Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss -February 2009

:grouphug: to coco and ubba ... i hope life gets a little easier for you soon!

as for me ... still no af, i just worked out its been 8 weeks and 1 day! if its coming, i wish it would just come! i cant understand that it could take so long, when i miscarried so early and everything come away naturally and as it should. i have also had two positive stick readings, but along with that two negative stick readings (different brand) and 2 negative bloodtests. i just cant help feeling that i am pregnant! its happened 3 times before, surely i know my body. but how can a bloodtest lie?

hugs to all the other expectant mums and the mums ttc xx

hi ladies, just a quick 'me' post..

5 days til i can test and i'm still not postitive anything has happened.... again :( My BB's are kinda tender but nothing to ouchy. I've also had this tugging sensation on my cervix, like it is being pulled up into my uterus :redface: (Sorry tmi) anyone else had this kind of sensation?

I'm still :pray:ing that i get a BFP this month but im dont think i will. I wish that concieving was as easy as everything else seems to be, i feel like we've been trying to get pregnant forever... :(

megsmum--Hey, I just noticed your avi has a baby belly now!! :thumbsup: So cute--congrats!



babymiracles-- :happybirthday: to my fishy friend! :birthday2: Hope you have a great, stress-free, spot-free b-day!!!


Joselyn--We haven't met yet, but welcome! I'm so very sorry for your loss! :comfort: I so know what you mean about the flashbacks.... some days feel like I'm reliving the moment.... I always compared it to a slide show that seemed to be stuck on 'replay' going on inside my head, continually playing over and over again. I honestly have to say I'm not sure when that feeling completely went away, there's still days where it'll hit me even now, almost 1 year later.... but it does get better and less frequent.



kazaraz--I'm sorry your body has you so confused! :hug: I :pray: everything gets worked out soon, and you get the answers you're looking for!



Abbey--Sending you lots of :noaf: vibes!!



mollycat--Hey, I feel like we've been strangers lately! :hug: Miss you and always thinking of you!

plc - Big hugs for you and April!

Mel - Hope the cramps and back pain are easing. Love the ticker, BTW. Now I can keep track too.

Abbey B - Sending loads of :noaf: vibes your way. Fingers crossed that this is your month.

boble - Hope AF is taking it easy on you.

Julia - Don't feel mean at all if you find you can't be happy for pg friends. I just explain to people that I am happy for them, but I'm just more sad for me. And can completely understand that you don't want to endure well-meaning but insensitive comments. Feel free to talk about any of your feelings here. We get it. :hug:

chappas - Goodluck for your upcoming scan.

jen - Good on you for overriding FF to get your coverline. I peeked at your chart and, novice that I am (I will start temping if AF arrives next week), it makes sense to me. I'm praying you caught that egg. :bluedust: And I hope DS gets better soon.

Eliza - I'm so sorry for your loss and that you are having a hard time. If you need more time before returning to work, take it. Try to follow jen's advice and to allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. It took me a long time to do that and I don't think I could've begun to heal if I'd continued to ignore my feelings (mind you this healing is still ongoing). This time is all about you so you do whatever you need to. Big :comfort: to you.

megsmum - So glad you had a lovely b'day.

babymiracles - :happybirthday: I'm praying all is okay too. There is no shame in taking some extra reassurance.

erybery - Glad everything is going well. Yay for strong heartbeat. Thanks for keeping us posted.

mrzbaby - Sorry to hear about the retained products. I hope it gets sorted soon. Big :hug: for you and DH.

ubba - I'm so sorry for your loss :hug: I had a missed m/c last July. It was my first pregnancy, so I didn't know what to expect. Looking back, I now know my symptoms had started to subside but it wasn't until they had disappeared completely that I got checked out. Goodluck with your TTC journey. I hope it is short.

Joselyn - Thanks for sharing your story. I hope each day gets a little bit easier for you. I still have flashbacks too. I'll never forget the image of my little 'blob' motionless and with no heartbeat.

kazaraz - I don't really have any advice to offer. Just wanted to give you a big hug and :protest: that our bodies should betray us so. Sorry if you have already told us this, but have you had an ultrasound to confirm that the miscarriage was complete? I do hope you get some answers soon.

Hello to everyone else

AFM - Started to get another tension headache tonight so I think AF is on the way. At least it will give me a chance to get the hang of 'this whole charting thing'. This is cycle #6 since the m/c, so it's probably about time I started to learn more about my body.

Just popping in to show I'm still lurking.

