Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss October '08 #2

PLC - hi there sweets, how you and your bump doing? Huge :bellyrubs: coming her way!
Possums - aww hun, great big hugs for you :hug:. There is not a lot that can be said to make you feel any better, but I like you, posted for the first time here yesterday and I am overwhelmed with the warm welcome I have received so it looks like we've found ourselves an amzing support network in this group of lovely ladies
Molly - thanks so much for the welcome
Mannie - thanks to you too. Boo to the postponed dr appt but best of luck for tomorrow. All those preggie symptoms are sounding mighty encouraging, have everything crossed for you that this is the stickiest of bubs. Ohhhh, your DH sounds like a real sweetie, hee hee I hear you on having to be selective about who you can tell - my MIL couldn't keep it quiet if her life depended on it, for that matter, my Dad was so excited with my first (molar) pg, he had to tell people too - so cute!!!! But what a GREAT chrissie pressie you have for them all :)
Ruthie - lol at the family portrait. My extended family is so small prob be similar size!! DH family MORE than makes up for it though :lol:. Thanks, I def am well down the healing road now but sometimes I just wish time would go really quickly so things can be normal again and the awful grief isn't so raw but really, what is normal now? I know for a fact that the last 18 months have changed me and made me a stronger and better person but what I wouldn't give to have that innocence of a first pg back :cry:
Jen - thanks, whats all this about Jonah's lunar stuff? I am very curious! How do I find it? Congrats on the awesome fundraising effort!
Fifi - hi there, glad your bleeding has stopped, long may it stay away. YAY for the popped belly!!
Smilinatu - woohoo for the eggie :bluedust::pink-babydust:
Pg SIL came round yesterday and i was very grown-up and we had a totally baby-orientated conversation and I was ok. I even made some little pink curtains for her bedroom yesterday. Still deciding about the birth but think I will wait and see how I feel on the day she goes into labour. Happy HUMP day to all, have a good one ;)

Hi folks... A quick hello and hope you are all ok.. I keep hoping to hear good news from you all

Toccarra- nice to see you are ok (thinking of you sweety x)

Jen- hows things? Congrats on the fund raising!

AFM- Had some more bleeding at 11.5 weeks, apparently I am having break through bleeding.. hopefully wont have it again... it has stopped and I am hoping all is ok..

Take care all
Rach
x

Hi Lovelies

Melissa - good on you - I cannot believe that you made pink curtains. You are amazing!
Smi - Good luck at state babes and catch that egg (you can sing that to the tune of catch the pigeon - showing my age:redface:)
Fifi - I love seeing your post - you got your BFP on the same day I lost Charles, it makes me feel part of the beautiful circle of life.
Jen - Hello back at ya sugar and awesome fundraising!
Mannie - Darling that is awful. Good luck on Thursday - I know what you mean about not telling people - but there are some people who you know will support you no matter what. Keep us posted love.
Ruthie - Honey when are you POASing??? Need some hand holding? I can set my alarm!

AFM - Listening to "it's business time" by Flight of the Concords at the moment and laughing my head off. I am just biding my time until next Tuesday!
Bring on a BFP
Hugs
A

:lol: dellydoo...you know that tune is now stuck in my brain for the remainder of the day!
PS...I am older than you :shhh:

GOOD NEWS LADIES!!!!! hubby got his Health insurance form and it will kick in NOv 1st!! YAYAYAYAYAY :leap: that means I can see a doc pretty much SOON!! WOOT WOOT!!
..ok..ok..and something else.. since my faint faint "ghost lines" and mixed BFNS 2 weeks ago..... well.. more symptoms are popping up and it scares me in a way..ok
from back then I just had like light cramping..tested and got mixed BFNs with super super faint lines... ok so this week.. especially yesterday morning I felt nausea..crazy feeling.. my stomach has been upset and back to the "sluggish feeling down there".( more CM than I wish for). Boy did I have that with this pregnancy.. I know every woman's cervix is diff and there are many theories out there.. but I really was one of em who checked my cervical position changes while TTC my past bub and once I was PG I noticed it did stay high and super soft.. guess what I have a few days checking mine and yup..it went from super low and firm 2 weeks after my D&C (when I stopped bleeding) to super high and soft now. BBS are starting to bother me last night and today.. I didn't feel them at all 2 days ago and before that.. headaches.. I had a migraine 2 days straight just like this past bub..soooooooo... what daya think??..POAS for fun??..just to see??.. if BFN I will be happy... cuz I want to see a fertility specialist..but if it happens to be a BFP (oh boy oh boy..am I scared) at least the HI kicks in soon enough for me to see a special doc for high rick pregnancies and hopefully get appropriate meds to help this baby stay (if such thing )
uumm..... I'm kinda blabbing cuz I'm nervous at the thought... but hey if I did conceive that would fast forward a lot of preconception screenings and docs visits.. so that is always good. wink

I'm not going to ask for baby dust at all...cuz I'm more nervous than excited... but if it happens it happens and I will try to not panic... :redface: I'm so afraid of loss.. we all are ... but all I can say if it;s in Gods plan then of course I will rejoice yet be concerned till delivery day.

