Thanks girls
I know you feel that you are not much help to me in this area (genetic's) but the way i see it we are all trying to achieve the same thing even thou the path we all take to get our much wanted babies is different i feel all the support i need is in here with you all and my family at home yes we have another major challange ahead but if we want a baby that is what we have to do.
DH and i decided weeks ago what we would do if this happened and we got the 1 in 4 chance we would still try to fall pregnant natrually but now until they isolate the gene so they can test the next baby we will not use opk's or temp but we will not stop trying because if i do fall pregnant the test results could be back by the time i reach 11 weeks in time to do the cvs and the odd's are in our favour (75% chance of a healthy baby) and i have fantastic doctors and professor guiles at the fetal medicine unit who will be watching the next baby closely so until then i'm still ttc we also looked into PGD IVF that is where they test the embryo for the disorder before they implant it that is very expensive but it is an option as i just found out that my compo case from a car accident has been settled today and i will now be debt free and have a little spare if we turn to IVF so i am still heart broken i want to give my DH a baby more than anything it will just be a journey that is not going to be easy.
Sorry there is personal's tonight i just need some time to unwind and think but i want to say thank's for listening