Waiting, waiting, waiting, for all those BFP's - February has been a lot quieter then January, maybe March will be a busy month (with lots of Chrissie pressies).

:welcome: to all the newbies. You've found a great place to come, the girls in here will give so much support, especially during the first few months when everything is so raw. I spent a lot of time in here during 2008, but have slightly moved on. I'm still praying for a miracle, but not actively TTC (no more charting, no more fertility meds). I know without this group, my days would have been so much harder. It's wonderful to have someone to talk with who knows just how you are feeling.

:hello: to all my old friends.

Wishing you :pink-babydust::bluedust: and :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

Joselyn :hug: as you know I lost my precious daughter Nikita 8 days after she was born at 24w+1day in June 08. What you are feeling is perfectly normal and is part of the grieving process. I still get my heckles up when I see a preggy woman smoking (sorry to those who smoke) or when I hear a little bitty bub crying and its crys are being ignored. I work in tourism in an info centre so I understand how you feel when you see these things - particularly for the first time. The firsts are the hardest and in that respect you will find it gets easier to deal with the more you go on. With the flash backs - boy I don't think they ever stop. I still get them at the most inappropriate times. When I feel so lousy that I just want to crawl into a hole and disappear I get outside and do something, or rearrange a room or spend 25min on the treadmill (mentioned only coz you work in a gym) I find that by doing something invigorating it takes the mind off it or at the very least gets those endorphines happening in a good way. Even at 2 in the morning. I still break down into a crying fit but these lessen over time.

After this last early m/c (my second m/c) i have found that I am reliving what happened with Niki a whole lot more and I swear that by getting active even when I really don't want to, is the best medicine - particularly because I have not shifted any of my pregnancy weight gain and I hate the sight of my body now with the horrible caesarean scar.


For everyone else, there is no right or wrong with greiving take the time you need your firsts following an loss are always the hardest the darkness does lift, the heaviness and the ache in your heart may remain but you will find yourself dealing with this and moving around these feelings, you all have that strength inside you :hug:

Just dropping by to say :happybirthday: babymiracles! Hope you have a lovely day my fishy friend, and of course also that that darned spotting has left you by now.

Jen - Yep I though that it was about time I updated the avi :) Not too bad hey? ;)

:hello: everyone else, hope you are having a great day!

Thanks so much Jen, Megsmum and Hannah for the birthday wishes. :hug: Day job is finished for week (work that M to W) so having a relaxing day and mum is going to come and have lunch with me. Then have to work for a couple of hours tonight before going out for birthday dinner. No more spotting since monday and booked in for quick scan tomorrow. Feeling rather sick this week - especially in the evenings!! Also feeling a bit anxious - might need to have a short break from belly belly cos sometimes reading posts where things have gone wrong are adding to my stress IYKWIM. No doubt I won't be able to keep away for long though

Much love and best wishes to everyone visiting this site. I :pray: your stay here is short and that there are lots more BFPs very soon :grouphug:

Kaz - My goodness, I have no advice why things are not 'as they should be'. I agree, thinking that a bt would be the more accurate, however it is all so strange. I hope you get a bfp, then that would settle it!

Abbey - Big hugs. It is hard to stay positive when all the signs are pointing in the wrong direction, however I think this is also our way of protecting ourselves so if it isn't the news we want, then it will make it easier. I guess we also have to remember that all pgs are different... I hope you get your bfp.

Hannah - I hope af skips town for you, but you can see a silver lining to her return, which is great. I have no idea about charting, so can't offer any tips in that department.

Mollycat - Nice to meet you and thanks for popping in. I've just spotted your ticker - 12.1 kgs loss - that is fantastic!

Naenae - thankyou for your lovely words. I am starting to blubber...

Babymiracles - Rest,rest,rest! Glad the spotting has stopped and hope to see you soon.

To everyone else - hope all is well. I probably will pop back in later tonight or on the weekend as I am working this Friday.

AFM - Thanks to all for the continued support. It is great to be surrounded by people who do get it and aren't just nodding their head in sympathy or otherwise. Not much happening here, we haven't been dtd much so I would think af will be visiting shortly. It is 28 days on Saturday since last af. although my cycles are all over the shop. Plus we have my sil & her partner staying over on the weekend, so I don't think there will be much action until next month.

Love to all
xx

Hi ladies,

I have been guilty of lurking the past week, so sorry I have not popped in until now. I just would like to thank-you all for the wonderful support during our TTC journey.

