Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2007 #2

[Inanna]

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[jenjams]

Salt, I have been thinking about you. I believe its 11DPO now. for you.

To everyone else, its Sunday and you all deserve a lot of for your next cycle.

[BekZ]

SP - I have been stalking your chart everyday. Hope you don't mind!!!! Chart looks really good hon, but have the strength not to test. You are thinking the same way I did, regarding testing too early and getting a bfn or a faint +ve. I would rather have a absolute positive and not stress. Hang in there hon

[*las*]

Salt - Keeping everything crossed for you! Not long to go now!

Maz - glad you are doing ok, hope your dad will be ok too!

I've been away for 3 days and missed most of the last thread so just wanted to quickly say good luck to everyone coming up on their last few days before testing!

Clomid has kicked in - full force, and I've been an emotional maniac, so escaped up to my parents in the country for a few days to unwind. Have my first scan for this cycle at 10.30am although not expecting much, it's only CD9.

Will catch up with everything tomorrow!

[satya]

Hi everyone,

Salt - Whatever you do don't test until at least 13DPO. Holding off testing will not change the true result. It's a big waste of money to keep testing early so just don't do it.

Pash - I know what you mean about your friend not drinking. My SIL who recently got married has suddenly just stopped drinking when she used to drink heaps whenever she got the opportunity. I don't think she is pg yet but I've heard on the grapevine that she was going to TTC soon so I guess that means she is. This is the reason I've just taken anything identifying off my signature just in case she stumbles across me in one of the forums on here. She wouldn't be in the m/c ones but if she saw what I had on the signature panel before I removed it in one of the general discussion ones I reckon she would've worked out who I was. I think I will take it pretty badly if she ends up pg before we get another go at it. She also doesn't know about our recent m/c as we only shard that info with a few people.

Bun - I used to have lots of EWCM when I was younger but I've noticed I just don't get as much. I have read that some women don't get it at all but still manage to conceive so I just hope that's me. I think if we are not successful this cycle I will get some preseed too.

Las - good luck with the mood swings. I remember them well.

Shoegal - hope you feel better today. Maybe you should tell some of your nearest and dearest about what's happened. I only started to heal after I told a few people. I also did this at work so they knew why I was crying sometimes.

Maz - sorry to hear about your dad. I hope his condition improves.

Megsmum - sorry to hear your AF arrived. Lets hope this cycle is your lucky one.

CD13 for me already. Last cycle I O'd on CD13 but I don't think it's happened yet. I'd better get off here as my DF wants to spend some time with me.

[Leyla]

Hi Ladies,

Just a quickie, AF finally arrived today, which is a huge relief after a 49 day cycle! Has been quite painful, but a big relief to know that I can try again soon. Looks as though my LP is only 11 days this time, which is very odd. I usually have a very long LP (average of 16 days). I am thinking this might be due to the fact I have been taking Maca root for the last few days, which is said to regulate your hormones and cycle. Has anyone else heard anything about Maca root?

Hope everyone had a restful weekend. Sorry for the lack of personals, I hope to get back into the swing of things soon!

[TwoMums]

Hey Girls,

I hope everyone had a good weekend. Well finally, we can begin again... Kim started the Clomid today, 50mg, same as last time. Will ring the Dr tomorrow to let him know we started, i think we go in on day 11 for the ultrasound so that would be Tuesday 05/06/07...God it's June almost already...

[cherie26]

Hi everyone!
Well I stated in my last post that I had started AF but it has left (or did it really ever start???) I had some cramping and brown and light pink spotting on and off for two days now nothing! I am just so confused with my body at the moment I thought after a D&C everything would go back to normal and I cant even get my second cycle? Oh well I will give it a couple more days then its back to the DR (Boy do they make money off me!)

Saltprincess- I have been reading your posts and am so excited for you! It really looks promising I cant wait for you to test!

Maz- I am so sorry about your dad. I know it is hard but try and take it easy.

