Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage/Loss July 2009

Wow, I haven't had a chance to check the boards for a couple of days and all of a sudden I can see how everyone looks. And they all look GOOD! I don't have anything current of me that I am happy with so I might leave my signature as it is.

AFM It looks as though I may have ovulated a little earlier in the cycle than I had been prior to my MC. I'm hoping that might make for a better quality egg so DH and I have been madly making the most of the opportunity. From all the back pain I had yesterday I think maybe that's when I ovulated so I'm probably entering the TWW.

Goodmorning ladies, Geeeez what a frost I woke up to, everything has turned to ice outside!
Tanya :grouphug: Sorry to hear you are having a low morning, I hope your day gets brighter.
Eliselouise Congrats you can now start a fresh cycle, goodluck x

Josh'smum I'm feeling your frustration........:bfn: for me too. I tested first thing thismorn.....Am due for AF to show it's painfull ugly face today but only the slightest of niggles, normally I get pretty painfull periods.
Cheers to having to check my panties all day for RatB!!!!

Morning everyone - we don't seem to be having a good week with getting :bfp: do we. Nothing much happening with me - have been off work sick all week with a dreaded chest and throat infection. Have been really careful with what I have been taking but unfortunately all my carefulness seems to be in vain. I am due for AF on Monday but am testing tomorrow at 12DPO before my best friends baby shower! Not feeling very positive given this is the first month since the D&C. We will see...sounds terrible but if it is a :bfn: then I think I will drown my sorrows with a drink or two (thats all it will take as I am a cadbury as I only drink on very rare occations) :D

Hope everyone has a wonderful day

Good luck with testing tomorrow SSM :D I have everything crossed for you!!

Hi all,

Just dipping my toes in the water here, won't be TTC until october on doctors orders but will start to try and track my cycles to see what they will like post d&c.Here's my story:
On 8/7 i went for my NT scan i would have been 12w5d, but bubs had stopped growing at 10w5d. It was (and still is) devasting and went for a d&c that friday. It was such a shock as i had nausea the whole way, no cramping, bleeding or anything. The baby showed to have a neural tube defect so i am on mega folate doases of 5mg day for 3 months before TTC again. After all that i got an infection and was put on oral antibiotics which did not work so on sunday i was admitted to hospital and styaed there unwil wednesday arvo on iv antibiotics. I am home nowm thank goodness and can now work towards feeling better and gettting on top of things.
Just thought i would pop in and say hi.
Anila - nice to see a familiar face in here, shame it is under these circumstances, hope you are doing ok sweetie.
Hope everyone else is well and looking after themselves.

Hi sparkles

Sorry to meet you under such awful circumstances :(
Its so hard to lose a baby u truely tried hard to have.. Im glad to hear that u found out what the problem was tho so you can work on fixing it for the future bubsy..

Sounds like you've had a real rough time getting better :(

Anywho you've come to the right place.. Everyone in here has experianced a loss (sometimes more then one) so at least you know you are talking to people who can understand how you are feeling.. and theyre all very supportive chickies who always seem to know what to say <3

Takeing folate is an awesome idea.. Im on the pre pregnancy tabs atm plus iron (as i dnt really eat much meat) And DH has been takeing tablets that assist his lil men in being the best they can ;) TMI but o well :p

I guess one thing to keep in mind is that your baby will always be remembered in your heart.. and will always be a part of your family. so long as you aknowledged and cared for them as much as you could during your pregnancy.. than youve done the very best you could for them.. and maybe there purpous is to watch over your next little bundle of joy and make sure nothing happens to them :)

Anyway I hope your stay here is short.. and you can inspire us all very soon with a lovely sticky BFP!! :D

ttys
Kyra

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Anila - nice to see a familiar face in here, shame it is under these circumstances, hope you are doing ok sweetie.

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ooo sparkles, my heart is still breaking for u, i am soo sorry for ur loss hun.
It seams weird that we went through ttc together and now we are ttc after a mc together, i really hope that when october comes u will get ur earth baby, again im sorry for ur loss.

tanya, awe hun, i hope its not af, im sorry if it is.

well i just walked in the door had been out shopping with my sister and we were on the way home when we had a semi tiff about me not dealing with my mc, and it ended with me in tears.
Then she goes on to tell me if i wasnt overweight i might not have lost the baby, and it was MOTHER NATURES WAY!!!!!
Im sorry but im so freaking tired of hearing that!!!
I have had enough, there should be a ban on that frase!!

