Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - October 2009

[Inanna]

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[craftymummy9]

Hi ladies hope you are all well and feeling really postive this month !

Sorry elsielouise that your DH is out of town just think of it as a good chance to get some really good growing for next cycle you know what they say about a rest !

Murrycod still got everything crossed for you I think this is the month a good few will be getting a BFP lets hope so anyway !

Scarypinkfairy any news yet did you get sorted ? I so hope you did then you can get down to the business of TTC without anymore worries.

Ric my body is playing up a bit too I think after a loss we have to give ourselves at least 6-8 wks for our bodies to get back to normal but a 2nd opinion wouldn't hurt especially if your not too keen on your GP.

Everyone else good luck with BD ing lets hope we get the receipe right this month !

AFM well I think AF arrived on mon as lost a bit of dark brown needed a pad but not a lot lost then nothing the rest of the day. Tues morning same thing and weds too but nothing today. Was wondering if I should get some ovulation predication sticks as not sure when I will O and at least if I don't then I will know for sure I didn't.
Any thoughts on these things never used them before. Antone had them off ebay seem a good price ? or would you say get them from the chemist ?

Thanks for reading anyway and this is sent to all of us

[coco1411]

Hey! I love my Avvy!! Woo hoo!! I sent the lady some photos and sh matched it perfect Even the kitties!!

This makes the possible bfn in a week bearable hahaha

[Sunny Love]

Coco, ur avatar is fabulous I LURVE IT!!!! I hope it brings you luck

[luna moth]

Greeting from the massive pregnancy convention I seem to be living in... wish I could participate.

Woohoo for the new thread! Hope there's more bfps in it!

Coco- I love your avvy too! So cute!

[Looppylouie]

Well......I just found out my sister is pregnant. I should be happy for her but I'm not really, it was meant to be my turn next. She doesn't know what I have been through, only that I have had one m/c. The only thing that makes it better is that my 5 year old niece is so excited to be getting a brother/sister. I feel like I have just been kicked in the gut, another person to become pregnant before me. It's just not fair....

Sorry to put a dampner on the new month page...

[emmas_mum]

Hi Ladies
I'm a newbie to this site but after reading your stories I thought I would share mine aswell.
I'm 29, Married to my sweetheart of 10 yrs, Mother to our beautiful little girl Emma (4) and have been trying to concieve our 2nd child for 20 months now with no luck.
In 2003 I has a m/c, thought I was 14 weeks but after some bleeding had an o/s and had actuallt lost baby at 7 weeks, had d/c same day, had 2 periods than fell again straight away which ended up being an eptopic pregnancy.
This was horrible, we were so happy that we had fallen again so quickly after our lose, than only 4 days after finding out I was pregnant again I had really bad pain on my left side followed by bleeding the next day, had o/s which show that the baby was in my left fallopian tube. I needed to have surgery straight away and left tube was quite damaged so they had to remove it.
After this we decided to wait a while before we tried again.We waited for around 6 months than decided to try again but with only 1 working F tube we knew that it would not happen as quickly as before. We trying for around 6 months than were sent to a fertility specialist but 4 days before my app I found out that I was pregnant again ( was 8 months after we started trying).
We were so happy but so anxious at the same time, I just kept thinking that something was going to go wrong again, but thankfully this pregnancy resulted in daughter Emma.
In March 2008 when Emma was 2 1/2 we started trying for baby number 2 and are still trying now.It has been a rough ride.
After 12 months of trying with no success we were sent to fertility doc and I underwent a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy which show up that there was nothing wrong, hubbies sperm count is fine, so now we are at the next step which is a fertility drug clomid.
I start taking the pills in about a week or so on the 5th day of my cycle. We are going to try this untill feb or march 2010 and if we still have no luck the next step is IVF. But hopefully the pills will do there job and we will be pregnant again in the next few months.
Well now u know a little bit about me I am looking forward to getting to know u guys and sharing all of our up and downs.
Thanks for listening
xoxoxoxo
Debbie

[budgi]

Hi all
its my first time here and 2 weeks ago i had my first miscarriage. I was 10.5 weeks. i was overseas when i fell PG and the day i got back, i started to bleed and had my first US, only to findout sac was empty. Have had the D&C now and have recovered well (physcially, emtionally well still recovering). Wanted to ask ppl how long after did they get their first AF and when did they TTC again. Some say first cycle is fine others say
2nd.
Dont know who to believe? OH yeah and i dont have a good GP so getting advice is very hard. thanks

[luna moth]

budgi - I'm so sad to hear of your loss. Where in Melbs are you? I used to live there and saw a couple of good GPs so am happy to pass on their details.

eliselouise - it's been sounding like you're in a really good place lately. I know it's going to be soon, that bfp of yours!

AFM - not much to report. I'm pretty happy with how this weird limbo period is going. It's about 8 weeks until the start of our first ttc cycle, which feels pretty close! When I was first told 6 months, it sounded like hell, but it hasn't been so bad. Things could always be worse...
(I mostly wrote that so I can go back and read it on Thursday when the wheels fall off, as they always do!)

