Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss November 08

Jen, Indy, hannah, mel, princess, mannie, blueij: Thank you so much for your support and for the engagement congratulations. It is much appreciated. After having a bit of a cry over frostie yesterday am I picked up in the arvo and feel much more positive today. Have decided just to focus on the very wonderful fact that I am newly engaged and to just enjoy this time. Have been telling family, friends, work colleagues etc and everyone is so pleased for me - which has been great to take my mind off of all the IVF highs and lows.

WTH and Megsmum - thinking of you both and praying for great BT results.

To all of you in TWW - fingers crossed and sending you :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

Ruthie: I am so sorry you have been unwell, and are having such a difficult time. Know you are in my thoughts, and in the thoughts of many others on this thread.

Hi to everyone else I've missed. Being brief as in work office and have a deadline to get a massive document to printers - better get back to it - needs to go today!
xx

Many thanksssssssssssssssssssssss for your comfort ladies.

I now just wish time goes faster, so that I could try again very soon.

Have been reading the posts here about when to conceive after mc, seems like some people fell pregnant just after mc, I thought we have to wait until we get our period first, would that be any harm if we don't wait?

Thanks again ladies. I feel much better now, so glad to find this place.

TY - I've been struggling with the same question. My take is that some dr's recommend waiting up to 3 months, while others say it isn't necessary to wait at all. Also, I think that some dr's want you to wait at least 1 month so that you know when your last AF is so that they can date the pregnancy - but with the sophisticated ultrasounds they have, this isn't really necessary as they can date pregnancies from the size of the fetus measured during U/S. I think a lot of people would also say, it depends on how you feel physically and mentally. I think there's no single right answer. I do know that my dr was very clear that I shouldn't have sex or even swim until all bleeding had stopped as both increase the risk of infection. This may only apply to a d&c (my situation) and not all miscarriages - I don't know. I've decided to wait until 1 regular AF - and even if my FS won't do IVF so soon, at least we can give it a go on our own...but this is just our personal choice.

Hello ladies...have been away for a while and had a nice break, so now just catching up with all your news and wishing you all well

babymiracles...congratulations on your engagements!! yay...and sorry frostie didnt stick....hang in there...and I am glad you have happy news at the same time

TY- I second what buliej has said.... personally, we TTC this month, first cycle since my D&C...my IVF nurse said there was no harm in it

Indy- good luck!

smilantu-- sending you all the best

tocara- congrats!!

to everyone else...sending you my best wishes and hoping you get success v soon

afm- well, no AF yet but I don't think I am pregnant with a natural miracle...negative HPTs and no symptoms..I think I am about 15DPO now

Indy - Hi! Goodluck with POAS on Sunday. Wishing you a sticky :bfp:

smi - Glad you're feeling better. :hug:

babymiracles - Hello fellow Adelaidean. I've only just realised that you're in Adelaide too!

T.Y. - I don't think there's any harm in not waiting to TTC. I had a D&C so I waited 1 cycle just to be sure my lining had built back up as it gets fairly well stripped in a D&C. I was glad I did wait, as I don't think my loss really hit me until that first visit from AF. The main reason for waiting seems to be for emotional recovery. But it might be good to check with your doctor to make sure there are no medical reasons to wait. Its a very individual choice and completely up to you. :hug: to you hun.

possums -:hello: :hug:

:bluedust::stickyvibesgirl:

Hannah - so sorry lovely! But at least it means that if I'm not using my zen-vibes at the moment I have plenty to give away - sending them straight to you hun! I am sure I will restore my zen if all looks good for me at next weeks scan... here's some extra :SAAF::SAAF::noaf::SAAF::SAAF: for you leading up to next Tuesday...