I have made an appt with my OB but unfortunately I cannot get in until April 2nd which is five weeks away!! That will make me 10 weeks which is around the same time as our last loss (we lost our baby at 11 weeks but it died between 9-10 weeks - missed m/c).
I am doing really well and am trying not to worry about the past and have really been trying to love the little one inside me (although its hard as I think we all try and protect ourselves by not becoming attached in case something goes wrong again). It is certainly different this time, I am not thinking too far ahead but at the same time want this baby to know how loved and wanted it truly is. DH is really happy but trying to keep a lid on things!

The OB rang me today to discuss a few things and although he is completely booked until April advised me if I had any worries and I wanted to pop in for a quick scan for reassurance, he said just to ring and he will squeeze me in. Its nice to know I have that option. Although I have told DH that really even if we have an appointment any earlier it makes no difference to things - if something bad was to happen, it will happen anyway regardless of when we get to see Dr. I don't want to see another Dr anyhow as he has been wonderful.

I haven't had any symptoms yet, although, I am hungry all the time which is exactly how I was last time. I still hope to pop in from time to time if you girls don't mind, I have found this a very understanding place, one I don't know what I would have done without. :D

To HannahD & Abbey - GL with testing this month. Hope you guys can be belly buddies with me.

Coco,Eliza, Ubba Joselyn, Julia - :hello: - I am so sorry for your recent losses, you will find ladies here who truly understand what you are going through and much comfort.

Mollycat - good to hear from you :)

Babymiracles - Glad to hear that you are going OK now. Wishing you a H&H pg.

Mrzbaby - so sorry you have gone through such a hard time. Look after yourself.

Theresa - Have been following your progress - 11 weeks, how time flies. I hope it is the same for me!;)

Hi to Mel & Jen and all the other lovely ladies I have missed.

Polly
xx

Hi everyone. and welcome to all the new ladies - so sorry you have to join us, but as the others have said you are really in the best place here! the care and support is amazing!

just a quick one again from me with no personals (moving is taking much of my time atm).

we got our test results back... all normal. so.... she just said hopefully all will be ok next time. I am in two minds.. if we knew what was wrong at least we could do something.. you know, have a reason for it.. but its also good to know that all the main things have been ruled out.
The clinic told me that when we do fall pregnant again to let them know and they will have me come in for an early scan (and it won't cost anything either so that will be great!).. so.. i guess we just have to :pray: and hope for the best.. and hope for a speedy bfp.

i hope everyone is well.. and I am thinking of you all... good luck to everyone in the nasty 2ww and i hope it goes quickly for you and reveals 2 beautiful lines. :)

Good morning girls! :grouphug: Will be back after DS's surgery for persies. Poor guy is being so brave about it! I think I'm more anxious about it than he is! :o

Jen - Will be thinking of ds, sending lots of :hug: for you all.

Big :hello: to everyone else will be back for to do perises later

Jen - been meaning to wish you and DS well for his surgery. Poor little guy!! Hopefully he'll be on the up and up after it. Big hugs to you too!!

Jen - Wishing your DS all the best for his surgery. Hope all goes well and he recovers quickly. Sending you a big :hug: to get you through the day!

Hi Jen,
wishing your son the best for today and you too!!!

AFM - I went back into hosp Wed Night and had a Hysterscopy and unfortunately another D&C after that....But I am hoping this is now the end of that and that AF hurrys up yes I a begging for it to only take 4/5 weeks to return so that gives me another 2/3 wks wait .....PLEASE HURRY UP AF :pray: PLEASE HURRY UP!
Then hubby and I are clomidding and BD like no tommorrow well every second day to be exact!!! sorry for TMI :redface:

My only concern is scaring I really hope I don't get any and that we don't have to go down that road of surgery to have that removed but heres positive thinking I am determined to have a EDD of Jan,Feb March, April ok if I must .... May as well next year!!! lol



Take care all...
EM

chappas, plc, & Mel--Thanks so much girls! :grouphug: DS home safe and sound.... he's such a brave boy, not a single tear... tho I can't say the same for me! :lol: I made sure I waited 'til they took him back before I let it show! They took out his adenoids, as well as his tonsils, and his dr. said that his tonsils were all red and infected again already.... so if he didn't have his tonsils removed, he'd more than likely have strep throat again right now! Poor guy... but he's a super trooper, and is busily licking away on a popsicle as I'm posting! Thanks again for you thoughts!



Will still have to finish persies later... now I have to figure out what we're having for dinner! :o

Thanks, mrzbaby, we must have been posting at the same time! :hug: Sending lots of AF vibes your way!

