Tanya- have you tested yet? Its sounding very promising.
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Eli, well I hope the surgery helped and you get a sticky BFP very soon!!
AFM... Feeling a bit yuck today! I also had a nice jump in temp this morning...
Is anyone else testing soon?
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Tanya- have you tested yet? Its sounding very promising.
Lisa
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Yep... couldn't help myself... BFN @ 8DPO (FF has me at 7DPO)... So no surprise *roll eyes*.
I will test again tomorrow knowing me, and I will let you know how I go
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Hi ladies,
FF finally detected my big O so obviously I did ovulate this month - have had very clear rise in temp for the past 5 days - yeah! So I will be testing in 6 days - have a baby shower on Sat and want to know if I can drink - I think if I am not I will need a couple of drinks to get through the day. DP is not even here to support me - he is busy holidaying in Bali with the boys!
Even if this isnt our month I am glad of the longer cycle this month...it means we dont miss O next month as I will O after DP is home! For once I am glad I am on a 35 day cycle rather than my usual 28/29!
Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend x
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That's great SSM!!I hope you don't have to even think about ttc next month and get your BFP before the baby shower
xx
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I think I will be keeping a BFP a secret until I safely hit the 12 week mark this time, considering what happened last time. I am not someone who can keep secrets but have promised myself it will be mine and DP secret. I am not even telling mum...I think the loss hit her just as hard as me last time and want to save everyone not knowing what to say to me if it all doesnt go to plan. Having said that I am very positive that my next bub will be very sticky! But I was so excited last time I let everyone who asked if I was know - some people knew we were trying! I will just be grinning very widely at the baby shower...people will just think I am dealing with the loss very well. hahaha
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Allllrighty...
Someone..a friend.. just popped my happy bubble by posting a pic of a pregnancy test on their facebook....
way to go...
She couldnt have done it less discreetly! And she didnt bother asking how my op went...
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well I've been a little MIA lately lol lurking and reading, just keeping to myself.
coco - thats awful, really sucks when something you want so much seems to be happening to everyone else around you but not yourself
Looks like Tuesdays going tp be the big O, freaking out sooo much, still very very unsure.
Hope everyones feeling better
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I just posted this on my site...no need to reply..
To the TTC'ers who have suffered a loss, I need some backup!
I recently learnt of a couple of ppl in our circle that are pregnant....when i hear of this news I think they fail to understand how I feel and when I hear about the news it will now until we are pregnant again, hurt me and make me jealous and angry...
I just want to say...When i make a status that is negative about my whole situation, I just want to get it off my chest and have the negative moment..because that's how I feel. Negative. And that's how I deal with things, and how I need to be to get through it..
I dont feel happy for them yet. I cant pretend to be happy and I will continue to feel like this until we are back into the race safely..
I dont know how to explain it to everyone without being this brutal.
I dont want sympathy's and I dont want:
"it will happen" and
"stop thinking about it" and
"it happened for a reason" and
"it's ok you'll get over it" and
"don't be negative" and
....I want all the people who say these things, to just think about something they really really desperately want to have right now, go ahead, something you desperately want, even if it is trivial..and you're making the biggest effort to get what you want, and going through every possible step to get there...then you get there and you're happy and so "complete" and then it is taken away from you....now how would you like someone close to say to you that they have that thing you want and they barely tried or barely had to make the effort to get it...
Feels pretty **** huh?? Like you've been stabbed in the heart? Or like your heart has been ripped through your nose? Or like your face might explode into tears at any moment?
When you have been through what i have, then you can judge me for how I am feeling and how I want to just revert and not see the ppl or not speak to them much for fear that i will just cry and scream...
When you have suffered a loss then you can tell me how to grieve my loss...
When you have been trying long term to acheieve the goal and then you find you have a condition that has been preventing you from getting it and have to have a small but painful operation to fix it and then you still cant try, then tell me how to deal...
Just needed to get that off my chest. I knw Im not the only one, and that doesnt make me feel better about it...the only thing that is going to make everything better is when we fall pregnant again and if we are able to carry it to full term...
It's funny...Ive done everything to make my body baby friendly, gym, vitamins, healthy diet..and I didnt know I had something inside that killed our chances and cancelled out what I have been doing to help the cause...
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Hi gals
Coco-It's hard, it's so hard and you are right no one that has not been throught this can have a clue how it feels to lose a baby, a tiny, longed for, hoped for, so loved baby. And to go through it more than once makes it harder, more unfair, more devastating. It takes away all the future joy of finding out you are pregnant and replaces it with stress and fear and doubt. It is totally unfair. To then find you have something making getting pg even harder, as if it weren't hard enough already, is just a punch in the guts. For whatever it is worth we are here for you.
Tanya- Good luck tomorrowhope its a BFP.
Superstarmumsy-will be keeping everything crossed for you too
Milly-so glad they have found something that sounds very treatable. I really hope it gets under control very quickly and you can be TTC asap. Please don't go far we'll miss you.