TY - I was told to wait 3 months to ttc again by my ob after my 2nd loss - she said this was to make sure I was stable (emotionally I guess). I think she didn't realise that I wouldn't be stable again until I had my next baby safe in my arms! Seriously though, I was told by my GP and Clinical Geneticist that there was no medical reason to wait, and that I didn't even have to wait until AF if I didn't want to. I pretty much bled continuously after my D&C (sorry if tmi) with about 3 days off that cycle until the first AF arrived. As Hannah said, I really felt my body and mind needed that time to heal. We decided to try again the following cycle and were very blessed to get a bfp. Some women don't wait until their AF returns, fall pg and have everything go fine... gl with whatever you decide :goodluck:

Love and hugs to all of you gorgeous women,

xx

Hi,

T.Y. - My DR told me just to wait one cycle. I didn't have a D&C though and my cycle went back to normal the next month. I guess everyone is different. You just need to make sure you are emotionally ready as well as physically. We started TTC again straight away and are still trying but in a way I am glad I didn't get pg again straight away as I don't think I would've handled it too well. I would've been a nervous wreck! As I said though, everyone is different. Good luck.:)

Indy - Best of luck for Sunday.

Smi - Yes, definitely don't want to have Lupus. I have seen many of my family in pain. I really feel for you! :hug:

Possums - I really hope your miracle happens this month! I think we all deserve an early Christmas present.

Hannah - :noaf: !!!

AFM - Not feeling that positive over the last couple of days. Not sure why but I think I am trying not to get my hopes up so I won't be disappointed. Even though I will be anyway!

Thank you for your replies.

Buliej - Hope you can conceive naturally

Possums - Good Luck to you this month, please keep us informed

HannahD - Can't wait to hear the good news from you.

Jenushka - Completely agreed with you, I wouldn't be stable until I had my first baby in my arms!

Mel - I think I am emotionally ready already, I also miscarried at week 6, didn't do a D&C, just want to try as soon as possible. However, I do admit that it's better to wait one cycle.

By the way ladies, I miscarried a week ago, just stopped bleeding, how come I still have tammy pain? not serious though. Is it normal?

Hey Ladies,

I hope your all doing ok. this is just a quick post as i'm at work.

I will be 20 weeks on friday! I cant believe i'm halfway there already!!! I felt my fist proper big kick last night, it was the most amazing feeling in the world. I've having flutters for past couple weeks, but this one you could feel by putting hand on my belly! It was so nice!

I have my 20 week scan on tuesday, so fingers crossed that all goes ok, i cant wait to see bub again.

Sorry only flying visit!

Lots of :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: and a great big :grouphug:

T.Y It is totally up to you in what you decide. I Had a D&C at beginning of July, and by the middle/end of july i had been totally blessed and had fallen pregnant again. I'm now 20 weeks gone and am feeling bubs every movement. So i didnt listen to the doctors and wait as i wanted to start TTC straight away and i'm so glad i did.

Tocarra - wow, that is fabulous news - Congratulations!!! :confetti:

Big hello everyone, hope you are all doing ok. Big Hugs to my wonderful friends and big hello & welcome to any newbies. Sorry to see newbies in here & hope your time in here is short lived. This thread offers fantastic support!!!

Just a little update on me - 8.5 weeks to go now. Had a bit of a scare on the weekend though with a bleed, Bub and I are both ok but it scared me. I spent Fri night in hospital so they could monitor Bub (who kept me amused by kicking the thingy strapped to my tummy that was trying to monitor his/her hb). Bleeding has stopped and Ob gave me thorough examination on Sat & Mon and has assigned me to rest at home so have started mat leave 4 weeks early. But if I have another bleed I have to go straight to hospital & stay there until Bub is ready. My placenta, although low, isn't low enough to warrant a caesar so I'll be trying for a vaginal birth - somehow I think it will be sooner rather than later but will keep you all posted. Ob just wants to see me get to 34 weeks then he'll breathe a sigh of relief and deliver Bub whenever Bub is ready or my body has had enough. Anyway, enough about me. Just wanted to drop by and let you know I am thinking of you all the time. There is plenty of room in paml so hoping to see you all there soon.