Sooo Maybe??..dunno..I will let you all know on Thurs how POAS goes. Am so super nervous.

Jen: Thank you for the hugs moomma.. thinking of you always!


fifi: Glad you are doing much better hun.. :bellyrubs: to you!! Heey.. soon soon you will knwo what you are having!! YAYAAYAY (wait..or will it be a surprise??.. either way.....) You wil se your bub soon..YAYAAY! !any kicks yet???


Smi: :fertilise::hug:


Melissal: Def agree on that one.... I feel like I can never sit back and enjoy my future pregnancies... and it;s so sad because BOY do I LOVE being pregnant! So it sucks.
About fam.. me too.. I'm only child..and even if hubby has only one sibling but Goodness his mother has 15 siblings...so holy moleeee.. ROFL

I know how you feel and am right there with you... a HUGE hug for ya!

Rachelswirl!! YYAY you're back!1 how's your lil bub doing??... How are you??Glad the bleeding stopped......!!!:bellyrubs: for you and wishing you the very best sweet momma!!!

Dellydoo: crazy..but I have the urge to POAS on Thurs Morning. Let's see... I'm more nervous & scared than happy.

Ruthie I am so hoping you get your bfp sweetheart...
I am ok, bleeding has stopped but I'm still super paranoid!

wow- what a busy thread this one is! Thanks so much everyone for the words of support and very warm welcome!

DH and I have decided to try naturally for the next couple of months before we resume IVf in January...I have only one tube, which is apparently not in good shape, but you never know...!

ruthie- hoping you get good news

melissal- all the best to you too...may our healing keep progressing day by day!

sending all the best to all of you...will chat more when I have time.

Melissa--If you google Jonas method, then click on the one that says "Conception Calculator and Baby Gender Predictor". There's lots of info about lunar conception, and you can enter your birth info... it also helps you figure out what your moon sign is, which supposedly helps determine when you're likely to conceive the easiest. If nothing else, it's interesting reading! :hug:



Rachel S--Glad the bleeding has stopped. How scary for you! I :pray: it stops for good so you can actually relax and enjoy your pg'cy! Hugs and :stickyvibesgirl:



smi--Woo hoo! O day! :dance: I bet I know what you're having for dessert! Good luck catching that :egg: Hey, I'm supposed to O in 2 or 3 days--looks like we'll be cycle buds again!! :cheer:



Ruthie--I think with all those symptoms, I'd be POAS!! Wishing you all the best, hon!



fifi--Glad to hear you're taking it easy! :hug: Bellyrubs for you!

Rachelswirl: I'm praying all is well with you throughout your pregnancy.. your baby is fine and that's what's important. Always..wishing you the very best!♥ Keep us posted on how you do.;)
about me... uuuffffff am super nervous. I told hubby how I feel and he said he will buy me a FRER to see if it's true.
(nervously laughing)

Jen & Possums:.. thank you both hun.. well the health insurance is pretty good news.. in case there is a baby on the way.. I can literally RUN to a doc to save this baby... something I couldn't do with my Angel. So nervous.
Thank you for the support sweet mommas! ♥

:grouphug:

Possums - I am really sorry you have had to join us here. Yes - it is a busy thread. A place to go in times when you really need to lean on someone. You will find amazing support here from women who really understand what you are going through. A few of us gals here are also trying IVF. Take it easy and be kind to yourself :hug:

Had to pop in and see what you girls are up to and OMG Ruthie it sounds very positive....I have my fingers crossed and am praying for you......make sure you let us all know the result...

Jen and Smi - looks like a busy weekend for you 2 LOL enjoy it!!

Had morning sickness this morning just some dry wretching...horrible feeling but am glad the rest of the day was ok and just really really tired....doc appt tommorrow yay!!!

hugs to you all xxx

Hi everyone,

Sorry have only had time to lurk lately and not post. Been a bit down lately as well so haven't wanted to post anything negative. I am determined to be positive all month, well at least try. Failing miserably at the moment. :wall:

Angel - Where are you? Hope you are feeling better. We all miss you! :D

Melissal - Welcome, hope your stay here is short but in the meantime the ladies here offer the most wonderful support. I have only been on this thread for a few weeks but I am so glad I found it. You have been through such a tough time I :pray: that things get easier for you from here on in.
So many timesI have wished I could turn back time and start our TTC journey again just so me and DH could experience the excitement of pregnancy without all the fear and stress.
As for your SIL, just see how you feel but don't feel pressured or do anything you know you can't handle. She probably thinks she is helping by getting you involved.