Hi again

Sparkles - so sorry to see you here...I remember you from the TTC thread, really sucks to meet again here. So sorry everything didn't go to plan...I too had symptoms up until my D & C, it is really frustrating that sometimes your body doesn't do what it is meant to. Hope your wait to start TTC again flies by....

Anila - what is it with people being insensitive - some people are so heartless. Dont worry about the overweight comment - I never got it but was very surprised I didnt. I am fatter now because of what has happened than when before I conceived. I asked my doc and although they say it can increase your risk so can so many other things - think if you believe everything you read it could get to a point of believing if you sneeze it could cause M/C. You are obviously capable of having a baby despite the size you are - at the end of the day no one can really pinpoint why it happens so why do people feel the need to make you feel bad about yourself at a difficult time. Personally if it was me - I wouldnt be associating with anyone who wasnt supportive and encouraging of what I am going through. Chin up sweetie...number 6 is right around the corner...I believe I was right last time with you getting up the duff...I have faith in you.

Tanya - thanks for the crossing but it didnt work

I couldnt wait until tomorrow to POAS and I tested and got a :bfn: I think saying I am disappointed is a huge understatement...I am not more fertile.....why not! Sorry venting - DP is in Bali so I have no one here with me. I knew either way this month was going to be hard but this sucks!!! I guess there is nothing left to say than bring on next month - watch out DP you wont know what hit you!

Hi girls, I have gone back through the posts to see who asked me what tests the OB was doing but for the life of me I can't find it!.... Maybe it was in the other thread? SO I will post this reply in both of them :redface: The OB is testing both dh and I for genetic compatability to make sure there isn't something going on when his spermies meet my egg. He is also testing for blood clotting and immune problems with me plus he is sending away the tissue he took out today to see if anything comes up there. All in all the op went well today, Selangor private hospital is so great, they really looked after me, I did however have a very unexpected cry as soon as I woke up which lasted for about half an hour? I totally didn't see that coming....

Sparkles I am sorry to hear of your loss, this thread will be a wonderful support for you and I am sure your stay will be a short one :hug:

omg superstar, after reading ur perssie to me i now have more tears in my eyes, u are such a beautiful person, thankyou for ur kind words, i was just telling hubby what my sister said, and he is so mad at her, saying she should just keep her mouth shut, she is insensative etc.., thing is, my sister ment it all with love, thats jsut what she does and as much as i do understand that, it still hurts..

sorry u got a bfn, i do hope its just too early for the hcg to give a second line, i like ur positivity though in ravashing hubby when he gets back, lol'

Anila- OMG I can't believe your sister upset you so much. Unfortunately it is difficult for others who haven't been through a MC to know how it affects you, both physically and mentally. I have been the first in my family to have a MC (I have 2 older sisters) and "natures way" line doesn't make coping with your loss any easier. The worst I am finding now is everyone telling me to "relax" and "just enjoy the TTC", don't these people know that telling someone who is feeling anxious to "relax" automatically raises anxiety levels. I have had numerous tiffs with family members lately, which is why I have now turned to all of you lovely ladies rather than talking about these things with them.

Sparkles- Sorry that you are here with us, I hope you find all the support you need. My family has a history of neural tube defects. With my DS I was referred to a genetic counsellor. The only real prevention is high dose folate prior to conception and for the first 14 weeks. I was also referred for an additional US at 16 weeks to check spine and more importantly brain development. Whilst he is perfect (well maybe I am a little biased) the thought has occured to me that perhaps this may have been the cause of my MC last year, who knows. Anyway I hope your stay here is very short and very sweet and you get your BFP and sticky bub soon. WELCOME!

SSM, CatKat, and all those others with BFN's but still no AF. With my DS I first tested 4 days past AF due date and came up with a BFN. 3 days later and with first morning wee with still no AF tested again and got a BFP- I don't want to give anyone false hope but it really isn't over until AF makes her unwelcome visit. That pregnancy went through without a hitch (well with terrible am sickness and me being induced due to eclampsia- but you know what I mean- end result was DS).

AFM- I have made some calls today to some Chinese herbalists and acupuncture people (as well as successfully avoiding all my housework :rofl:). Is anyone else heading down that route? I must admit I am a little bit of a sceptic but I guess it wont do any harm to give it a go.