I've been lurknig for a few days. A/F showed up this morning as expected so I have my clomid ready for starting tomorrow. Also starting diet again tomorrow with a friend as it is 6 weeks till my trip to NZ so I'd like to lose 5kg and that seems like a good first goal. It will also be good to have something else to obssess about other than making babies!
Hi to everyone else and welcome to kyrawolfe.
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Totally know what you mean! The thought of being pregnant again after 3 M/C's is making me feel sick...soo much worry, I just feel like I wont be able to enjoy it at all, always worried something is going to go wrong
Coco-It's hard, it's so hard and you are right no one that has not been throught this can have a clue how it feels to lose a baby, a tiny, longed for, hoped for, so loved baby. And to go through it more than once makes it harder, more unfair, more devastating. It takes away all the future joy of finding out you are pregnant and replaces it with stress and fear and doubt. It is totally unfair. To then find you have something making getting pg even harder, as if it weren't hard enough already, is just a punch in the guts. For whatever it is worth we are here for you..
Drives me insane my SIL can call me up to rant on about all the baby stuff she's bought etc, etc but has never bothered once to ask me how I'm feeling and coping with the loss.
There are some real f'ing cows out there!
Coco-hun you are just saying what most of us feel like on the inside but try to keep it to ourselves i hate the be patient it will happen speech what people don't seem to get is i don't want to be patient i just want to know will my next baby be healthy the fear of concieving a baby affected like abbi terrifie's the hell out of me i am sick of everyone abuseing there bodie's while pregnant and i have to serve them with a smile while inside my heart is shattered that i have a stupid rare gene that is stopping my dream's from comming true and i'm sick of all the pregnant people saying i'm over it i just want it out of me (if only they all knew) it is hard and every day is a challange and we are here for you as you all are here for me.
Toomanyshoe's-don't even mention pregnant SIL ggrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!! i want to slap mine i still refuse to see ,speak or even be near her until she get's on her knee's and say's sorry to my mum.
Sunbeam-sorry AF turned up mine is due tue/wed
Tanya-goodluck
AFM-i am nearing AF so i'm getting teary at every pregnant women and going over every detail of abbi's pregnancy and thinking all the usual what if's she would be here in about just over 2 week's her due date is the 11th of august (oh!i mean was) and every day is getting harder i just want to sleep through it and not think about it but i have to keep it together for my boy's
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Ferral I so know what you mean...
My 3 SIL's, drank, smoked, ate crap, went out clubbing, complained about wanting it to be over etc etc all way through their pregnancies...none of them ever had a single complication! never a M/C...I mean for ffs! I did everything right and yes I'm blessed with two beautiful children but the pregnancies were awful, stressful and super complicated! Now 3 M/C's and these womens take what they have for granted every day! it makes me sick, i refuse to have anything to do with them anymore (christmas was the last straw for me) some people really need a smack in the head.
hmmm as you can tell I'm having a few bad days lately....just feel so angry!
I thought everything was falling into place but really it was just teasing us again. DH is off to NSW for a job interview tomorrow, so
Really starting to question wanting another baby...I want it but not sure its the right thing to do.
Lots of
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introduction from Amanda
Hello ladies,
My name is Amanda and i am trying to conceive after two early miscarriages. I don't seem to have a problem getting pregnant, just staying pregnant. My husband and I took a long break after the second loss. I just didn't have the heart to try again. We are going to start this month. Currently I am about cycle day 10 or 11. I feel like i am running out of time...i will be forty in September.
Baby dust to all!!!
Amandanurse-Welcome i'm sorry about your loss and i hope that this time around it all goe's well for you a few of us girl's in here know what you mean about running out of time i am 35 and feel that way but i also know plenty of women 40 to 44 that are pregnant or have had babie's so you still have time.
Just got the call they have found the SLO mutation in our's and abbi's gene whoohoo!!! so now we don't have to try natrually it's now IVF all the way we have to wait another 6 week's for them to do there own testing but that's a lot easier to handle than 4-5 month'sOH my god i'm so happy right now
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oh ferrals thats such good news, im so happy and excited for u!!!
wow, 6 weeks is nothing really it will fly by in no time, good luck with it all hun.
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Ferrals!! That is awesome!! Here's to a happy healthy sticky pregnancy coming very soon!!
Welcome Amanda, so sorry to read of your losses. It really helps to have lots of support while you are going through this. xx
TMS, sounds like you are having a rough time atm.... it really isn't easy to put yourself through pregnancy after loss.... (((hugs)))
Sunbeam, good luck for this cycle... I really hope the clomid does the trick!!
Eli, it really is hard to see other ppl getting pregnant... it's good to see you are off loading. I really hope you are UTD soon... (((hugs)))
Tested again this morning and it was, as expected, a BFN... yu know even tho I know the chances of getting a BFP this early are very slim it really doesn't help!! I wish I could resist! I think my chart is heading triphasic tho... hmmm? Might see what my temp does tomorrow before I test again.
Last edited by Tanya; July 20th, 2009 at 02:45 PM.
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