Best Wishes and loads of :bluedust::pink-babydust::bluedust::pink-babydust:

Good morning! :grouphug: This is going to be a quick one for me. Have lots of housework to do before we pick up my step daughters for the Thanksgiving holiday, so will have to try to come back later for persies.

Just wanted you all to know that I'm thinking of you and you're all always in my :pray:


:pink-babydust: :bluedust: :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: Big :hug: for everyone!!!

Quickie for me too...gettin' ready for Turkey Day!

AJC...REST!!!

Gurlies...BIG :grouphug:

jenushka - Thanks for the zen-vibes. Am feeling much calmer today. I'm still a little anxious but I'm not feeling so impatient. I'm sure all will be fine at next weeks scan. Sending lots of :stickyvibesgirl: and :goodluck: your way.

Mel - Hang in there. :noaf:

T.Y. - If its not serious, maybe its just you're uterus contracting and things settling back down. If it does get serious though, I'd get myself straight to the doctor to rule out an infection.

fifi - Wow! 20 weeks already. And yay for big kicks! :dance:

ajc - Thanks for popping in and giving us lots of well wishes. I'm sending plenty back at ya! It sounds as though you could do with them at the moment. Wishing all the best for you and bub. :stickyvibesboy::goodluck: Rest up!

Happy Thanksgiving to all of our American friends!

:hello: to everyone else :grouphug:

Hi everyone...sadly AF arrived today...feeling yuk with bad cramps etc...but at least I know my body is working again after the D&C...and i didnt really think I was pregnant


sorry for no personals right now...sending you all the best though

Hey girls thanks for all the stickyvibes and love me and bub are doing very well so far I'm :pray: so hard that my lil bub sticks this time !!! talk to you all later :hugs:

Just a quick one for Jen yeah it was a shock to me because I didn't think I would fall pg this soon when I went and took the blood test I didn't even think I was pg but I'm happy and I think this may be the one I feel a lot different this time around and I'm trying to stay positive ...

toccara - just a quick one...Can I ask what your HCG level was? I know that no two women have the same but just at this early stage I find reassurance when I finally go and get my BT next week that Im on the right track.

sorry girls no time for persies at the moment....am 14DPO and still high temps and its looking good, doing another pg test on Saturday...its so hard to hold out. Have doc appt next Thurs 4th to get Bloods done...

love you girlies and thanks for the stickyvibes I really need them this time...hopefully its 3rd time lucky! xxx

Mannie - That all sounds good! :crossfingers: for you and all the best for your drs visit next week.

Toccara - :pray: for you and your little one!

Possums - I replied to you in the LTTTC TWW thread, but so sorry again about AF :( Stupid witch, you'd think she'd know that she's not wanted!

Jen and smi - Have a lovely Thanksgiving ladies! :)

AJC - Goodness me! Make sure you take it easy OK?

fifi - Yay for kicks! And GL for your 20 wk scan as well.

TY - Sorry can't help much with the tummy pain, I had a D&C and never had much pain after it. I would call your dr if you are worried at all.

Mel1979 - Sorry to hear you are not feeling that positive :hug: Unfortunately I know only too well how it feels! After this long I don't get my hopes up too much anymore either, it makes it a little easier (not much!!) to cope with the disappointment. Am hoping that you are wrong though and that this is the one!

babymiracles, jenushka, HannahD and everyone else - Thanks so much for the well wishes :grouphug:

And a big hi to anyone that I have missed - mollycat, buliej, Indy, princess85 - hoping I haven't missed anyone!

AFM - Am expecting AF today and as yet she still hasn't shown. Not getting my hopes up yet though, she could still show today or tomorrow morning. Anyway am off to the clinic for my BT and a visit to the FS at lunchtime tomorrow, so hopefully should have an answer either way late tomorrow afternoon. Will let you all know a soon as I can what happens!

Hi everyone,

Apologies in advance for this negative post. I am sitting here in tears but I really need to talk.

