Thanks for all the well wishes ladies I still don't have a obgyn yet Im call a few 2morrow and see how soon I can get an appt ... thats all from me right now my doc put me on cymbalta so I really tried ...
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Thanks for all the well wishes ladies I still don't have a obgyn yet Im call a few 2morrow and see how soon I can get an appt ... thats all from me right now my doc put me on cymbalta so I really tried ...
Jen - LOL at you and your "Jen Zen"! But thanks for thinking of us, and yep 5 sleeps to go to the big scan. It's next Wed so I'm starting to feel a bit nervous but hoping everything is OK. I'm feeling quite a few little movements, so at least that is a good sign.
erybery - I'm so sorry to read your news :( :pray: that more scans reveal that everything is actually OK :hug:
A big hi and :grouphug: to everyone else here, hope you are all doing OK. I do lurk and read most days, and try to keep up with you all even though I don't post too much now. I can't wait to see heaps more BFPs and more of you with us the the PAML thread!
Hello everyone ~ happy Friday/Thursday (depending on your time zone!)
:grouphug: Especially to Hannah and Jen for remembering me even though I'm not able to post as often as I'd like. I think I must be the slackest of the slack. I probably shouldn't hold my breath, but we all seem well this week...finally!
I hesitate to put this into words but....AF is late. I'm such a wuss. I'd just written all these details in about what's going on with my body but now I don't want to fully post them all in case I jinx what is maybe happening. Hope you forgive me for this relatively 'nothing' post.
Take care everyone,
M
PS - I'm editing because AF just arrived. Never again will I be so foolish as to voice what I think might be happening until it actually really is happening.
Hi Ladies,
Just popping in to spread some :bluedust::pink-babydust: and to say HELLO!
Jen - I missed your birthday, so happy belated birthday to you darling! Hope you had a lovely day :happybirthday:. Ill have a slice of cake in honour of you (not that I need an excuse for that! :rolleyes:)
Well, my 19 week scan is just over a week away. Im a little nervous but excited at the same time. DH and I have decided to find out what sex the baby is...he has twisted my arm. My guess is its a boy....im swear its trying out for the socceroos in there ;) always on the move!
Take care gorgeous girls,
Issy
Hi all!
So looking to the weekend.
Going to the shops tomorrow with my sister, feel like I should get a pedi or something but still don't feel like I 'deserve' anything nice...
Work has been good taking my mind of things but I STILL wish I was starting to feel a little more positive about how far I have come.
I know it was not even two weeks ago but I felt so black for most of the time, leading up to the termination and then after, and like I could never function again.
I think I need to maybe up the sessions Im having!!!
Hi all.
Warning for those not wanting to hear my vent ..................
OK Dh told me before my last ob apt that the did not want me making the deicison of not having any more kids until a few more months as that was when he thought we should have another go at TTC. I told him I wanted the chip implant or the injection and he said not to as he wanted to discuss trying again...DH smokes and back in August when my op was done he gave up then in October and then in December and then he made the call when he saw our little one so still and lifeless on the screen at our last scan...... then he started again.
Don't get me wrong I have told him to get patches go to the sdoc etc but he won't......
When he asked me not to make my decision I asked him why i was the one who should have to go through all these lifestyle changing events such as my blood sugar levels, diet,all those pre conception things when he couldn;t even give up smoking to give us the best possible chance at this child he so wants me to consider in a couple of months.
He said that that was it no more for good as long as I didn't get the chip or injection and give us the opportunity to reconsider TTC.
So today he left to go camping with his brothers which is all good i want him to go as he has been through a lot as well, went to kiss me and then i smelt it...He had been smoking again:wall:!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so mad !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.:angry:
I couldn't even say goodbye to him i simply put my hand up and told him not to speak to me.
I started councelling today and had been for a session and she told me to wait not make the TTC decision ..as I had told her about him and the wanting me not to have the injections and he give up smoking and give it 3 - 4 months... My counceller told me I shouldn't make the decison yet as he was prepared to make the commitment of getting healthy ready for TTC again. That we both get healthy and then make the decison together is what she told me.
