Forshelby - LMAO.... you can just be so funny sometimes. Weird dream, hope it didn't unsettle you. Got me thinking though about whether I dream in colour or not. The BB crushers have been good the past few days.. phew, but can totally relate to that innocent look they give after they are the cause of so much agony. I love the new ticker too btw.

Melster - I agree with Forshelby.... to go to a baby shower is a HUGE deal after a loss. Only go if you actually want to. If you do go, have some back up plans in case you get really upset and can't cope... so plan to leave if you're upset, or excuse yourself and go somewhere quiet. I went to my nephew's partner's baby shower 6 weeks post loss... and I really enjoyed it. One of the reasons I went is that I didn't want to regret not trying to go. I was ok with trying and being overwhelmed and having to leave. I was glad I went...it was damn hard at times too. What made me even more glad to have gone was my nephew's partner went into labour 2 or 3 days later so I saw them all again within a week. My nephew was pretty awesome too when I arrived, he came out and hugged me and said simply " I am just so sorry, it must be hard for you". Pretty damn good for a 22 year old, who's just about to welcome his first child into the world. I have to say I wouldn't go if you need to drink to go. First of all you can't leave when you want to as you may not be able to drive yourself, and I would want to be thinking clearly about how I was feeling, so I could be on top of how I was travelling. But of course, it's up to you. Drink when you get home to drown your sorrows. Hope it goes well whatever you decide.