I just rang my FS for my results to see if I was ovulating and apparently I didn't ovulate this month. Well, that's put all the temperature crap out the window since I had a temp rise on CD13. I am so upset and disappointed. I really hoped it would be this month. I don't understand how you can ovulate one month and not another. I had to try so hard not to cry over the phone to the nurse. It's just not fair. :cry:

Does anyone know what this means? Is it just a matter of going on Clomid?

I have to wait 2 weeks to go back to the FS to get any answers. I also have adrenal deficiency which is linked to auto immune diseases which I think isn't helping.

I just feel like I am letting DH down (I know he would never think that, he is so loving and supportive). He would make such a great father and it breaks my heart I haven't been able to give him a child.

Oh well, at least I can expect my period now and won't get my hopes up as I know there is no chance.

I will come back later tonight when I am feeling better (and more positive) to write persies.

Thanks for listening :hug:

Mel - :hug: I've had this happen a couple of times to me too - it absolutely sucks knowing that you have no chance, I'm so sorry hun.

I would think that most likely they will suggest Clomid, it is the usual "first step" before other forms of AC eg. FSH injections, IVF. I have done Clomid a number of times, first time fell pg but miscarried, and used it again post m/c a number of times with very mixed success, which I put down to my "old age" ;) I didn't always ovulate on Clomid and it badly affected my endo lining too, that's why I'm doing IVF now. Don't mean to scare you at all, I think seeing as you are only a young thing ;) compared to me you've got a really good chance of Clomid working for you :) There are heaps of ladies on the boards here that have had success on Clomid! And with the extra monitoring (BTs and ultrasounds) you get when you are taking it, you will have a much increased chance of conceiving.

Don't go thinking you are letting DH down :hug: I'm sure he doesn't think that at all. Just keep perservering and you will get there! This may be the reason that you are having trouble conceiving - it is better to know about it and have it treated than keep going along in the dark month after month hey? And how much sweeter will it be when you finally have your bub?!

Take care of yourself xx

Mel1979 - I'm so sorry you are having such a rough day. I don't know much about ovulation so can't help you there. But as for DH - I have EXACTLY the same feelings - despite the fact that my DH has been fantastic, doesn't blame me at all - but I struggle with the fact that I can't give him a baby...at least yet. I think he'd be a fantastic dad and it just breaks my heart that it's not happening and I feel like its my fault. I don't know what to do to fix how I feel, but thought it might help if I share that I feel the same way.

Toccara and Mannie: CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! :clap::dance::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
These babies WILL STICK!!!
My very best wishes going your way!!!

All my girls here... Thank you so much for thinking of me.. I feel much better about my kidney stone..it looks like it was just one and I passed it that day.
Things have not looked up here yet...but we are hanging in there AF has not arrived since my D&C on 9/12 and I don;t think she will come until I see a specialist... the only time I know we can see a specialist is maybe on tax return season in April.. yeah April my due date.

There is only one thing I feel super bad about and that is.. that my son will turn 4 on Dec 16th and if any of us don't get a job by then it will be sad to not get him anything.
Hubby has a few interviews for the first week of Dec but when you start a new job they don't pay you right away.. I just hope we can get my son at least a cake or something.

If hubby gets a day job I will try to get a night job..( so he can stay with Erick Daycare is out of the question) I know we won't have a minute together but for now I think we will have to sacrifice that.

sooooo tomorrow is thanksgiving and I'm cooking a few things.. hubby got his last check from his job and we have to be wise as to how to spend it.. we just don't know when we will get $$ again and it's scary.

But we will try to make the most out of it tomorrow...
Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving!!!

hugs te you all.:grouphug:
Ruthie

possums - Sorry to hear AF is being hard on you. Hope she eases up soon. :hug:

toccara - :stickyvibesgirl: Wishing you all the best.

mannie - Here's some :stickyvibesboy: for you too.

megsmum - Goodluck with the BT and FS appointment tomorrow. :crossfingers: you get some good news.