I am just shattered that he couldn't keep his end of the bargin.. I am so shattered.. I don't even want to see him when he gets home on Sunday.. I want him to go stay somewhere else for a few days until I know re sort myself out.
To make it worse I still have preg hormones and have started bleeding again ....What he doesn't get is that I am STILL going through this and he wants me to think about things and he can't even commit to this himself.
I feel cheated :crying:
I see Ob on Monday mmornig and I am asking for the chip. I can't keep going like this. He has had plenty of time to commit to this but he can't keep his end of the deal. I need to now make choices for me for my body and if I have to be so primed for pre TTC and he can't even make the effort for something he wants then I have no choice but to get the chip. :crying:
Sorry I just need to vent......
Mrzbaby
Vent all you like, that sucks so much.
No idea how you would feel, can only begin to imagine the level of insane frustration you must be feeling...
ALl I can even think to say is maybe take your councellers advice seriously, I would be so so so insanely angry and its not a great time to make these huge decissions.
Thinking of you and Feeling for you.
xxoo
Oh erybery - I was so sorry to hear your news sweeting - I cannot imagine how you are feeling but hope that you have some wonderful, strong people around you and some very sensitive caregivers. I can only pray that a second scan brings better news for you - there are few words or ideas that I can offer as comfort when you are facing something such as this.
To all the ladies whose bodies are playing 'spot the symptom' with them - may this coming month bring a greater harmony and co-operation between body and spirit for you.
And huge lashings of :bluedust::pink-babydust::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: to this new thread and all our wonderful women in it.
Fificlaire - it was great to hear bub has decided to engage in a good position - it is amazing how much that eases the progress of the pg
AFM - here we are at 12 weeks and still a little odd in the head about it all (however it may just be that I haven't recognised that as my permanent state of being ...) - still got to do those 'official' announcements yet - my mum will kill me if she hears about anyone else knowing before she did or someone let's something drop before I do (got to love being 39 and quivering at the idea of matriarchal fury ;) )
Look after yourselves
Karen van
Ohhh Mrz baby
I hate the hormonal swinging depression side of it all. God I have so much empathy for you right now.
I hope your hubby see's how you're being affected, and not to be the devils advocate, but is this his way of dealing with it too?
I hope that you guys get through it. I understand not wanting to see him (if it were me I probably would have slapped mine int he face...but that's just me. Im a little dramatic)
AFM:
My chart is being *****. Yup.. Needed to be a swear word there...
It took away my ovulation date as my temps went quite low at 5dpo and I am frustrated and so upset. I think i might not ovulate this month?? Although im sure that i have ovulated... :doh: Um Im confused...
Ps...I have lost a Kilo since the m/c but im bloating like a friggin beach ball.. so not sexy..
How did you all feel about sex the first time after your m/c? For me I was a bit ambiguous about whether it was good or baaad. I wanted to cry but I wanted to forget what happened and pretend nothing happened. (Im talking about being pregnant here).
Hope you're all going well? Who else is in their first month after a m/c? I wuld be 9 weeks and 1 day today..I looked...stupid girl I am..and I feel worse than what i did before..
Jen805 my sister in law is from Canada (my brother lives there now too with their two beautiful boys) the whole date, time line still confuses the heck out of me but if the weekend is closer here that's always a good thing :) but you get to be in Sunday mode when I'm at work :(
Oh well win some loose some
Hi Coco,
Id be 15 weeks, Terminated 2 weeks ago so in a similar boat to you...
It strange isn't it, the first time after losing the baby.
I needed the clossness but felt so sad at the same time.
Strangely maybe a more important moment for my husband but needed all the same.
Mrzbaby :hug: my DP is a smoker and wouldn't even consider giving up. I haven't even gone there to tell you the truth, but I should, we (ladies) make so many choices to be health in TTC and sometimes it feels a little lop sided. I'm sending you some anti smoker vibes Keep venting it's good.
The counsellor at my clinic is so nice I think any help is worth the time.
Hey yeah and what about drinking???