Mannie - So happy to hear it is going well. It definitely sounds positive that all your symptoms are different to the last pregnancy. Sending :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: your way! Make sure you come back to say hi and tell us how you and your little bub are going.

Jen - Wow, congrats on the great fundraising total. You must be so busy. Make sure you make time for :bd: You always know the right things to say, what would we do without you!

Dellydoo - The TWW is getting shorter for us. Good luck, I am thinking of you. I am due to test next Friday if AF doesn't beat me too it! I am praying for both of us.

Ruthie - Congrats on the insurance, I hope it helps to make your TTC journey easier and less stressful. Your signs sound very promising, I know you are nervous but if it is meant to be I'm sure it will all work out for the best.

FifiClaire - So happy to hear the bleeding stopped. Congrats on the beginning of your baby bump!

Possums - Welcome, I am new here too but you really will find it helps to talk to these wonderful ladies.

Rachelswirl - Good luck with everything! :crossfingers:

Hi to Mollycat, WTH and smi and anyone else I missed. :)

I just had a look at the Jonas method as suggested by Jen, very interesting. Anything is worth a try I guess!

AFM - As I said been a bit down this week, Sunday is one year since our m/c and I just feel sad. I keep thinking of how happy DH & I were this time last year as I was pregnant and we were so excited about the future. Not sure how I will cope on Sunday but I have a wonderful DH and all you lovely ladies to lean on!

Better go, DH is calling.....

rachel - I hope the bleeding stops soon. Take care of yourself and bub.

ruthie - Hoping you get some good news - whatever you're hoping for.

mannie - I hope all goes well with the doc tomorrow.

mel - :hug: I'm sorry to hear you've been down. Don't feel that you have to stay away, we're here to help each other through those down times. Staying positive is all well and good, but sometimes you just have to let the negative out. Hoping you get a BFP.

wth - I was fine holding the newborn (wasn't sure I would be). But I looked at him and just new that everything would be okay and that one day (not too far away) I would be holding my own baby. It was seeing DH with him that I found hardest. I felt sad that I couldn't give him his own baby to hold. But, one day, it will happen, for ALL of us. :hug:
Goodluck for the coming cycle!

tocarra - Great to see you pop your head in. :pray: you get a wonderful birthday present.

jen - Well done on the fundraising total. Great to know all that hard work paid off.

fifi - Glad the bleeding has stopped. Take care of yourself.

smi - :pink-babydust: Here's to catching that egg.

hello and :hug: to adele, possums, angel (miss you around here, are you okay?), plc, melissa, mollycat, mo3b and anyone else I have missed. :bluedust::stickyvibesboy:

AFM - I have been having a really good week this week. Could be to do with the fact that I'm going to Melbourne for a few days. Some friends and I are going to catch up with an old high school friend and we're also going to see Wicked. Then tonight I got an email from my cousin. She's about 23-24 weeks (her EDD is 4 days before mine) and they've picked up an anomaly in the baby's brain. Its uncertain what it means, there isn't much to be done except wait and see. Worst case, her baby could die. If he survives, he could have some sort of neural impairment, or he could be perfectly fine. Her and her husband already have one child with a serious genetic condition. I'm just :pray: that they get a healthy child this time round.

Thanks Hannah.

My heart breaks when I see my DH holding a baby or playing with our nieces and nephews, he will make a wonderful father and I can't wait to give him that.

Have a wonderful time in Melbourne and try to forget about the stress of TTC for the weekend (impossible I know but we can but try.....).

To everyone - I am so grateful to be sharing this journey with all of you and I look forward to each and everyone one of us getting a BFP - it will happen!

:bluedust::pink-babydust:

Mannie--Much :goodluck: for today's appt!


Mel--Oh, hon, please don't feel like you can't post when you're feeling negative and down! The whole point of this thread is to be able to share the ups and downs, the struggles, pain, and frustration.... and of course, the happiness, joy, friendship, and laughter are an added bonus! This thread is your sanctuary--if you can't express when you're feeling blue here with us, then when and where else can you? Family and friends, while they may try their hardest, just really don't get it--but we do! So please, take advantage of our shoulders--lean on us for support--that's what we're here for! Don't feel like you always have to be cheery and optimistic--we ALL have our down days! Big hugs for you! Remember..... our shoulders..... you lean..... ;) My thoughts and prayers are with you on Sunday as you remember your angel baby!



Hannah--Enjoy your trip to Melbourne! Hope you can use that time to just relax and enjoy being with your friends--you could really use it, I think it will be great for you! Ooh, lucky you--I'm sure you'll really enjoy Wicked!

So sorry to hear about your cousin... please tell her that she and her baby are in my thoughts and prayers!