Mel - :comfort: I'm so sorry hun. As megsmum said, at least your on way to getting some answers. Take care of yourself.

buliej and Mel - I also feel like I've let DH down by not being able to hold on to our baby. Its good to know I'm not the only one. Even though our journey to parenthood is tougher than most, we can't let it come between us and our partners. It'll make the day we see DH holding our forever babies in their arms that much happier and our partnerships that much stronger. :hug: to you both

ruthie - :crossfingers: that something comes out of your DH's job interviews. Sending lots of positive and lucky vibes your way. Things have got to look up for you and your family soon. :hug:

Ok, I'm back! Feeling a little better now as DH has been trying to get me to see the positives of it as well as giving me heaps of cuddles. At least we know what the problem is and we can hopefully do something about it. I'm hoping it's just a matter of going on Clomid and :pray: that it works for us.

Thanks so much for your messages of support, it means the world to me. What would I do without you girls??? It didn't help that I had gone shopping for baby things today as I have a baby shower to go to on Sunday and another friend has just had a baby. I had to put them in the spare room as I couldn't bear to see them. I feel selfish but can't help it.

Won't be going back to FS until after AF arrives which means if I go on Clomid I won't be starting it until January. Decided we will have a break in December and just try to enjoy the festive season! Actually looking forward to relaxing and not worrying about when my o day is!

Hannah - Thanks so much. Still wishing for :noaf: I'm glad I am not the only one who feels like I am letting my DH down. But you're right it will make it all that much special when they hold our babies in their arms for the first time. I expect to be a blubbering mess when I see that happen! Imagining that day keeps me going.:)

Megsmum - Thanks for your message. I'm sorry Clomid didn't work for you. I am glad we are finally getting answers even if they are not the ones I wanted to hear. At least we have something to work with now. I wanted my GP to do this test 6 months ago but he fobbed me off so not entirely happy with that.
Best of luck with the BT & FS appointment. :goodluck:

Buliej - I do think it is great the fact that will all care so much for our partners that we just want to give them what they want most in the world. Not every one has that so I thank my lucky stars all the time that I have such a wonderful husband. It certainly brings you closer together and strengthens your relationship.

Ruthie - Gee, you just can't get a break can you? Really don't understand the welfare system in the US I think we get it easier here in Australia. :comfort:

Mannie - Good luck for Saturday :crossfingers:

Toccara - :stickyvibesgirl:

TY - if the pains persist or get worse make sure you go straight to your GP or hospital as it could mean you have an infection. I was a little bit sore after my m/c but nothing too bad.

Possums - :angry: stupid AF - sorry she showed! Better luck for next cycle.

Fifi - how special to feel kicks. good luck with your 20 week scan.

AJC - Rest, rest, rest! Must've been such a scare, glad everything is ok.

Happy Thanksgiving to smi, jen and Ruthie.

Big hi to everyone else.

smi, Toccara, & Ruthie--Happy Thanksgiving!!!! Hope you all enjoy your turkey day!! I don't know about you girls, but I can't wait to eat!! :)



For all the amazing women I've had the honor to have met, I just wanted to let you all know how grateful I am for knowing each and every one of you! You all help me get out of bed each morning and go about my day--I wouldn't be here if it weren't for the awesome friends I've made! :grouphug:



As always, extra special big :hug: for my Friday night girls! *kiss* Love you all!!


Ok, I know that was cheating.... but I promise to be back at some point for persies! Gotta get Tom the turkey in the oven!! Yuuuuummmm!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING to all those american girls. Have a great day


:hello: to everyone.

Jen - not sure if i'll catch you tonight, need to be up early tomorrow. I'll see how I go. :hug:

Mel - good luck with the clomid. DS2 is a clomid baby, conceived on the third month. Unfortunately for us, it never worked again, although I do O by myself, it was supposed to give a little help.

Ruthie - special :hug: just for you. DH will get a job. Hey, share one of those special hugs with Erick for me.

Happy Thanksgiving from me too!!! Let's hope 2009 brings lots of blessings to be truly thankful for!