[budgi]

budgi - I'm so sad to hear of your loss. Where in Melbs are you? I used to live there and saw a couple of good GPs so am happy to pass on their details. in the north... is that near where you were??

eliselouise - it's been sounding like you're in a really good place lately. I know it's going to be soon, that bfp of yours!

AFM - not much to report. I'm pretty happy with how this weird limbo period is going. It's about 8 weeks until the start of our first ttc cycle, which feels pretty close! When I was first told 6 months, it sounded like hell, but it hasn't been so bad. Things could always be worse...
(I mostly wrote that so I can go back and read it on Thursday when the wheels fall off, as they always do!)

[murraycod]

Welcome back from Holidays TwinSis!! Hope you had some relaxing time out!

Emmy83 25 sleeps, you will get good news either way, cuz in the end you are going to get a huge big fat positive nomatter how you have to get it X We all here with you for the ride babes X

em...sorry you have found your way here, but welcome my Darling, I'm sure your stay will be a supportive one, I have made some great friends here X You will too X
A lot of girls ask when they can start TTC again, I think once you have a full propper cycle everything should be ok, as long as Doc says you are healthy X
I wanted to try straight away, but I also had to be strong enough in myself to handle more bad news if it happened. I think I am, but who knows hey X

Mummyof4 hope that you are feeling better today, and things have leveled out for you after a good sleep X

Hi Eliselouise, even though you knew this month was a miss, sorry you got AF babes X
I missed the 60mins show but a friend taped it for me, I heard all about it at work from the girls today, sounds very interesting. Thanks for asking of me XX
You know seeing a FS can't hurt, they can at the very least do some bloods and give you a bit of guidance, or a bit of a push along

Budgi sorry you have found your way here too, so sorry for your loss hun, RIP little Angel XX And welcome to BB

Snuggly I have my Jack and Shifter ready X Hope all is well and stays that way for you hun. Be here for you wheneva you need so just gimme a hoy

SPF how are you doing anyway one week past? Hope that you are getting back to normal, not that many of us know what that is anymore, but I hope youre doing ok X

Craftymummy YAY for AF Sweety!!!! I do hope you get those darn sticks already....tell that postie of yours to get a move on there's some babymaking to do!!!!

Hi Matthew'smum I hope you are coping ok, you are always so high spitrited to everyone, are you taking Clomid ATM?? I can never remember where you are with your cycle !! Sorry

Hi Ric sweetypie X God this TWW is a killer!

SammyP I'm sorry you are feeling so flat babe X It's hard I know, and the light at the end of the tunnel is so far from reach X We will help you get through this, you will get through this. You have been so strong
What was the 3 days work offered? Have you said no yet? As much as you don't wan't to take this step in your life, it could work out to be a positive one, you never know what keeping buisy with something new can do! X Whateva decision you make you are 100% supported here my friend.

Ferrals I dropped back to 7days a fortnight since starting IUI, and finding that hard enough to juggle!!! Bloody bodies not doi'n as they told....I dunno!

Hi to everybody I missed X Gee I'm sure I posted on Saturday and there was like a page and a bit to catch up on geez!X

AFM, I have been crampy again today, but a different cramp from the first week, it's exactly like AF cramping, same as last month, same day and all, so I'm praying it isn't a bad sign for things to come. My last Pregnyl inj tomorrow morning, 1 week in, and suprisingly going nice and constant. But I just feel confident one minute, unsure the next. Doin ok though XXX

Have a nice night everybody X Fresh BabyDust to all XX

[scarypinkfairy]

craftymummy9 good news about the af in a weird kinda way. at least you know your body is in full working order now, must be a hugh relief for you

ric and budgi why do our work colleagues have to be pg at the same time!? it makes it so much harder. luckily my work colleagues that was due when i was has left. i don't know how i could have coped seeing her everyday, i think you just have to be strong and think next time it will be your turn.

murraycod, i hope this is your month not very clued up about iui, when do you find out for sure? do you just do a hpt?

SammyP why have you only given yourself to the end of the year? it sounds like you really want a baby and it's only adding pressure by giving yourself a deadline. i think if the work you got offered was something you want to do you should take it. it's good to keep your mind occupied with things other than being pg. then when you get pg you can always quit if you want to! also, the cycle i got pg i didn't notice any ewcm, i think some people just naturally get more than others. have you thought about ovulation tracking or opks?

afm i am doing really well, feeling much more like my old self i think dh is glad to have the old me back.

