Anila, I know exactley how you feel when you say you're scared to get pregnant.
I felt like this for so long as I had 2 losses within 3 months and even though I really really want a child and want to be pregnant I just couldn't bring myself to BD with DH as I was sooo petrified that it would happen again and I knew if it did I would never be able to deal with it at that point in time. It has taken me a good 6 months to be in the right frame of mind to TTC again, but everyone is different and I had some other things going on in my life at the time.
Take your time and don't rush it. My doctor told me that because I was sooo worried about being pregnant and really freaked out that could actually prevent me from getting pregnant! Not sure if that's true but think she wanted to relax me.
Hi Girls,
Hi to Kiwi_gal and Grake so sorry to hear what you have been through recently but you are in the right place here for loving support. I am definitely one for TTC again straight away as we are supposed to be more fertile in the months following a m/c. Good luck girls.
Coco1411-I have major mother issues too. I won?t go into all the details except to say when I told her about the first miscarriage she said ?don?t tell me next time till you?re 4 months pregnant!? Very f@#&ing supportive. My advice is counselling, I?ve done loads of it and finally feel that I have emotionally separated myself from her. Nothing she says or does now can get in because she means nothing to me she is simply the woman my dad lives with. It's hard and horrible but it's a grieving process to come to terms with the fact that we do not have the mother we long for.
Quick question for all the girls that use OPKs. Do you find that the lines get darker the closer you get to ov or are they just virtually invisible until you get a positive one? I only used them 2 days before I go pregnant last time so bit clueless as to what to expect.
My temp dropped and feeling ov pains but no cm and going to do OPK again this afternoon. Not sure if temp drop was because of getting up an hour earlier. I'm at day 30 past D/C but think it was maybe 2 weeks before my cycle kicked back in so wouldn't be due to ov for about 5-7 days or more. Usually ov day 17-23.
Hi Girls,
Hi to Kiwi_gal and Grake so sorry to hear what you have been through recently but you are in the right place here for loving support. I am definitely one for TTC again straight away as we are supposed to be more fertile in the months following a m/c. Good luck girls.
coco1411-I have major mother issues too. I won't go into all the details except to say when I told her about the first miscarriage she said "don?t tell me next time till you?re 4 months pregnant!" Very f@#&ing supportive. My advice is counselling I've done loads of it and finally feel that I have emotionally separated myself from her. Nothing she says or does now can get in because she means nothing to me she is simply the woman my dad lives with. It's hard and horrible but it's a grieving process to come to terms with the fact that we do not have the mother we long for.
Quick question for all the girls that use OPKs. Do you find that the lines get darker the closer you get to ov or are they just virtually invisible until you get a positive one? I only used them 2 days before I go pregnant last time so bit clueless as to what to expect.
My temp dropped and feeling ov pains but no cm and going to do OPK again this afternoon. Not sure if temp drop was because of getting up an hour earlier.
Hey Sunbeam, that's a change from having them not show up at all! Perhaps the moderators feel guilty about your missing posts from the other day!?! lol Wouldn't be surprised if temp drop was due to different time. I've just started temping and am realising that I have to be a whole lot more consistent with the time I take temp because it changes dramatically if I take it later.
greenslw - this one will stick. It just has to! But I can certainly understand the fear aspect. Glad DH is happier about it now. Men need evidence. Scientific evidence. They're weird like that.
Sorry to hear about your mum, what is it with these women!!! Mine gets the wake up call but she plays on it and does the whole "woe-is-me" thing and tries for the sympathy vote and guilt trips..
Anyway...
My Opk does get darker..like yesterday i had to squint to see a line, but today its darker so im expecting a positive over the next few days.
I am enjoying some bbq chicken, baby spinach & caesar sandwiches..OM NOM NOM!!
Coco - Not quite sure what to say about your mum. That must be awful to have to go through things like that. TTC is stressful enough without family problems adding to it. I can't really offer you any advice as I have a close relationship with my mum and even my MIL is fantastic (not many people can say that so I do realise how lucky I am). If I was in your shoes though I think I would take a step back and try and distance myself a little as having to deal with that behaviour must be taking it's toll. You need to look after yourself especially when you get your BFP. Hopefully you have support from your DH's parents.
I just noticed on your ticker that you have last month of trying? Are you having a break? I don't blame you if you are, it can be so hard to keep going sometimes. I thought I would want a break after our 2nd loss but as soon as I had the D&C all I wanted was to be pg again. We are still going to wait one cycle until I get a proper AF. Just hope it doesn't take very long!
Thanks coco and smallfryplus. I just did OPK and it is a bit darker than yesterday. Guess I'll get through a lot of these things not knowing where in my cycle I am since the m/c. I'm really hoping I ov because my first 2 cycles after my first m/c I didn't which would mean 3 months of waiting if it went the same this time. Hopefully all my new supplements and herbs will sort that out as I'm not keep to go back to clomid since FS now wants me on 100mg a day and the risk of twins would have to be up there. Twins are very cute but by myself think I'd go insane
Coco that is just horrible! perhaps distance yourself... People say you can't choose your family but I do! ANYONE who is toxic in my life get's the flick!!! HTH's in some way
Greenslw my EDD is Jan 30th, both dh & I are Oct babies :P I'm happy this one will be a little aquarius NOT THAT IT MATTERS!!! hehehhehe
Hello everyone else
AFM I'm pretty down today: I'm feeling like noone really cares about me and that I dont' have any friends I'm a bit of one for big highs and big lows although the lows don't last long they are pretty lonley when I am in one.... Then I feel even worse becasue I am pregnant and very happy about that.... *sigh* perhpas it's just hormones
I am definitely one for TTC again straight away as we are supposed to be more fertile in the months following a m/c. Good luck girls.
. My advice is counselling, I?ve done loads of it and finally feel that I have emotionally separated myself from her. Nothing she says or does now can get in because she means nothing to me she is simply the woman my dad lives with. It's hard and horrible but it's a grieving process to come to terms with the fact that we do not have the mother we long for.
perhaps distance yourself... People say you can't choose your family but I do! ANYONE who is toxic in my life get's the flick!!! HTH's in some way 
NOT THAT IT MATTERS!!! hehehhehe
I'm a bit of one for big highs and big lows although the lows don't last long they are pretty lonley when I am in one.... Then I feel even worse becasue I am pregnant and very happy about that.... *sigh* perhpas it's just hormones 
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