:clap: CONGRATs to Mannie and Toccara - so very happy to hear of your BFPs!!! Sending all the sticky vibes possible. :hug:

Mel - first of all, need to give you a big :hug:. Then, while I can't help with ovulation/clomid discussion, I would suggest that if it turns out you have any inkling of an autoimmune disease, you should ask your FS or GP or similar for a referral to an endocrinologist. I have been seeing one for my thyroid deficiency and from what I understand there is a link between autoimmune disease and infertility. That may not be the case 100% of the time but it is certainly worth looking into. If you were in Melbourne, I would recommend the one I see but can't help you for Tassie, sorry.

megsmum - hope all goes well this morning hun :pray:

TY - welcome hun - the hugs are there for you too :hug:

Mostly, i am lurking and cheering you all on with my special pink and blue pom poms :cheer::bluecheer: - mollycat, jen, ruthie, smi, wth, hannah, buliej, possums, babymiracles, jenushka, Indy, princess85 and anyone else i have missed.

delly - if ur lurking, just wanted u to know ur missed sweet.

Mannie--Good luck with your appt. next Thurs! Stickyvibes!



:hello: princess, Hannah, & buliej! *hugs*



Mel--So sorry to hear you didn't O. How truly frustrating for you! Big *hugs* and I hope and pray that the Clomid works for you! Good for you for allowing yourself to enjoy a stress-free holiday season! Bring on 2009 and a sticky BFP!!!



jenushka--Best of luck with your 2 upcoming scans! I'm so relieved for you that you're able to have the reassurance of the scans. :hug: Love the pic of your little Bean! BTW, was lol at your post about me sharing the jen-love! Belllyrubs and sticky vibes!!



Indy--:goodluck: with POAS on Sat! Got everything crossed for you!



babymiracles--So happy that your engagement is helping you get thru the woes of IVF. It's great that you have something else to plan and look forward to! *hugs*



T.Y.--My dr. wanted me to wait 2 cycles, but after researching online, I decided to begin TTC right away. Obviously it's not working well for me, lol, but the point is that I decided when the time was right for me. Wishing you the best of luck with whatever you decide. *hugs*



Possums--So sorry to hear about that witch, AF! *hugs* Wish you lots of luck with this next cycle!



fifi--Woo hoo for baby kicks! :hooray: Good luck with your 20 week scan on Tues. Have a safe trip, will miss chatting with you! *kiss*



AJC--OMG, so sorry about your scary bleed! So glad it's stopped--make sure you rest, rest, rest!!!



Toccara--Hey there, little mama! :) Hope you're having a great Thanksgiving! Just wanted to send you some extra :stickyvibesgirl: and some positive thoughts and prayers! This is going to be "the one"!!



Megsmum--Hey cycle bud! Saying major, major prayers for you! :noaf: Good luck with your BT results and your FS appt. tomorrow! :stickyvibesgirl:



Ruthie--Hope you're enjoying your Thanksgiving! Wishing your DH the best of luck with his job interviews! Chin up, hon, keep your faith! *hugs*







Mollycat--Thanks, hon! *hugs* Will miss you in chat! To be honest with you, being the day after Thanksgiving and having no real reason to be up that early, chances are I'll be missing out on chat, too! Glad that we caught each other the other day, tho! *kiss*



Hey smi! Hope you enjoyed your turkey and are having a relaxing holiday! Are you off tomorrow for Black Friday--will you get to enjoy any of those awesome deals everyone has the day after Thanksgiving? *hugs* We got our turkey in kinda late, so we STILL haven't eaten yet! I'm SO ready for some grub!! lol....



Krystie--Always thinking of you and little Chyan! *hugs*

Hello lovely ladies. Just a quick one from me - have a trillion things to do today - life has suddenly got very busy

Megsmum - am thinking of you today and praying you get a good result

Ruthie - hang in there sweetie. Hope things pick up soon

Mel - sorry about lack of ovulating this cycle - I understand your frustration - hang in there honey

TY - welcome to the thread - I am sorry for you losses but glad you have found this very supportive thread filled with such wonderful ladies

:hug::hello: to mannie, princess, hannah (yeah for adelaide), bluiej, possums (how are those poodles doing - mine are off for haircuts today!), WTH, MO3B, mollycat, smi, plc, jen, toccara, fificlaire and everyone else!

