thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 2009

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  1. #1
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    Mar 2009
    Inglewood, WA
    120

    Unhappy First day DONE!

    Hannah thanks for the thoughts!

    It was horrible but it will never be as bad again now, 1 step at a time I guess.

    SO hard, people don't know what to say and I don't even know what I want them to do anyway so probably everything they do will be wrong.

    Has any one used the menevit, or their partners I should say.

    I was at the chemist today picking up some vitimans because Ive been a little down and lost my appetite and the lady suggested using that.
    SUch a sucker, bought it cause I think anything will help, if for nothing else then piece of mind.

    Our Termination was due to abnormalities and I think we both feel we are to blame, though that doesn't help anyway!

    Let me know if anyone has used it.

    Tomorrow will be easier I'm sure!!

  2. #2
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    Dec 2008
    NSW
    227

    Still poking around

    Sally: I got my hubby on it ( only for the last 2 weeks). I say it looks as though it helps from their website or it is very convincing My Obalso suggested him to take it and I take the Blackmores Conception Tablets and a folic acid tablet as well.

    To all the lovely ladies who listened and advised during my blable last night. Ironically I feel more relaxed.... BUT DH ( yes I told him ) was not so happy and wants me to wait for a few more months before making that decision.
    I saw my specialist today and told him of the decision and he too told me not to make it at the moment............ I still have preg hormones.... did a POAS today at the specialists and there they were 2 strong pink lines ( they weren't ever that strong when i did the test when i was pregnant. ) I have to go have bloods done tomorrow so the OB has them Monday and to make it worse I have started bleeding again ( sorry for tmi) not sure if this is normal now after 3 D&C's I am not sure what normal is anymore at all.
    I don't see myself TTC for a while if ever ... damn i hate hormones You girls do inspire me though and i know you have all been through the same emotions and feelings as I so i just want to say thanks and if its ok can I still hang about while I sort my mind out about the whole TTC thing? thanks

    Thanks Em
    aka the so so so confused one

  3. #3
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    Oct 2008
    Tasmania
    214

    Hi everyone,

    Well here's hoping the new thread brings heaps of BFP's! February didn't bring as many as I had hoped for -

    Mannie - Welcome back. Good luck on your TTC journey, I truly hope you have your forever baby by Christmas!

    Sally - I think the first day is always the hardest, you've done well to get through it. All you can do is take one step at a time. Some days will be better than others but on the days you need advice or need to vent we are all here for you

    boble - Only thing I would suggest is to BD until AF arrives which hopefully she won't! I have given up on trying to read my body, although every month I still seem to second guess every little symptom I might get

    HannahD - It's nice to know I am not alone with my feelings but at the same time it breaks my heart to know you are all going through the same roller coaster of emotions. I'm glad we can all be here for one another

    Shortcake -

    Jen - It's not often you miss persies so you must be busy! Hope you are taking some time out for yourself (although knowing you the answer will be no!).

    AFM - Went back to my FS today for a follow up after my op. He seems really positive and said the odds are definitely in our favour now my tubes are clear and my endo has been removed. He said even though my endo was mild it was enough to possibly be the reason for my fertility issues. So back to TTC until August and then if no luck we will try IVF. It will be 2 years since we started trying in August so I so hope I get my BFP before then. My FS said he doesn't want me to try any longer than 6 months after the op as my endo will most probably start to come back which could hinder our efforts again.

    Anyway he seemed really positive and was glad we got some answers as there was not really anything else he could test for!

    I haven't really got any symptoms either way (usually I get really sore boobs about a week before AF arrives). I have had some lower back pain today which is usually a sign AF is coming so I don't think it is my month

    I caved last night and POAS - BFN! I am so over seeing 1 line.......

    Better check my signature now, it's a pity I can't change my mood, guess I will just have to stay inspired

  4. #4
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    Sep 2008
    Sydney
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    Hi,
    so it looks like Ill be back in this thread again soon.
    I had a scan today and the baby measured right for dates (9w2d) and was moving and its heart was beating but the ob thinks it has Hydrops? i have another scan at a different place tomorrow for another opinion but everything I read is terrible, I will probably lose the baby but dont know when. It just horrible knowing Im probably carrying around a dying baby. How can I lose another one? its just tearing me apart. I hate myself and my body and dont think I can ever do this again.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Jan 2009
    Pennsylvania
    86

    Hello ladies! Hoping this new thread brings us lots of BFPs!


    Mannie- Best of luck TTC! I hope you get your Christmas baby!


    Hannah & Jen-


    Sally- Sorry to hear your first day back didn't go very well. Today should be alot better.


    Em- I pray that the doctor gets things straightened out for you soon. And we love having you here!


    Mel- Sorry for your BFN! Hopefully it was just to soon to test! Sending lots of vibes your way!



    Throwing around lots of and for the new thread!

    AFM- Nothing new at the moment. I might cave later today and POAS again.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Oct 2008
    Tasmania
    214

    Erybery - Oh sweetie I can't begin to imagine how scared and terrible you must be feeling but please try not to give up hope yet. I your scan goes well tomorrow everything is ok and this is your forever baby. You are in my thoughts and prayers x

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Somerset - UK
    95

    Hey Ladies,

    Sorry for lurking but am making the most of being able to sleep at the moment. I bought myself this amazing little pillow and i swear its been my lifeline!!!

    Had 34 week midwife app this morning, all is perfect. She had a poke and prod around and bubs has moved to the head down position, but who knows that all could change again, but its starting to feel oh so real now.

    Fingers crossed we can get the room finished this weekend then i can relax even more!

    Sorry for no persies - I just cant keep up.

    But welcome to the new ladies you who have joined us. I hope your stay is short and sweet.


  8. #8
    Registered User

    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    Promise I'll be back later for persies--DS finally going back to school today! Just wanted to spread some and big for the new thread!

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Jan 2009
    Pennsylvania
    86

    erybery- Honey I am so sorry for you must be so scared right now. Just know that all of us are here for you. You and bub are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that the doctors are wrong and that this is your forever baby. Try not to give up hope just yet.



    fificlaire- Glad to hear you and jelly bean are doing well!



    Jen- How excited DS is returning to school. That must mean he is feeling better?