Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 08 #2

[Babyfever2007]

Jen- I'm sorry that I offended you you had your right to say what you did. I'm terribly sorry that AF is on her way I really hope she does not show up. I know theres not much more I can say but to try to be here for you. I have been praying for you and your family to have a beautiful BFP very soon. I know you have been through a lot and trying hard to get to wear you need to be. . I hope your weekend went well.


Krystie- I'm glad to see your family was very excited. Sounded like a wonderful time. I things keep going well for you.


Angel- That DH little swimmers go were they need to go! I hope your IUI went well. And, hopefully here in a few weeks you get your BFP. How was your weekend? Its Monday there today right?

[mollycat]

Jen - Yep, crappy monday - hoping the kids will be lovely today. Four in today 1x4yo, 1x3yo and 2x 2yo. Still feeling a little sick (not crappy like last week) just got a cough that won't leave. Reno's still going on (just very slowly) we've pulled out the old bath tub, still got the vanity and toilet to pull out, the wall on the vanity's side to rip out and the floor. Everything else is gone (looks very messy as we haven't taken all the old timber outside yet. I think i've convinced DH that it needs to be done soon as he was in there working yesterday morning.
I've been re-arranging the house all weekend, moved my computer out to the new area, (so now I can watch the kids and the computer), although the three year old is here now and he's sitting in the loungeroom watching television - can't win. When the next one arrives i'll have to turn it off and bring them out to play. I've finally got new curtains for the back windows as the morning sun comes in (which is lovely but will be too hot soon)

[mollycat]

I was just told that my ex-client who fell pg just after my m/c (this is the one that had a little baby and feel pg without trying) has had a little boy. Either I'm getting over myself or i'm totally horrible. I'm so glad it was a boy (the father already has five boys and two girls - it is her second boy she has two girls as well) because I know if it was a girl they were going to use the name we have in mind for our girl (WHEN we get one) - see positive thinking.

[anneebee3]

Good morning beautiful women.

Angel - Fingers and toes crossed for you today and a huge . I'm also having a big belly laugh for you and sending over all my angels to you. I you are blessed today.

Jen - I know that 7 months isn't that long to be trying but it must feel like forever for you. I had to wait 3 months (2 cycles) before my doc gave us the green light and that felt so long. I kept thinking that I'm just wasting precious baby making & baking time. Apparently you can't rush this process, but it feels like a race to me.

Unfortunately for us we need to get pregnant again so we can determine if my other fallopian tube is blocked. If it is we have to operate again to remove it and then we can commence IVF. Our doc said that if I lost my first angel because of a blocked tube then we will more than likely have the same experience with my other tube. So I'm a little nervous about what might happen and that my body might do this again to my next angel, but like my DH said we don't have a choice unless we want to stop trying for a baby. That's definitely not an option for us. If it does happen again I've got a 5-6 month turn around before we can start IVF (2 months of pregnancy and then at least 3 months recovery). Unfortunately, I think of everything as a time frame now.

This is going to sound horrible, but when the doc told me I had an ectopic pregnancy I rang my family and asked them all to pray that I would m/c our angel. I found out in the morning that I would be operated on that night (I called that operation a compulsory abortion - I'm all for pro choice but abortions would never been an option for me) and at the time a m/c sounded like the better of the two evils. Unfortunately, our prayers weren't answered, but apparently I should be grateful that I survived. I didn't feel very grateful for agreeing to that operation. I know I didn't have a choice and my bubba would have past away anyway, but she was still alive and her little heart was still beating when I went into that operation and that really hurts me to think about.

What a sad sack I am.

[Babyfever2007]

Molly- You are brave darling I think I would be terribly ****ed if someone did that (used the name we were going to use type thing). I'm glad your happy for her & trying to be supportive even though its hard. You have not lost it your just hurt. Its totally understandable where you come from. It's not easy.

Annabee- I really hope that your Tube is not blocked & that you get pregnant with a baby that is in a healthy place to grow strong at. Did they not check or do a dye test afterwards to make sure? I really hope you don't have to go through all that & that when you do get your BFP things will go well for you. that your tubes are not blocked darling. I don't believe in abortions myself unless (the mom has a condition that will kill her, AKA eptopic as one of them, Or the baby has a conditon where he/she wont make it at birth). So, don't down yourself you never really went against yourself on abortions if you continued to let the baby grow you could have been seriously sick and could have died. And, about your toy.. Lol. Whats it called may I ask?? I wanna see what it looks like.. :-D. That sucks that the batterys died. Are they replacable??

[anneebee3]

BabyFever - I don?t know if I?m breaking any rules on this forum by putting this on, I?m not promoting the website I?m just using it for it?s picture of our new toy. Sorry in advance if this offends anyone, but it?s basically turns my DH into a vibrating doodle. Honestly, it was pretty good during the short time the batteries lasted.

Mollycat ? I totally understand what you?re going through. Many years ago one of my workmates (we were actually really great friends) fell pregnant and we were talking about baby names and I told her the name I would use one day for my baby girl. I didn?t really think anything of it, until a week later we were eating in the lunchroom and she announces that baby names they had chosen. Wouldn?t you believe it, she said my baby girl?s name. I nearly fell off my chair. I was shocked and pinged off. That was just wrong. She ended up having two children over the next few years ?.. both boys. I think it was karma. I was secretly a little glad too that they were boys. You never steel baby names off your close friends.

[anneebee3]

BabyFever - What time is it where you live? Is it Sunday or Monday? It's 11am Monday where I'm at. Just wondering when you get your BT results. I'm thinking it might be Sunday where you are. You must be hanging out for those results.

I've thought of an upside of having an ectopic pregnancy, who would have thought there was one. When we fall pregnant next time the doc will start doing scan from about 5 weeks. The norm at his office is a 10 week scan and apparently you can't request earlier scans or so I've read (unless there have complications of course). I can't wait to see my little bubble with my healthy bubba inside with a strong heartbeat. Last time we had an empty bubble in my uterus and my bubba got left behind in my fallopian tube. Not really sure what happened there. I'm just that our next bubba has more of a slip n slide experience through my other tube and comes flying out the other end and crashes straight into my uterus wall (we call it my cocoon and my papa calls it my nest) and snuggles in for the long haul.

[anneebee3]

Mistyfying - Ooops! I'm so sorry about that. Is that because of the nature of the image or because it was classed as advertising another website or both. This is my first forum I've ever been on so I'm still learning the ropes. I have just read through the guidelines, however am I permitted to have a link to a song on YouTube or is that classed as advertising another site. I never meant to intentionally break the rules, so I'm just checking before I put on another link.