Jen - I'm so glad DS is okay and that his surgery went smoothly. :pray: for a speedy recovery.

Oh Jen, I'm so glad to hear DS's surgery went OK, what a brave boy he sounds like! I hope this is the end of all his throat problems too, he's had heaps of them hasn't he? :hug: I would feel the same as you if it were DD

mrzbaby - So sorry to hear you were back in hospy :( Hope everything is all OK now and sending you heaps of AF vibes then of course no AF vibes!

Polly - Hang in there, it is so hard in between ob visits and of course before your first one. 5 weeks is a long time (well it seems like it to me!) so I'd be taking your ob up on that offer of a quick scan if you need, do whatever you need to cope :hug:

:hello: everyone else, hope you are all having a nice day and have a lovely weekend!

Jen: Glad DS surgery went okay - the poor little thing but sounds like a very brave young man.

Just a quick me post : I have been a nervous wreck for two days - wish I could just be more zen! Anyway just had scan and all is going beautifully - wonderful heart beat still and a quick measure showed 8 weeks 5 days give or take a couple of days so that is all good. Have my official 10 week visit next friday so only another week to wait. Hoping I can now relax and enjoy again - and praying spotting stays away cos that just really worries me every time.

:grouphug: to everyone - hoping to see lots of BFPs in this thread very soon.

Babymiracles - Great to hear that the scan went well. I can't wait until mine. It must have been such a relief to see the little heart beating away! I keep dreaming of that day. :D

Megsmum - Thanks for the advice. I am coping relatively well and trying to keep my anxiety at bay. But you are right it is hard sometimes!!

Jen - Glad DS is recovering well.

babymiracles - :hooray: for a good scan!! Glad you went and had it done and hopefully you can relax at least for the weekend or so. GL for next Fri too :)

Jen - so glad it all went well. Kids can be so resilient can't they? It's usually us that falls apart! I hope you can still make your Dr's apt next week or at least reschedule to a date not too far away? :hug: and an extra one for DS :hug:

Babymiracles - I am so sorry, I just realised I didn't post Happy Birthday to you :redface: Hope you had a wonderful day and it's such great news about your scan. Do whatever you need to to ease your anxiety. :hug:

Be back later for more persies.....

I'm back but no-one else seems to be around! Hopefully it means you all have a more exciting social life than me ;)

Boble - I completely understand about wanting/needing answers. When I had the op a couple of weeks ago it was our last chance for answers. I think we had done every other test we could think of! You don't want anything serious to be really wrong with you but you also want answers to why it is so hard! By having the tests though (and the fact everything came back normal) hopefully it can ease some of your anxiety when you do get your BFP! Heaps of :pink-babydust: for this cycle.

plc - Hi! Big :hug: to April!

mrzbaby - I also had a hysterscopy when I had my lap and dye. I'm so sorry you have had to go through all of this but hopefully AF returns soon and you can start to TTC again. My specialist told me that sometimes a 'clean out' can also improve your chances so I truly hope you get your BFP soon. Sending AF vibes your way! :hug:

Megsmum - Wow, 17 weeks already - :hooray:

HannahD - How are you doing sweetie? :hug:

Polly - Glad to hear you are coping well (as well as you can anyway). Sending you some *stickyvibes* to carry you through to your scan. Oh, and of course you can still come and visit us in here!

Chappas - Hi, how are you feeling?

WTH - Hi, hope everything is going well *stickyvibes*

Mollycat - So glad you popped in, think about you lots and wish you the very best :hug:

Smi - Hope you are feeling better and things are looking up?

Hi to Abbey, kaz, coco, theresa, naenae, rhichichi (don't think we have met yet?) and all the other lovely ladies who may be lurking.

AFM - Well, a friend of mine told me she is pg today. I used to work with her and don't see her as much anymore but we email a lot and try to catch up when we can. Her and her DH are about to celebrate their 1st wedding anniversary. I am ashamed to admit that when she told me I felt like I had the wind knocked out of me which happens every time someone tells me they are pg. Will I ever get over this feeling of absolute envy? I feel like such a b*%@# as I am truly happy for them, I just wish it was us as well. She is only 10 weeks and is telling people and saying how her DH wants a boy, they are so innocent about the whole journey which is so nice, I would do anything to have that first pg 'innocence' back. Anyway they were not the cards we were dealt so we just have to keep trying and take each day as it comes. I don't mean to sound ungrateful as I know some couples have been through much worse than us. Just a bit down and negative at the moment!