[scarypinkfairy]

hey em and budgi sorry about your losses, glad you have found this forum though the girls on here are great.

budgi i had a d&c on monday after learning i had a missed m/c at my 12 week scan. baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. it has taken me a long time to get everything sorted, long story, but i am on the mend now and am waiting till i can ttc again. i was under the impression just to wait till you get your first af then you can try. hopefully we can be belly buddies together.

eliselouise85 there is only a 20% of conceiving every month and it says it make take up to a year to conceive if everything is right and bd at the correct time. if you want to you can see a fs, and you basically get a whole list of routine tests done. but if you have been pg once then you should be ok, it's only recurrent m/c where there is an increased risk there may be a problem.

[craftymummy9]

Evening Ladies

Well welcome to Em and Budgi we are all in the same boat here and can give hope and support to each other on our journey TTC, some of us are young and having there 1st and some of us are older (much older) and trying for another baby after having MC.
This forum has been a great help and support to me and the girls on here are sweet and friendly and we all know how it feels to loose a baby so if we can help in any way we will

Mummyof4 so sorry you are still in so much pain you were doing so well and this is just the set back you didn't need right now but you have to carry on and look to the future !

Spfairy hope your doing better today your nearly there not much more pain and you'll soon be Bdancing the rest of the month,

Everyone else hope your all ok and feeling POSITIVE its what gets us what we want !

AFM well after 4 days of taking VITEX guess what ! yes AF finally arrived I was so pleased to see her a proper red one this time no black sh-- the real macoy ! (probably nothing to do with the vitex but who knows )
so im thinking maybe im not passed it yet ! Just counting the days and waiting for the posty to bring my DAMN OPK STICKS ! if they are not here by day 10 im off the COLES like matthews mum said !

Anyways love and is sent your way

[Matthew's Mum]

Morning all,Craftymummy-so pleased af arrivedfor you,it a relief to see her when your worrying about her stopping altogether.Good luck with this cycle...Twin sister-good to have you back from holidays...Emmy83-Hope you can find something to occupy your mind through the waiting...Eliselouise-I to watched the 60 minutes program as well'it's good seeing miscarriage being discussed & acknowledged by the media.Iwas seeing a ob/gyn through my last pregnancy ,he was also a fs so when i lost Matthew,he gave me 3 cycles to concieve naturally,then started me on clomid,as due to my age he wanted me to fall sooner than later.You usually need a referral from gp so you could talk to them about your situation.Good luck with this cycle...Em-Welcome to the thread,sorry about your loss,good luck with ttc again...Budgi-Welcome to you also,sorry for your loss.I started ttc as soon as i physically could,everyone seems different as to when first af visit after loss.My fs said first cycle was fine...

[ric]

hi em and budie, welcome to this forum. its good to talk to someone and share your grief and concerns after such a loss; and this is a great place to share your feelings and emmtions and take some advice on issues which u cant talk to anyone else and ladies here are nice and mature.
craftymummy - so finally AF showed for u, are you having cramps and pain or just regular AF? Good idea to buy from Coles if posty is not here on time....
EliseLouise - I too watched that segment on 60 minutes about the m/c and the
treatment...and the interview of the couple. that brought tears in my eyes, its good that doc's can now suppress the killer cells by giving steriod injections and can have a healthy preg. without any m/c.
SPF - how are you feeling? hope things are getting better and better.
MurrayCod - How are you, still having cramps or feeling better now? with me i am feeling allright and waiting for 10 days to fly soon, lets see.
Matthews Mum - i can understand the story you said about the prego mum at kindy gym.. ifaced the same thing in my work place....me and my colleage's fall preg at same time but i m/c and she is now 21 weeks preg...it was too hard , it reminds me of my loss...and now she is planning to go on maternity leave in dec or start jan...the only things keeps me motivated that i will be prego soon and that too carrying a healthy preg and healthy bub.
Ferrals4 - you are busy googling vitex etc...i think its a good idea, i should do that as well, as i dont know much about them and its good to have knowledge about every thing related.

hello to all i missed and all the best for everyone in 12 - 14 days wait....

[India's Mum]

Hi

I've been trying to stay away from the boards so that I am not obsessing constantly about TTC. DH and I decided to only keep trying up to the end of the year and then gracefully accept that another baby was just not on the cards for us. Because we only had a couple more goes I started acupuncture last week to maximise our chances. However, I think it might already be too late. This should be my most fertile time and I just don't seem to have the ovulation signs. Normally my most obvious sign is the CM but instead of it leading toward EWCM there doesn't seem to be any at all. It was a little under the normal amounts last month too. I can't even discuss it with anyone as my doctor is away for an undetermined period.

I thought I was beginning to cope with not having another baby but I realise that isn't the case at all. We bought a small wagon over the weekend and I should feel excited but I feel flat. We'd been saving for a little while and it was to be our family car (complete with DVD screens in the backseat for the kids) but now all I can think about is the baby I lost who was reason we started looking for a new car.

Add to that, I thought as a way to make myself accept not having a baby again, that I would look for a couple of days a week of work. A contact has rung me out of the blue offering 3 days a week but I don't want it. I don't want to work at all - I want to be home with DD and a new baby and I don't want this dream to be over so soon!