AFM - well have been enjoying my first week as a new fiance! Am actually now thinking of trying to organise the wedding for april, may next year - that way at the most (fingers crossed oh please let it happen) i will be four months pregnant! Think this could work - very hard to plans one life when don't know whether will get pregnant or not! Good news for me - AF showed up on wed arvo - which means I get to have another frostie transfer for this year (just snuck in for cut off dates as lab closes for xmas). So first blood tests start again in just over a week. Praying for more luck this cycle.

xx

Just a quick one....wanted to say HAPPY THANKSGIVING to all our American Friends!!! drink be merry and above all be Thankful for what you have and whats in store for you this year (hoping lots of BFP's)!!!

and one more - goodluck Meg with the BT results today please let us know how you go...thinking of you all

big hugs to you Mel - your time will come, just think postively and remember its better than not knowing at least now you can do somethign about it...have only heard good things about Clomid so am praying for you luv...

ok back to work now arghhhh!!!

Just quickly popping in to say good luck with the bt results Megsmum ..... I have arms, legs, fingers and toes crossed for you :crossfingers::crossfingers::goodluck::goodluck:

Happy Thanksgiving to those who are celebrating - enjoy your turkey and your yams ;)

:bluedust::pink-babydust:

jeunshka and mannie and jen...hello! hope you are well

babymiracles--- yay for you a FET this year...fingers crossed!

plc1805- hello to you too...i do my fair share of lurking :lol:

mollycat :hello:

mel1797- glad you are feeling a bit better now about things. And try not to feel guilty about not being able to give your DH a baby ..YET....I've sometimes felt that way too, because the problems are with me...but it's not our fault and our DHs love us and don't blame us...

hannah- hope you are going ok...

ruthie- glad you are feeling better and happy thanksgiving!

mesgsmum- fingers crossed for you!!

buliej- hello, hope you are handling things ok...i know about feeling bad about not being able to give DH a baby...but it's out of our hands

afm- feeling better with less bad cramps this arvo...compulsively staring at babies in the shopping centre way too much, but apart from that feeling fairly sane and stable this week :lol:

Hi all, I know it is very early days, I began to miscarry on Wednesday night and still am. It is a horrible thing to go through. It can be very awkward and lonely so I am very grateful that I found this wonderful website. I am wondering how long (the bleeding) will last, it is quiet heavy & clots +++ - SORRY FOR TMI. Although I am still devastated I am feeling a bit better today - realising that something just was not right. How long till we can TTC again? I have heard the womb needs to replenish nutrients etc, but I have also read that you are very fertile after MC. Thanks for replies and for such a wonderful website. I am hooked.

Maddysmum - I'm so so sorry for your loss. :hug: I can't help with how long the bleeding will last as I had a D&C. But as for when to TTC again, its completely up to you (unless your doctor gives you a medical reason not to right away). Most advice is to wait at least one cycle to allow the lining to build back up (probably more of an issue if D&C) and to date the next pregnancy more accurately. Take this time to say goodbye to your angel. You have a found a great place here with wonderful, supportive ladies who all know what you are going through. I don't know where I'd be without them.

Mel - Glad you're feeling a little better. *hugs* And yay for enjoying the holiday season! Goodluck with clomid in 2009.

mollycat - :hello: How are you?

jen - Hope your turkey was worth the wait! :hug:

babymiracles - Yay for FET before the end of the year. :pray: it works. Hope AF is taking it easy on you.

megsmum - How did the appointment with FS go?

possums - I'm doing ok thanks. Don't worry, I keep staring at babies too. And pregnant women. Got caught staring at a pregnant woman's belly this morning. She was about as far long as I would be by now. *sigh*

toccara, plc, ajc, krystie, mannie, fifi :stickyvibesboy: :bellyrubs: :stickyvibesgirl:

Big hello and :hug: to buliej, jenushka, ruthie, smi, ty, indy, princess, mo3b, wth and anyone I have missed.

afm - Well, I'm still hanging in there. Not feeling so positive the last couple of days. Will just have to wait and see what happens Tuesday morning. Have had to pee a lot today though...