I had to explain to DH about the effects of alcohol during pregnancy & TTC. He isnt an avid drinker but beers with the boys every week or sometimes twice a week I was worrying about the effects being had on his swimmies. glad you ladies bought up the lopsided health regime!:clap:
Hi Girls just a quickie to say hello, i'm thinking of you and to throw around some :goodluck::loveshower::bluedust::pink-babydust::SAAF::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
Take care
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Jen- WHERE ARE YOU HANDS???? PMSL
LMAO MO3B! They're TYPING ---for now! :rofl:
Well my ticker says day one of cycle but still no sign of AF. Just looked up and last month was a 35 day cycle so not getting my hopes....I hate waiting :wall: Not going to POAS as I don't want to burst my bubble just yet.
BBL for persies.
:bluedust::pink-babydust::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:
meh--I've definitely seen some slackier slackers! :rofl: So sorry to hear about AF.... big :hug:
issy--Best of luck with your 19 week scan! Hope to see an updated pic on your ticker and some news on the sex--how exciting! :dance: Thanks for the b-day wishes! *hugs*
sally--You deserve everything nice! Nothing that happened was your fault! Pamper yourself, spoil yourself rotten, after what you've been through, I think it's just what the dr. would order! :hug:
Oops, gotta run for a few... be back soon to finish persies! :grouphug:
Slept nearly the night through for the first time in 2 whole weeks!! No nightmares, night sweats just very light (still horrible) dreams and about 5 hours of uninterupted sleep...
So true about the how one sided the whole lifestyle changes is.
My Hubby decided all this stuff last night, thankingfully anf luckily on his own.
We are though very healthy anyway, he is going to stop drinking though for the lead up (1 and a half weeks plus seems so so long.... ESPECIALLY when I have no idea when that time of the week might actually start!!!!!)
He has started taking multi's, Menevit and fish oil - with all our situations its the unknown un-controlable part that makes it so hard so it makes sense to try and control what aspects we can if for nothing more then piece of mind...
xxoo
P.s. Can anyone help me add the icons to bottom of my messages?
Toccara - I hope you get some answers soon, and that you find a new doc. Its so important to have a caregiver that you feel you can trust.
Greenslw - Welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss :hug:. There is hope. Sometimes its harder to hold onto than others, but it is there. And as you've already found, this is a great place to come to for support and love. Goodluck with your TTC journey.
Rhi - I hope you are feeling better and that DD is sleeping more normally.
erybery - I'm at a loss as to what to say, except that we're here for you. It must be so terrible to be in the limbo you're in at the moment. But your baby has a good heartbeat and is moving around, so that has to be good, right?. I will :pray: for a happy ending.
sally - Hang in there :hug:. You've have achieved so much by returning to work and soon you will feel that. Sometimes it can take a little while for our hearts to catch up with our heads. We just have to be kind and patient with our hearts in the meantime. You do deserve to do something nice for yourself, especially after all you've been/are going through.
Mel - Thanks for your supportive words. (I'm sorry your fav pants got ruined this week too). I'm keeping my :crossfingers: that AF stays away. :noaf: :bluedust:
boble - Goodluck for the FS appointment on Monday.
charm - :hug: to you. I'm sorry you're having a rough time.
MO3B - Sending loads of :SAAF: vibes your way.
shortcake - I hope that packing and moving will help to keep you distracted.
jen - Thanks, you always managed to make me :smile:. Good to hear your back in your own bed and getting back into your routine, but I do hope you take time out for myself. If I have to do my homework, so do you.
WTH - Is there a woof-whistling smilie? I love the new avi.
megsmum - Look at that ticker go! Have you made a pregnancy announcement yet? Soon bubs will be able to make his/her own announcemet :rofl:. Goodluck for your upcoming scan.
meh - So sorry AF showed hun :hug:
issy - Goodluck for your scan in a couple of weeks. I'm glad all is well.
mrzbaby - I can't really relate since neither DH nor I smoke or drink much. But I do get resentful whenever I suggest doing something nice to remember our angel and his response is "Its not about me". It's not their body, so it's easy for men to become detached. But that doesn't mean they should. Maybe some time apart while he is off camping is a good thing. Hopefully you can talk to him when he gets back. He needs to know that you don't feel supported. Big :hug: for you.