Angel--This place just isn't the same without you! :( Miss you much.... *kiss*



Big :grouphug: for my long-time mates smi, mollycat, Toccara, issy, Van, Chappas, WTH, megsmum, Easha, & Ruthie


And big :hug: for my new mates dellydoo, Tam, anneebee, Emmykate, babymiracles, Rachel B, babyonboard, MO3B, missbec, joni, Milla, mumma&bubba, Melissa, Indy, & Possums :bluedust:



Big :bellyrubs: for my BFP friends Krystie(and little Chyan *kiss*), Mannie, jenushka, joey, fifi, larz, pbstar, tutmae, tina, plc, AJC, Katiegirl, Rachel S, & Leyza :stickyvibesgirl:

Jen- yes DH is still trianing but he is training at the jail by on new place until the day after Thanksgiving then he going back to training all week out of town and coming home on the weekend he will be done jan 2nd ... so I guess I will offically be back to ttc in jan but I'm so scared to get pg again ...

ATM well I just found out my best friend is pg about two months along so her edd is about a month or couple weeks after what my last edd should have been I want to be happy for her but its a little hard I know she knows how I feel tho she lost a set of twins and had two more m/c's ... I'm looking forward to tcc again but at the same time I'm scared of having another m/c my heart can't take another lost ... I love all you girls big :hug: babydust and stickyvibes ....

Hi everyone,

Sorry to have not posted since my last downer of a post, but had to take a bit of time to myself to get over it all. And I'm feeling a bit better today, apart from being really tired from the nasal spray, so thought I'd better do a little post.

Toccara - It is so hard finding out about friend's pregnancies isn't it? :hug: It's not that you don't feel happy for them, but just more sad for yourself. I understand that fear too, I feel it myself but hang in there - you will have a baby to hold!

Jen - Hey there cycle buddy, we're a bit closer again this cycle! At least I haven't had to do the whole Pill thing again - no more long IVF cycles for me!!

Mel1979 - :hug: no doubt about it, one year anniversaries suck. I had mine 3 weeks ago today and it was awful. Make sure you and your DH take good care of each other on Sun!

HannahD - I'm so sorry about your cousin's bub, how awful for her :( I hope you have a nice time in Melbourne despite, it is such a great city to visit.

Mannie - Congratulations :hooray: and all the best for today.

WTH - Good luck for today!! And thanks for the ear over the last few days.

Possums - Welcome to our thread and I'm so very sorry for your loss :hug: I hope your stay is a short one! The ladies here are a wonderful support. And like WTH said, there are a few of us here doing IVF as well, so I hope you feel right at home. Take care.

Ruthie - Yay for the health insurance, although I have to admit as a former health worker, you health system confuses the hell out of me LOL I'd be POAS with those symptoms too!

RachelS - Glad to hear the bleeding has stopped, take it easy...

dellydoo - So happy to hear that you've had an FET, all the best for the TWW!

Melissal - Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss :( The baby conversations are hard aren't they? I must admit that I avoid them wherever possible. Sounds like a good plan about the birth though, don't make yourself do anything that you don't think you can cope with, take it from me a birth is a pretty intense experience. All the best with whatever you decide.

Angel - Come back!! Will miss you too :(

Phew, I did it! I hope I got everyone, but a big hi to anyone that I have missed!

AFM, the sig covers it pretty much. Just sniffing and jabbing away for now and have my first scan on Mon. I am absolutely terrified we will have another disaster like last month :(

Quick post:

Ok so now I feel slight lower back cramping as if AF was comming.. then again I felt just that with this angel bub and my other two.. SOOOO CONFUSING!!!!

Rachelswirl: I would be too (paranoid) but your baby will make it nice, safe, healthy & sound to this world on your Due date!!!!! Sending you a HUGE MEGA SQUEEZING HUG your way!!!!!!!!!!!

Mel, HannhD, Dellydoo, Jen, Mannie, Possums: (holding your hands) tomorrow morning I will POAS.. whatever comes.. I will accept.
if BFP I will be happy scared..if BFN I will be ok. I am seeing the specialist in Nov. (just around the corner)
Thank you for your support! (all of you) means the World to me! :grouphug:

Jen Jen: LOVE YOU TO DEATH!!! Thank you sweet sweet momma.I needed that hug.. (nervous laughing)..LOL
let's see... I wanna POAS..just get it over with.


WTH: hugs to ya:hug::nahnah:

Toccarra: You will have your miracle momma. I'm praying so hard for that.

Megsmum: Boy am I there with ya.. HI here SUCK.. some are good.. Thank God this one is the same HI hubby had a few years ago in his prev. job (REALLY REALLY GOOD) so am super happy about that.

I'm POASing tomorrow in the AM. (nervous as heck!!..LOL)

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