One more Question has anyone here used lullaby pregnancy tests off the internet and can they really detect from 10ml HCG? (Going to test with something else since all the false positives with Pregnosis and the fact no AF! Yes I am offically a POAS acholic)
Goodluck to everyone this cycle!

[kiwigirl]

Hi everyone,

I did another BT today (hopefully it's my last one) and will check with the ob/gyn tomorrow when she calls with the results if we're 'officially' allowed to try again this month.. I'm also hoping she has the chromosomal results (finally). If she says no I'm NOT going to be happy.. It's 6 weeks today since my D&C, time has flown by!!

[cherie26]

Salt - I am so sorry! But AF hasnt arrived yet so don't give up hope!
saying a for you

[cherie26]

Oh I have another question? What is the difference between a digital ear thermometor and a basal one?
Thanks

[*las*]

Leyla - Glad AF finally arrived and you can get started again!

Megan - Yay on starting again too! I've just finished with Clomid and having my first scan today. Good luck to you both for this cycle!

SP- I don't understand FF, but I hope it's not what you are thinking...*hugs*.

Rachel - Good luck with your results, hope you get some answers...today!

Cherie - Hope AF turns up properly for you, it's frustrating hey! I've used the Lullaby brand and have no problems with them, a lot of my girlfriends have used them also. They are quite reliable and do detect low levels hcg. I can't help with the thermometer question!

Ok, best go have this scan done!

[kiwigirl]

Hiya salt, I had a look at your chart and your drop today is the same as 7DPO, so there's still a chance

[Trying to be Postive]

Hello -

Hope you are all going along well. I am ok. I am hoping that AF will show up in the next few days... I am having all kinds of AF symptoms, so I am praying it is her, so we can start TTC again.... I feel I am ready and its the right time. I hope it doesn't take too long....

Thanks for being so wonderful in here... It really helps t have ppl who can relate to how I am feeling...

[*las*]

Oh Salt - still holding out some positive hope for you! Praying that AF stays away..........

tryingtobepositive - Hope AF turns up for you so you can start again too!

Not real happy right now My lining is only 3mm..have another scan on Thursday, if it's looking like it's improving, he suggested trying some estrogen support (Progynova or similar) otherwise this cycle will be cancelled and we'll have to go back to an artificial cycle next time.

[timnik77]

Hello everyone

Hope you don't mind me joining this forum, I am new to all of this. I have had two M/C, the first in Sept 06 at 11 weeks and another this year in Feb at 7 weeks. Still not really sure what went wrong with the first one but the second one was something to do with low progesterone levels? I am seeing a gyno now to see if she can sort out what is wrong with me and this is the first month of me trying clomid. Feel like a bit of an ameteur (sp?) at the whole trying to get pregnant business compared to what I have been reading in the forums! I have a maybe baby that I have been using to help me determine when I am O, can you believe I broke it before I could use it this cycle? I am on CD18 today and will have blood tests done probably Wednesday, and will see the gyno on Thurs to see how my levels are.
Feeling a bit like I haven't been doing enough to get that magic baby, which is why I have come in here looking to get a bit more educated! I am turning 30 in two weeks and always thought I would have a baby before then... we have been trying for nearly two years now (although admittedly not as hard as we have been lately). My younger sister has recently discovered she is pg, about 8 weeks I think. Whilst I am really happy for her I feel a bit resentful too, I hate that! Anyhow any advice or support would really be appreciated. Thanks guys.

[TwoMums]

Hi Timnick77, firstly i am so sorry about your two miscarriages, i cant imagine ever going through it again, so i really admire you already for your courage to be TTC again. You will get quickly educated around here, don't be shy, ask anything you want, these girls have a wealth of information between them. Congratulations on becoming a soon to be auntie, although it is hard not to be resentful of those that are having babies, even if it is your sister. Both my sisters have 3 children each and they still dont quite understand what its like not to have children when you really want them. Anyway I hope your stay here is a really short one!!!