Karen van - Congratulations on reaching 12 weeks! :leap:
Eliza - I know I was very apprehensive about sex following my m/c. I had a D&C and it was hard not to feel violated. I know I cried, but it was very important for DH and I to reconnect in that way.
Mel & Mannie - Oh I almost forgot, its David Boreanaz who played angel, by the way. I tried watching Bones, but could never get into it. Give me a brooding vampire with a soul is over an FBI agent anyday :rofl:.
Hi girls ok for a few persies then be back for more
Hannah: I have a Chamila bracelet ( like a pandora) I bought an angel with a gol inital ( the initial of the name were were going to call him) As soon as I put that on I felt a small amount of closure. I haven't taken my bracelt off since I bought it. It makes me feel close to our bub still. As for my DH He was the one who asked me not to have the contreception chip as he still wants to ttc in a few months, but it is him that can't commit..go figure..:dunno:.
Sally: As above ..As for my DH He was the one who asked me not to have the contreception chip as he still wants to ttc in a few months, but it is him that can't commit..go figure..:dunno:. we are healthy anyhow but the doc reccomened he quit for 3-4 months before we ttc again. ICON go up the top of the screen to user profil a little box will drop down and then clcik on edit signature. you might go to a ticker site create the ticker and then you copy and paste it into here. as well as normal tex... have aplay around with it.
Issy: glad to see your doing well...can't believe 19weeks now how that time has flown...
be back....
Hey all,
Sorry for not visitng earlier. I did this massive personal post yesterday at lunch and lost the lot and didn't have time to re-post as I was at work. I'll be back soon, just have to help dh unpack the groceries and hopefully can hop back on soon
Hugs to all
Hi Ladies,
I read a while ago in one of these threads (back last year or something) that there is a powder that some people swear by when TTC? I think it started with 'M' or "P" or something. Not really giving much info here am i? Does anyone know what the powder was or where is can get it?
I am going to give Preseed a go and this powder if i can get some...
Thanks in advance
Hi all, thankyou for your support (once again!)
My wonderful ob rung me last night to see how I was doing. I told him that since thurs night I'd had (sorry if tmi) brown discharge and clear discharge streaked with blood at times. He said from looking at the report from the other doctor (at the ultrasound place) it isnt going to be a good outcome. He thinks I will miscarry but cant say if it will happen soon or a long time. He said If I do start to bleed this weekend to go straight to the private hosp (cause he said the public wont do anything for me for hours) and tell them they need to call him. He even gave me his mobile and home phone number. Nice to have a caring and understanding ob, yet just can't believe this is happening. I go back and see him on weds for another scan but he said I can come in monday if I need to.
Just soooo confused at the moment and I hate not knowing what decision to make. It was bad enough last time when the scan showed my baby had been gone for weeks, but to see its heart beating and moving its arm - well I know you all know how Im feeling about a very much wanted baby.
Thanks for all being here for me.
Ok, sorry about that. Finished helping dh plus had a row of my fav, hazelnut chocolate. Not good for the diet, but it makes me feel good eating it! hehe. DD slept well last night, so got a good rest but this horrible cough won't go and I am sick of skulling cough medicine (not quite, but it feels that way). I also had a mini break down on Wednesday. My gf who is pg with her second, has a dd younger than mine and had posted pics on fb. Anyway I was having a look at them, then all of a sudden I had these feelings of resentment about her being pg. I am so mad at myself for feeling that way, particularly at a friend! :redface: Anyway, we caught up on the phone for social reasons & I was fine, so not sure what come over me.