Started to have cramps on the left side today and according to my charting days I usually o around CD17 so hopefully it is a good sign.

I am just so over waiting.......Waiting for AF to finish, then waiting to o, then the TWW, then waiting to see if AF arrives or if I get those 2 very much wished for lines!

I have never been a very patient person so some days I get so frustrated :wall:

Hannah--As much as I would love to have a new charting buddy, I'm :pray: you never have to get back into it! Hope your headache isn't a sign of impending AF, sending lots of :noaf: vibes your way! How's your relaxation CD working for you? You aren't skipping out on your new homework assignment, are you, missy?



mollycat--Sorry I missed our Fri. chat! :doh: Slept on the couch with DS all night so I could watch him overnight, and I slept terrible--I've come to realize how uncomfortable our couch is to sleep on! Anyhow, hope to catch up with you during the week, since I'll be stuck at home with DS! *hugs*



NaeNae--Just wanted to give you a big :hug:



babymiracles--Congrats on another great scan! :hooray: So relieved for you, my fishy friend! Hope this means you won't have to take a bb break, sure would miss you, but understand if that's what you need to do. Best of luck with your scan next week!



RhiChiChi--:welcome: I'm sorry for the loss which brings you to our humble little thread. I pray you find comfort and support here among us! You're in my thoughts and prayers!



Polly--Sorry to hear you have to wait 5 weeks for your scan! You sound amazingly calm and seem like you're coping fairly well. Sending you some extra sticky :stickyvibesgirl: to get you thru! How nice of your OB to offer a quickie scan in the event of needing some reassurance! Big *hugs* for you!



boble--Glad to hear your test results came back normal, but completely understand your feelings of frustration at not getting the answers that you're so desperately trying to find! *hugs*



mrzbaby--Sorry to hear you had to go back into the hospital on Wed. for the hysterscopy and another D&C! The end result will be worth all your effort! Praying for a quick recovery so you can get back to TTC! *hugs*



Mel--Woo-hoo for O!! Hope you've got your BD shoes on! :pink-babydust:

Sorry I am not here anymore ladies. Unfortunately, I have cancer and cannot have anymore children. :redface::crying: As soon as I am done with treatments and wallowing in my own self-pity, I will be back to support the rest of you. Love you all!

Ruthie

Ruthie - I just want to give you a big :hug: I am so sorry that you have had such devastating news. Is there anything that can be done for treatments that will help you? I am :pray: for you and please remember that you are in my prayers and thoughts. Hold close to the ones that you love around you. xoxox

:redface::crying::grouphug:

Ruthie - I am so sorry, I cant even imagine what you are going through. All the best for the fight ahead. xox

Oh Ruthie!
I wish there was more that I could do, but all I can say is that you're in my thoughts, sweetheart. :hug: Sometimes there just isn't any sense in why things happen! I hope that you have your friends and family around you. Remember we're all 'here' for you in spirit too.
Take care,
M

Hey all,

This is *Julia* posting. I just changed my user name as I know a lady from playgroup who is a bb member and she doesn't know about my m/c or that we are ttc. I just want to remain sort of annonymous....sorry for the confusion.

Polly - Try not to worry too much about not having symptons.... maybe you are having them but you just can't tell yet? - IYKWIM. I totally understand about feeling so nervous, particularly around the time of the m/c. I can't offer any words of advice, but big hugs and am thinking of you. Sounds like you are being looked after by a great OBS.

Boble - I guess it is sort of comforting to know there is nothing wrong, but at the same time if you knew, maybe there would be more control or give you answers??? Not sure if that is truly how you are feeling but I think of that from time to time. Great that they will let you come in for an early scan - it all helps with getting through such a trying time. So many emotions - happy that you're pg, scared of the worst....

Jen - Glad all went well with ds surgery!

mrzbaby - Hugs hun. So sorry to hear you went back to hospital. We will probably do the same as you and dh, that way I don't have to try to calculate when my body is o'ing...

Babymiracles - Fantastic news with the scan! What a great feeling seeing that hb. I hope the spotting buggers off too.

Mel - Totally understand how you are feeling, am being surrounded by pg friends and family atm or maybe it feels like that cos we are ttc? What you are feeling is no different than most of us. Yeah, we're happy for them but hey - what about us?! Sounds like you have heaps of positive signs this month, gl...

Ruthie - I am truly sorry. Your post floored me and I am crying now. Trying to type through the river of tears flowing... I don't know what to say.

