Reet - it is so hard isn't it?.... to plan to do the right thing but then like you said you'd end up doing nothing. Go on your trip, but get travel insurance that will allow you to cancel for pregnancy or medical reasons ( I am sure your Dr could write a note indicating they don't recommend international travel to give to the insurer).... lots of women get gastro during pregnnacy and their bubs is ok. And if you take precautions whilst over there, you'll minimise the risk. No guarantees of course. Besides, you might be like Bermuda Girl and have this nice idyllic holiday with lots of saucy BD'ing and end up with your BFP ( although I am hoping you get it much sooner than Nov). Some of my fondest memories are of doing stuff whilst pregnant - surfing ( very gently) and going to Sydney are some highlights... and even though bubs isn't here, I have those memories of stuff we did do and did enjoy, and it would be sad to have missed out on that. I mean part of the reason I presume that you and DH are on the TTC rollercoaster is how you feel about each other - so go nuture yourself and your darling DH with a lovely holiday, but have a back up plan, just in case.