Meh - Sorry to hear AF is back, the witch doesn't get that she isn't wanted! :rolleyes:
Issy - Yay, nearly the half way mark. I loved the scans. Couldn't care less about all the other stuff, but the scans used to amaze me! :)
mrzbaby - Hugs hun. :comfort: Never, ever apologise for releasing tension/emotions. I am mad at your dh! I don't know if they don't get how much we give when ttc? My dh once told me (after a m/c) that he knows that his side of things work!? WT? Yeah, thanks for that you a**hole. I reminded him quick smart that it takes two to make a healthy baby and he might have the stuff that works getting me pg, but maybe it's not that healthy as I am not staying pg. Not the nicest thing to say back but I was p*ssed.I love your bracelet idea. I think I might get some charm angels or something too for my three angels. Might suggest that to dh to buy me.
Karen - Congratulations! Not sure if I've said it before.
Coco - Confusing isn't it? Why can't things be soooo much simplier? I actually avoided sex for a month and a half afte m/c. Just couldn't get my head around it plus I was spotting, which I was a bit freaked out, plus when we did dt, that's when af come (sorry of tmi).
Ooh, ooh - yeah, the drinking! I told my dh he should give up in Feb, yeah right I think it made him drink more!
Mel - I know about not wanting to test in case it's not two lines and then you are back to square one.... I hope you get your BFP! :crossfingers:
Sally - Glad to hear you had a good rest.
Abbey - Sorry can't answer your question.
erybery - What a wonderful obs. I hope that the bleeding stops and your pg progresses 'normally'. I don't know what else to say, but am sending you positive sticky vibes. :hug:
Hello everyone else.... so sorry for being slack mid-week. I work part-time, so I can't pop in everyday, even though I'd like to!
Sending positive vibes to all. :noaf:
Take care lovelies
xx
Haven't really had much trouble sleeping until last night. I was a tad naughty and had a shot at my brothers house maybe it's the alcahol as I've been off it for so long. Or maybe it's all slowly lifting from my subconsious. I'm not overly disterbed as I'm used to much worse in terms of death and distruction with my nightmares but it was a little ich.
I think now I'm passed the one week mark I'll start sorting through the deaper feelings, I kept thinking last night one week ago I was sitting at my brothers house playing board games and being over the moon at being pregnant. I guess I'm still a little fragile. AF has stopped yaya can have a hot bath (can't do that when I'm pregnant) I also have enjoyed some soft chease cold meat and take away which is a little guilty pleasure but why not.
Now I sound like a hipocrat (spelling?) :redface: all that stuff about DP and his health. He does have a physical job eats well and takes multi vit but does smoke and drink but not more than 2 a day. we had TESA so he's not real keen on round 2 if needed after frosties are all used up, let's hope it doesn't come to that :goodluck: my DP is a baby when it comes to pain down there, I do wish he could have felt what it was like with my ovary (only one) like a watermellon and then AF from H**L when ICSI didn't work.
I'm being a real house wife today, washing cooking cleaning, while DP is putting up a fence oh so funny but I guess I'd rather not be putting the fence up.
hi there,
don't have time for persies.... so so tired today. but just wanted to pop in and send everyone some love!
for those having probs with dp's - i hope it all sorts out soon
for those having a bad time - sending big :hug: your way
for those waiting for their bfp's - sending :SAAF: and :bluesperm: meet :egg: :lol:
talk soon xx
mrzbaby -
Had a look were you said, fingers crossed this works!!
Can I ask after everyones D & C (if you had one) how long did it take for your cycle to start up again?
Just starting to think about that now... Must be a good sign!!!
Also from the abnormality my baby had (body stalk abnormalities) every one I have spoken to can't give a definate cause but some people think it may have something to do with an initial lack of oxygen to the egg at implantation stage.
Im starting to think maybe to tone down the intensity of my workouts (spin and stuff).
Any thoughts?
I did get a Pedicure - feel really good looking at my pretty toes - just like they always used to be!!!
Crazy I know.
xxoo
Hi girls,
This is the first time I've felt game to return to a forum since my MC of my 1st pregnancy in January.
I am kinda new to forums but would love to share your journeys with you.
I am right at the beginning of my second cycle (I don't know all the abbreviations yet, so bare with me). I just completed the first 28-day (normal length) cycle since the MC. Its good to at least be feeling like I am in a normal rhythm again.