[Bun]

Hi girls,

Boy, has it been busy in here over the last couple of days! I have a lot of catching up to do!

Salt - your temp is still above the cover line, so it is not definitely over yet. Sometimes temps can do some strange things, so keep positive! I am so proud of you for not testing for so long - such will power! I don't blame you for your feelings over your SIL being TTC soon - it is so hard with family, especially after a loss. I am struggling to be patient, and it hurts every time I see my BIL and SIL and their baby.

Timnick77 - hi and welcome. Sorry to hear about your two losses - I know how awful that is. I felt that I could handle one loss, but two started to push my sanity to its limits. I hope you manage to fall quickly with a sticky little bub this time, and that we can be of help to you. As Twomums said, we are happy to answer any questions you may have. I am on clomid too. It would be really hard to find out your sister is pg with what you have been through recently. That would devastate me - it's awful, because you want to be happy for them, but it's just too hard. You sound like you are handling everything really well, so good on you!

las - sorry to hear about your lining. Hopefully the next scan will be better, and if not, the oestrogen support will work. Sorry the clomid is not treating you well - the things we go through, hey?!

Megan - glad to hear that you are on your way again. I hope the clomid treats Kim well and you will be well on your way to a sticky bub in no time!

Leyla - so glad to hear AF has finally arrived! It's funny when you are excited to see AF - I have had that feeling before too! But it is good to start a new cycle. I hope this cycle goes back to normal for you.

kiwigirl - I hope the results of your BT are all a-ok to start TTC again.

pash - I think I will take your advice about running away from the clinic next month if we don't fall this month! For the sake of my sanity! I know what you mean about hating people who you suspect are pg. I am always scrutinising people who aren't drinking and usually would, and often I am right and know before they tell anyone they are pg. It really bothers me that one close friend of mine told at least one other person (and who knows how many more?)all the details of my m/c (and I didn't want to tell many people), so everytime I see this third person, all I can think about is how she knows something so personal about me yet has never said anything, and it really gets to me! You are not an irrational nasty b1tch!!! We are here for you to winge your heart out to, and we understand. Sounds like a great holiday to Brussels - have a fantastic time!

Cherie - welcome and best of luck for this cycle!

Shoegal - Nina is soooo sweet! I love her! I haven't thought about seeing anyone else at the clinic - I saw dr Hart because he is a Reproductive Endocrinologist, and I was told that 2 early m/cs were probably a hormonal problem, so he was the one to see. He is v nice, but hasn't really done anything except order tests, all of which have come back clear. I really hate having cycles tracked - am not going to do it again. Why do you have to have a HyCoSy? I love Brugge too!! I find early mornings are the hardest too - too much time to think about things. It is also hard getting out and about for the first time - I can remember how much I was dreading going back to work, esp because of the inevitable questions, and we didn't really want to talk about it.

Maz - sorry about your dad

megsmum - sorry to hear about AF. Hopefully next month will bring better things!!

Well I am now about 3DPO, and have had a mixed weekend. DH cracked it on Fri night because I said we had to BD and he didn't want to. I got sooo angry with him, as I hate this process too, and I am the one who has to take medication, feel like a walking pin cushion because of the tracking, get poked and prodded, etc, and there is absolutely no point to any of it if we don't BD at the right time! We did it in the end, but not after a lot of crying from me. I really hate being told when to BD by a clinic, and I hate taking drugs, and I hate tracking, and I hate m/cing, but if we want a family, this is what we have to do, and it effects me more than him, all he has to do is get off, so I don't see what his problem is!! Sorry, rant over, I was just soo angry with him. We had another fight last night because he called me a pansy and I got upset because I have been through so much lately, and he has given me no support whatsoever, I don't even get a hug unless I beg for one, and I am sick of it. I don't know what I would do without you girls, as I certainly don't get any sympathy at home. His attitude is 'toughen up princess' - literally, he tells me this everytime I have a winge about what I am going through, and I am sick of it.