Hi ladies,

Thanks for all the good luck, I'm really hoping that it'll work!!

But I still don't have my BT results yet :doh: The blood was done fairly late in the day, so will be waiting for results until the morning now, bummer. But the good news is no AF!

:pray: for a good result tomorrow, will let you know how we get on :)

Maddysmum - Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss :( HannahD has pretty much covered it all, like she said most drs recommend waiting one cycle, but there are plenty out there as well that say there is no need to wait. :hug:

Good morning girls! Thanks for all the Thanksgiving well-wishes!



babymiracles--Yay for sneaking in another FET before the year's end! Hope you're having fun with the wedding plans!



Mannie & jenushka--Sending all my most positive Zen vibes your way! :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: And lots of bellyrubs, too!



Possums--Oh, I so know how you feel! :hug: Although I have more of a problem staring at pg women than at babies! I'm sure I've freaked quite a few of them out with my long, lusty stares! :rofl: For some reason I can handle the babies--it's the big, round bellies that bum me out!



Maddysmum--My sincere condolences over the loss of your little angel baby! :comfort: You're right, it's definitely an awkward and lonely time--I hope that you're able to find comfort and support here with us so that we can help make the days seem just a little less dark. While none of us would ever wish this pain upon anyone else, it helps so much in knowing there are others out there that can relate to you and what you're going thru! I didn't have a D&C, and bled for about a week after my m/c. Hannah pretty much covered everything as far as how long you should wait--but you're right that women are very fertile after a m/c, so I know that for me that was a HUGELY positive thing that kept me motivated and gave me a reason to keep going. Once I read that there was no real reason why you couldn't begin TTC right away, I was READY! Of course, I'm still working on it.... but there's many who fell pg right after their m/c, so there's always hope! You're in my thoughts and prayers, hon.... Welcome to our humble little thread, may you find as much love, comfort, and support as I have! *hugs*



Hannah--Mmmm, turkey was SO worth the wait! Keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending lots of :pink-babydust: your way!



megsmum--OMG, the suspense! I'm :pray: so hard for you!! :stickyvibesgirl:

Just checking in and letting you girls I'm doing well I just want thursday to be here already so I can know bub is ok !!!

Hi everyone. Just when you thought I had forgotten you all here I am :D

This whole IVF-with-PGD attempt this month has been pretty full-on. BT on Monday but somehow I know it is just not "our month". Because we managed a normal embryo, DH wants to try naturally next month before we are allowed to do our next cycle. So I will no doubt be back on this thread in full swing for the silly season sharing in yet another marathon BD effort.

Jen and Ruthie - happy thanksgiving :D
Jenushka - I am so happy the way things have turned out for you (and you give me a little hope) :dance:
MegsMum - you know I have everything possible crossed for you :crossfingers:

:bluedust: :pink-babydust:

Take care, WTH xx

OMG girls, I just got my BT results......and its a BFP!!! :cheer:

My HCG is 184 and prog 105, which according to the clinic is all good. You don't know how many times over the last year that I have thought this day would never come!

I just have to get through the first tri now without having a nervous breakdown.......:rolleyes:

OMG OMG OMG!!!!! Congratulations Megsmum!!! yayayayayayayay :hooray::hooray::hooray:

I am just so thrilled for you hun - wishing you a happy and healthy pg... and those bt results are great

I have experience in fluctuating between zen/positivity and being a complete nervous wreck - I find closing my eyes and hanging on really tight seems to help ;)

I can't stop smiling for you :)