I only have one fallopian tube due to my right one being removed. It turned septic after an ovarian cyst twisted and was removed by surgery. Aside from that, I have had 2 Lletz procedures where part of my cervix was removed. This hasn't had an opportunity to present itself as a challenge yet and I am hopeful that it won't be one in the future.
Last cycle I ovulated from my right side so that was never going to result in a positive pregnancy test. This cycle, I have my fingers crossed for a left-side follicle. Thankfully I can feel which side I am ovulating from. Whoever would have thought pain would be a blessing in disguise!
I wish you all the best TTC! I will back-read to catch up on what's going on in your lives.
Nice to meet you... Mel
Erybery - So sorry to hear what you are going through. Like all the other ladies i am :pray: that things will be ok.
Sally, Greenslw and melissa So sorry to hear of your losses:hug: Glad you have found this forum ladies on here are a great support.
Jen - Hope you doing ok,glad ds is feeling better.
Mel - :crossfingers: for bfp
Karen - Congratulations! on 12 weeks
hello to Boble,Mrzbaby,Rhi,Hannah,Abbey,Coco,Mo3b,Shortcake and anyone else have missed.
AFM - Sorry been slack , still feel yuk with migraines.
I'm soooooooo sorry that I wasn't able to make it back for persies last night! I'm ready to catch up now, though, so here goes....
mrzbaby--I'm so sorry about your feelings of frustration regarding DH's smoking! :hug: I so understand what you're feeling! My DF has been 'quitting' smoking for more than 9 years! :rolleyes: The time apart right now is probably the best thing you could hope for--nothing good is ever said out of anger! Sometimes we just need to be alone to gather ourselves together, and sort things out in our minds. It's a much better avenue than spending the weekend arguing and getting nowhere. I hope you follow your counselor's advice, and not make any decisions now--especially when you know that you're feeling hormonal right now--that you may regret later! Anger and sadness have a way of distorting thoughts and actions, so it's never a good idea to make big decisions when you aren't feeling emotionally stable.
My DF is a problem solver, and when he couldn't "fix it" after my m/c, he had to somewhat detach himself from the situation. I think it's just how men are... and yes, it's completely frustrating that they don't seem to suffer as much as we do, or give up as much as we do, but men are just wired differently. I found reading "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" very informative on the differences between men and women, and how they cope with things. Please know that I'm not defending your DH, or his smoking... I just wanted to share my experience and what I've discovered. The anniversary of my angel baby was last week, and when I reminded DF about it the day before, he said "I'm sorry", and that was it! Not a word from him on the day of.... I think it's just how some men are, because they just don't know what to say or how to act around us when we're feeling like we're falling apart and there's nothing they can say or do to "fix" it. Just a thought... I hope it helps! Big *hugs*
Karen--Glad to hear all is going well! :stickyvibesgirl:
coco--Sorry to hear about your misbehaving temps! :doh: It's so frustrating when ff changes things! Hope things get sorted out quickly! *hugs*
Greenslw--The time difference is definitely confusing, it took me a while to figure out--sometimes I'm still confused! Especially with daylight savings time! Oz is about 16 hours ahead of California in case you were wondering! Sorry to hear about your bad dreams. I know what you mean about replaying everything.... I couldn't stop replaying the things I had done, or hadn't done, wondering if I was somehow responsible.... I'd look at the pile of clean clothes that I had worn the week before, and I would think, "last time I wore that I was pg", or "I bought that because I was pg".... It's so tough, but a normal part of the grieving process. It's good to share those feelings rather than keeping them bottled up inside--it's also helpful to others who may be reading and feeling inadequate or ashamed for having those feelings. There is SO MUCH for your brain to process, and it's so hard, but you just kinda have to roll with the emotional waves.... and know that it will get better!
Mel--I've got my fingers crossed that biaaaaatch stays away! Sending lots of :noaf: vibes your way--and some *hugs* too!
Sally--Yay, you got your signature figured out! And good for you for treating yourself to a pedi!
I believe it takes about 6-8 weeks for AF to show after a D&C--only my first was a D&C, and that was about 14 years ago, so my memory is a little vague.... however, I think that's what some of the girls here have experienced. HTH!
