is just the pits isn't it! I had 17 days or so of bleeding and then spotting and I have a stupid crazy cycle which has me spotting normally 7 days leading up to when AF comes.. so by the time af goes I have had some type of bleeding or spotting for around 12 days on average... very annoying.
I hope the blood tests come back with some answers for you and I really hope the spotting stops for you soon!

thanks to everyone for your hugs and kind words. I am still feeling down, despite trying not to... but hey, I will get over it and I will get there.. it may just take a bit. :rolleyes: we can't be 100% happy all the time so I just need to understand and remember that i will have some bad days as well as good days ;)

Polly: CONGRATULATIONS HUN AM SO PLEASED FOR YOU!!!!

tutmae: Cant believe how close together we are! but i know how your feeling lol, apart from i havent had the morning sickness! I'm so anxious to meet this little one, i feel like i could brst with excitment!!!!!!!

To all the new ladies, sorry it's taken me a while to say hi, but like tutmae, my brain has turned to mush.
I hope your stay here is a short ones and everyone gets the BFP's they deserve very soon!!!

:grouphug: to all!

A big :dance: for it being Friday!

Polly Congrats!!! I'm so happy for you hun. Here's to a h & h 9 months!

NaeNae--TTC can definitely take over and control our lives! Sometimes it's best to stand back and just enjoy and be grateful for the things in our lives that we DO have! :hug:



Julia--:welcome: I'm sorry that you've come to join us, but look forward to getting to know you during your TTC journey. It took a looooong 6 weeks for my hcg levels to get back down to normal... I remember thinking how cruel it was for my body to be tricking me, because I knew I had m/c, but I still had all the signs and symptoms of being pg! Part of me wanted to think that the u/s had been wrong... .the dr was wrong... I was still have all these signs... my boobs were still big and full, still hungry all the time... it was definitely a cruel trick my body was playing on me! Please just know that you're not alone... we're here to help you pick up the fragile pieces of your broken heart--it's a tough journey--but these amazing girls will comfort and support you to the end! :hug:



Baby mush brains--Oh! I mean tutmae-- :rofl: Hey stranger! OM freakin' G!!! Only 7 weeks left to go?!?! It hardly seems possible! So happy for you, and can't wait for you to get lots of snuggles with Charlie!

Wow, been a long time since someone has stalked my chart! Supposed to be in the TWW, but no sign of a temp drop or coverline yet! I thought I would at least get my coverline today--although I haven't gotten my usual bad O pains yet, I have had some other signs of O. Grrr... guess we'll see how tomorrow's temp goes, not much else I can do!



chappas & fifi--Hello, :hug: and big bellyrubs from me! Have a great weekend!



boble--You've definitely got your trooper boots on! You're amazingly strong, despite feeling down at the moment... it's truly inspiring! :hug:



smi & Shortcake--Happy Friday! :dance: Hope you girls have a great weekend! smi--thinking of you and hoping things are looking up! :hug:

Hi Girls,
Sorry have been just lurking as not well. Have mild OHSS, overstimulation from IVF drugs that makes you feel like you swallowed a watermelon. tummy fills up with fluid and is very uncomfortable. Looks like this cycle may be postponed. jsut found out that 12 fertilised out of 29. I think that is good?

Warm wishes to those pg, and with recent bfps, so nice to hear. Babydust to all of you!

Hi All,

I know I have been MIA over the past few weeks for which I apologise. All I have been doing is working and sleeping.......... I feel like a walking zombie but wouldn't have it any other way.

Congratulations to Polly and any other ladies I may have missed

Tut and Fificlaire..... cannot believe your big day is sooooo close. I'm a fwe days off 10 wks and things are going so slowly for me, s'pose I'm just anxious to get past the 12 wks. I would love to tell people around me as I think there onto me....... I have never had to lie so much in my life. Oh well not long now

See the doc again next Friday and he will do a mini U/S and then I have a formal is a few weeks.

I hope you are all doing well and that you will be blessed with a baby of you own very very soon.

Love always - Eash

Hi Ladies

Hope you are all keeping well. I have been awfully slack at keeping in touch but I don't want to upset anyone who is TTC. I know I wish you all the best and pray every day for your BFP's.

Jen805 - Thinking of you.

Polly - CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! That is awesome news! I am thrilled for you. xxxx

Boble - Take as much time as you need. Only you know how you feel and only you can decide what is best for you. Look after yourself.

Tutamae - Good luck!!! You will have your precious Charlie in your arms soon.

Julia - Welcome. Sorry for your loss. This is a wonderful forum and the ladies here are amazing. You have found the best place to be for comfort, support and understanding.

Kazaraz - Welcome and good luck with your TTC journey. I hope it is short and all your dreams come true.

HannahD - You are amazing - never forget that! We all love you in here and you are so kind and understanding. You are very special and we all need you and love you.xxx

Our appointment on Wednesday went well. Everything is looking good so we are very happy.
Our scan yesterday was great! Our little Lamb is 28mm long and had a heart rate of 170bpm. The sonographer said we had a little wriggler. Our bub was moving and stretching all the time. It was so cute. It has a tiny head and little arm and leg stubs. So cute!!!

I hope you are all enjoying your weekend. Take care.

Theresa xx

hi everyone.

I did another hpt this morning and got a :bfn: and still no af yet either. I am not expecting a sneaky bfp though... I am fairly sure i am 14dpo today.. but maybe my body is changing since the last m/c? has anyone experienced that - where their cycles change after a m/c? I hope my body doesn't drag out the wait for AF if im not preg and it is inevitable - iykwim.
I am pretty sick of the spotting though - today is day 9 of the spotting i have been having - very very annoying!

I hope you are all well xx

Hi all,

Thanks so much for your support - I have felt like I have been travelling this m/c journey alone until now.

I am still trying to 'catch up' on where everyone is at, so apologies if I just 'sit' for a while....

af has arrived this morning. this was our first month trying again and I didn't think we would be so lucky to fall the first month, but was hopeful that it would all be easy this time around... oh well... onto the next month - looks like we are trying for a december baby now. So far my cramps have already started to kick in. I have taken some nurofen (because its all i had in the house.. naproxen is normally the thing that helps me through this first day) and hopefully it will help ease the cramps off so I can get back to enjoying my sunday.

hoping you all have bfp's just round the corner.. and lets make it a really short corner ;)