Sorry forgot to mention.

Sunbeam- CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss. That is awesome!

Kyrawolfe: Heres to a peaceful nights sleep tonight :pray:

Giant hello's to all the other wonderful ladies on this site hope you have an awesome weekend.

Josh'smum Thanks for the kind words, I still don't have AF and still only the tiniest niggles every now and then so in couple days I will test again if still no show.. I get my own hopes up every passing hour! So don't hesitate to give hope x it's nice eitherway.

SSM Sorry to hear you got BFN, hope your in my shoes and just to early to show second line, :loveshower: We throwing you a loveshower tomorrow instead of a babyshower...will be thinking of you babe. Take a deep breath and hold your head high. When you have your little bundle to celebrate, everybody will remember how supportive and gracefull you were, and you will get spoilt rotten!!! x

Cherished Glad to hear your op went well, darling our time will come and it will be more than great xx

Anilla I'm sure your Sis does mean well, and if I received a dollar from each person that recited the whole "NATURE" thing to me, I certainly wouldnt have to stress about how many pregnancy tests I just got from the chemist thisafternoon ;)

I'm sorry for your loss Sparkles. I hope that your stay here is supportive but short x

Have a lovely weekend ladies, unwind!!....not 2 much Cadbury!!!!!!!!!!!!

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AFM- I have made some calls today to some Chinese herbalists and acupuncture people (as well as successfully avoiding all my housework :rofl:). Is anyone else heading down that route? I must admit I am a little bit of a sceptic but I guess it wont do any harm to give it a go.

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Hi Josh's Mum. Actually a friend gave me a business card today. She knew of an acupuncutrist who specialised in Women's health problems including fertility and she thought I might be interested. It's a lady called Belinda Tan. She is out in Lilydale so I'm not sure if that is of any use to you. She has a website so you can have a look and see if it's what you are seeking.

Belinda Tran Acupunture

SammyP- Thank you so much for the website. I had a look and she looks quite good. I am over the other side of town and made an appt for next friday with a lady based in Essendon.

Josh'smum- I actually went to an chinese/ herbalist accupuncturist who specialises in fertility 4 days before i conceived last time and we'd been TTC for 6 months. So i have another appointment with her on monday to try and get my body back on track. I was a little sceptical at first but it was the only thing we did different during the month we fell pregnant, so here goes again.
All i feel like i'm doing is pill popping at the moment, i am still on 2 antibiotics 3 times a day for another 10 days which make me feel like crap, dizzy, awful taste in mouth and no appetite(my jeans are falling off me, not good!), my mega folate, my normal preganancy vitamins(which ob said to keep taking). Can't wait for my next ob check up on 5/08 to know all is fine up there, don't you wish sometimes you could just see for yourself what is going on in there? :)
Anyway better go shower and start my day.

CHERISHED: That sounds very promising in regards to how thorough your ob sounds! Which my healthcare provider was as reassuring and committed! When should you know your spemies meet eggies compatability? Im so happy that you feel satisfied with how things are progressing..........:dance:

Im still lurking everyone else................and your photos are awesome! Makes such a diffence to put the journeys to faces...................makes it more real than 'cyber world'!

Take care all!

OMG so f***ing annoyed!

across the road and one house up dicided to throw a massive graduation party ln with god what sounded like 500 17 yo drunk people there! THey started at 12:30 am this morning and had there music and subs up so loud the whole house was shaking! they were fighting out the front and screaming and singing and carrying on with crap until 5:30 am this morning! Me and Hubby called the cops by the 6th time boo woke up crying cuz hes was scared stiff from all the comotion.. No one but the dog got a gud nights sleep i think LOL!

My poor DH had to go to work at 7am this morning he was very ticked off! We heard another neighbour go up to them somtime around 3am and yell at them that he had to go to work and to STFU! and the lil basterds told him to F off and blah blah blah!

GRRR!!! GRRR!!

anywho im prolly going to crash for a nanna nap when boo has his afternoon nap later..

Who STARTS a party at 12midnight anyway? WTF!


Sparkles-=- I know what you mean! Sometimes i wish i could see through a glass panel on my stomach and know exactly whats going on in there! hehe..

Josh's mum -=- No i didnt get one as u can see :wall: hope u did tho.. are u testing soon, looks like its close to bout that time eh?



anywho hope u are all doing well <3 let me know :)

<3 Kyra