Rhi--Don't be mad at yourself for feeling jealous and resentful towards your friend! :hug: It's natural and normal for you to feel that, and also very healing for you to be getting it out! Glad to hear DD is sleeping better, and hope you start feeling better soon!
Abbey--Are you talking about Macca powder? I've never used it, but I think that's what I've heard some of the other girls talking about. Not sure where to get it, but I'm sure you could google it and find out everything you need to know. HTH!
erybery--I'm so sorry for what you are going through! :comfort: I'm so glad to hear that you have such a caring and compassionate OB. I'm still saying loads of prayers that your little one stays strong and healthy! Sending some extra sticky stickyvibes your way!
MMelissa--Welcome to our humble little thread, although I'm sorry that we have to meet under such sad circumstances. :hug: Feel free to pull up a seat and join us on this bumpy TTC rollercoaster, you're sure to get plenty of support from these amazing girls! I hope your time here is short!
:hello: chappas! Sorry to hear you've been having headaches, hope you feel better soon! *hugs* So when are we going to get to see a shiny, new pg'cy ticker?
Big :grouphug: for my 'fishy' friends, megsmum & babymiracles!! :stickyvibesgirl:
fifi & MO3B--Chatting with you girls is always a great beginning to my day! But, d@mn, it sure is hard to type with only one hand! :rofl: Luv you both!
plc--Hope you're enjoying your busy weekend! Loved the extra long chat! Yay daylight savings time! :dance:
WTH--Any ideas yet, Nancy Drew? :rofl:
tutmae--Hey mama! Not long to go! Are you getting anxious? OMG, soon I won't be able to send anymore :bellyrubs:
mollycat--Missed you on Fri! Hope your garage sale went well and you got rid of lots of junk! Super big *hugs* for you!
Big hello and :hug: for Krystie, Hannah, Toccara, smi, issy, Tam, jenushka, Easha, boble, and all the other girls that I didn't mention! Please know that just because you aren't mentioned doesn't mean you aren't thought of!
Good Morning Ladies,
Unfortunately I didn't sleep quite as well as I had Friday night but still better then any day before!
MMElissa - Glad your cycle is making you feel more normal, I imagine its a very comfortting feeling!
Jen805 - Thanls for that. I think Im just praying Im one of those shorter cycles first time round so we can start trying in May. :p
Even saying May seems so soul destroying and far far away :doh:. Like I might never get there. Guess the good thing is I didn't think I would even make 2 weeks and I did.
Hubby is taking me away for 9 nights at the end of April, probably sounds silly but it would of been nice to start trying away - would seem like a relaxed time to TTC.
Oh well, another thing out of my control and making me doubt myself, but Im also guessing that is natural with all the uncertainty surrounding what we are all going through. :wall:
EVERYONE - Any other experiences with D & C's? Would love to know when your 1st cycle started....
I still don't get how one specialist can tell me start straight away and another says wait a few cycles. ARGH!!!
sallyk - I just wanted to answer 2 of your questions :)
I had a D&C after a missed m/c at 12 weeks and AF took 6 weeks to return. Also your q about workout intensity, I don't workout at all LOL I prefer a light walk, but after my embryo transfer that resulted in this pregnancy I asked my FS is there was anything I should avoid doing and he said he wouldn't recommend going out and doing an intensive aerobics class or anything that lifts your body temp excessively. So if it's an intensive class, I would probably drop it down a notch. HTH and good luck :)
:hello: to all you other lovely ladies, hope you're having a nice weekend!
Hi Sally,
ifits not too painful what is a body stalk abnormality?
After my last D&C I didnt get af back but I think thats because of my pcos so my cycles are very irregular. I was thinking last night. Since last April (started TTC) I have only had 2 real cycles. The first was 76 days, the next 60 something then I got my BFP, then had the d&C then waited and waited 2 1/2 months so the doc put me on the mini pill for 7 days to get a fake period so I could start taking a fertility drug to concieve this baby and now dont know whats going on. After I lose this one I probably wont get my period back for ages so I will have to make the decision to just see what happens or go back on the fertility drugs.