Anyhoo - just a quick drop in... got a bit to do.

Have a great weekend all...
xx

Ruthie - I am so sorry to hear your devastating news :comfort:. My heart goes out to you. I am not sure what else to say, I can't even imagine what you must be feeling. Know that we are always here for you if you need to talk. This is not the end, you can fight this. I am :pray: for you and your family. :hug: :hug: :hug:

:cry: Oh, Ruthie.... I can't even find the words.... :( I'm so very sorry to hear of your devastating news. :comfort: I'm sure you're feeling very scared and alone, I :pray: you're getting support and the treatments that you need! Please, please keep us posted--and don't ever forget that we all love you and are here for you, whether you're TTC or not!!! You're like family, hon, remember that! Super big :hug: for you and your family. You're in my thoughts and prayers!

Ruthie - I don't know what to say...I am absolutely floored. You are in my thoughts and prayers more than ever. You will always be welcome here. I :pray: you and your family can find the strength to get through this.

Mel - I understand how you are feeling. I find it hard to hear other people's pregnancy and birth announcements. It is perfectly natural to have mixed feelings about it. I just tell myself that I am happy for them, I'm just more sad for me. And there is nothing wrong with feeling that way. Big :hug: to you hun. I hope this is your month.

babymiracles - So glad the scan went well yesterday. All the best for next week's.

jen - The relaxation CD is wonderful. I know I get tense (hence the headaches) but its not until I properly relaxed that I realised how much. This is one homework assignment I will NOT be skipping out on. :lol: Glad DS is recovering well.

Sorry for no more persies. I've been reduced to lurking the past couple of days due to my headache. I finally feel better this morning so DH and I are going to catch up with some friends who live on the other side of town and their 4-month old son. I'll try and get back tonight. Have a great weekend ladies.

:bluedust::pink-babydust::noaf::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

HannahD - Sending some :noaf: vibes your way. I :pray: this is your month :hug:

Hi Gurlies...

Just a quick update...I was laid-off work last Friday (the 20th) and I have been wallowing in self pity ever since...it's just so difficult right now because Lee was already laid-off...he's been off work for about 2 months...it just sucks because we should be so happy right now and all I seem to do is stress and worry...

I am praying and I know things will get better...I just need patience...meanwhile I'll try not to be a lurker or stranger...

Ruthie - I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope you have found drs who can give you the best care there is. I hope that one day soon you can post telling us that you are in remission...

Ruthie - Iam so very sorry to hear your news. Will be :pray: very hard for you and your family,please let us know how your treatment is going:hug::hug::hug:

Ruthie - im so sorry to hear your news. thinking of you and your family xx

Mel - i completely understand how you are feeling + the feelings you get about yourself after you feel that way. I have had 2 people I know have babies in the last month... both around my due date and yes I am happy for them.. but I am also very sad for me.. and have many moments of "me too". I also know two people due in the next month or so.. and then another friend due in July and then another due late August. Why is it when you are ttc and going through all this loss and pain every one is preg around you? it is like rubbing salt into the wound. Oh and I would also love to have that first pregnancy naivety that you are talking about - gee, if only we could go back there! Dont worry hun - these feelings are as natural as the air you breath!

Hannah - glad to hear you are doing your homework ;) sounds nice actually!

Good to hear all our preg friends on here are doing well and seeing gorgeous little heart beats. sending lots of sticky vibes your way :)

sorry so much has been posted in the last couple of days its hard to keep up lol. Hi to everyone else! and thank you to everyone who replied to my post... i am happy that the results have come back normal, because that is a good thing, right? but..... if we had something come back otherwise we would at least have something we could work with and possibly "fix" the problem - or try to at least. and we would know there was a reason why we had to suffer these m/c's... but trying to think positively and just be happy that we got these normal results back.

oh also wanted to ask - and not sure if I have already asked it... but I get spotting before af arrives, around 7-10 days of spotting (then I have a normal af of 5 - 7 days)... has anyone else had this? and if so, have you ever found out that it was somehow linked to the m/c's?
This is not something i had before going on the pill. I was on the pill for about 4- 5 years and since going off it this has been the norm for me - but it doesn't seem that normal. I asked my gp about it and she said the only way to get rid of it is to put me back on the pill (helpful advice that when we are ttc). anyway, because i have spotted all through both recent pregnancies that have ended in m/c i can't help but feel it has something to do with the m/c's.

anyways... I will try to keep up with personals a little better ;) still getting the hang of this - :lol: