Hi Anila

I always feel I have to tell people I just lost a baby - I don't know why. I think that will just run it's course and I will stop saying it when I don't feel I need to anymore. My brother and his wife lost their baby daughter a few years ago but when I run into old friends and they ask about my family I always mention her because it feels like a lie to say my brother only has three boys and then I feel foolish afterward. I feel the same sort of foolishness now when I tell people I just lost one. DH is very much into minimalist conversation and even he has told people we lost a baby when I wouldn't have expected him to.