Last time I was told to wait one cycle to ttc so the lining would build up a again as the scrape you quite thin in a d&c to make sure they get everything to stop infection. but ive heard lots of different stories aboutwhen to TTC again!
sally - AF took about 5 weeks to come back after I had a D&C. Also, I have read that really intense workouts are not recommended during pregnancy, so it might be an idea to tone it down. One thing to look into may be acupuncture as it can be used to increase blood flow to the pelvic area which would then help with oxygen. I don't have any experience with acupuncture myself, but there are other ladies around who have used it, so they might be able to give more information.
Will be back for more persies later....DH is still on his kick to get me out of the house and keep me busy.
Erybery - do not give up hope, I've heard women who have had abnormal scans of their babies fearing the worst, kept the pregnancy and the baby was normal when it arrived. So please we are all praying for you and your bub that all will be well. My OB told me that you can bleed and spot all the way up to 16 weeks of pregnancy due to the placenta not closing around fully until then and thats why some women have light periods throughout their pregnancies and may not even know they are pregnant because of this. We've all heard those stories. When Im down and nothing can help me I take up the bible and read scripture this is a favourite of my DH and mine 'I can do all things through HE who strengthens me' Phillipians 4:13 I hope it can give you some solace, my favourite prayer/poem is Footprints, it has helped me cope with many adversities in my life.
HannahD - Im the same I don't watch Bones, its not the same, the Vampire side of the whole persona is what attracted me to him and his looks def helped.
Sally - I've had acupunture and have taken herbs as well, all is quite positive and its exactly as Hannah said, they stimulate your ovaries and blood flow to your pelvic area. I do recommend it and I will probably recommence going to my acupunturist however we are down to one wage at the moment and I just can't afford it right now.
Karen - goodluck with your scan
Mel - sending no AF vibes your way, and hope you get a big fat BFP!
Welcome Melissa, we all know what your feeling and what you are going through right now, just take some time to heal and take care of yourself at this time, its all about you right now. Try and remain positive you will get your forever baby as we all will and have. lots of :grouphug:
To everyone else lots of stickyvibes your way and to all the lovely ladies who are expecting lots of bellyrubs!!!
Erybery -
Easy to type about, not so easy to actaully talk about...
Body Stalk Abnormalities is when in the intial stage of implantation the split of placent (2/3) and body (1/3) doesn't happen properly.
The Placenta took to much of the egg and meant the lower body of the baby doesn't have sufficient blood supply (and oxygen) so there is nothing holding the organs in the baby and they form on the outside. SOmetimes it may just be one small opening with one organ or the worse causes is when all the organs other then the brain are on the outside.
My case was the worst the fetal abnormalities specialist had seen, with the placenta being so stumpy and short some organs seperated from the baby and implanted in my womb's wall. The placenta was also pumping the contaminated blood back into my blood stream.
The baby would of died before the end of the 2nd trimester and the blood flow and organs becoming toxic inside of me were life threatening for me.
I think that is the guilt I can't get over.
My hubby keeps saying how lucky we are - 40 years ago I would of died as well, but seeing the baby and how it formed and how much pain it must of been in never leaves my head.
I feel like it was me who failed.
39 documented cases in the last 5 years in Australia (so I have been told) and I had to be one of them...
Got to love that luck!
Thank you so much girls for your support.
Sallyk61 - My heart breaks for you darling. You've got to know, just like all of us, there is nothing you could have done.
In response to your question, it took me 5 weeks until I got my first period after my D&C. I was given the all clear to try again at week 2 after my D & C. Apparently I had healed quickly. Still, I have only just got my second period and this cycle was 28 days so hopefully I am back to normal.
I hope your body heals quickly too babe. I know how awful that first month was... not just the emotional rollercoaster, but what your hormones are doing to you too. Hang in there :hug:
Just been looking into the accupunture, spoke to my hubby and we are both thinking its something we want to do, just for piece of mind.
No one has had any side effects? No negative outcomes?