Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 08 #2

I'm :pray: it's going to be a BFP for you, issy! Your symptoms sound awfully promising! I've got everything crossed for you! Here's some extra :pink-babydust: :bluedust: to roll around in!


My temp dropped even further today, and I've got cramps... so I'm pretty positive AF will be here at some point today... tomorrow at the latest. I'm ok with it, not thrilled, but it's what I've been expecting for the last several days, so at least it's not a shock or anything unexpected. It is what it is...a pain in the arse, but I'm sure there's a silver lining somewhere in all this... I've just not found it yet!


Angel--Focusing ALL my positive thoughts and energy on your IUI today! Saying ch!t loads of :pray: for DH's little :sperm: C'mon guys... there's your prize... 2 big, beautiful eggs....go get 'em! As always, Krystie and I will be there with you--hey, maybe they'll let us give those little spermies a pep talk before they begin--blow on them for good luck, or something! How long will it take for them to know if it works? Ooh, Nuff.... really feel like this is going to be IT! :hug: :pink-babydust: :bluedust: Enjoy your day off--and stay OFF your feet! Love you, girl! *kiss*

EmmyKate-:hello: Sorry you got a BFN :hug: Hopefully your just to early its hard to resest POAS early. I usually spend a good 100$ on First Response Pregnancy tests a month. Its horrible addiction!.
I'm sorry for your loss of your little angel. Its been 2 months since I lost my baby & Sometimes I Sit back and think were I would be at in the pregnancy by now and I would be 15 weeks. I hope AF stays away darling and you get your BFP in a few days. :fingers:.


Mannie- About your spotting, That could be left over from your bleeding that you had 2 weeks ago and just now is coming out, Or your cervix could be irritated from the sex and caused some spotting. I did have sex right after my M/C and I did spot afterwards (of coarse this was after my bleed) So about a week later. So it shouldn't be another AF..

Anna-Wow! Sound's like you and DH had a blast, On the excpetion of the after effect of Ahcahol. :hug:. I'm a big dancer myself. Unfortantly, On my birthday we went to shooters (to play pool) & she wasn't sure of were the clubs were around here. We had a blast. I was beyond wasted & vomited all over the out side area there.. Oh sex shops are so fun! Sorry Dh crashed before you could try out your new "thing" you bought! What a party pooper.. lol. When you do use it tell us how intresting and well it worked.. ;-)... Sounds like a wonderful time.
Oh the cappicheno thing, I have those once and while while pregnant. I'm not big on choch anyways. You can have you hot cappicheno all you want sweets... :-D. Enjoy for the rest..

Issy- Hey sweets, How are you doing? Sorry to hear your dog tired. Me too, I want to sleep all day!.. Oh good luck on the POAS I'm betting it will be BFP.. Hope AF keeps away and stays away.


Jen- I :pray: that your BFP comes here very soon... How was your weekend.???


:hello: to everyone I missed..

ATM-I'm very sleepy and have been going to bed early and sleeping hard but I still don't want to wake up when I have too.. I feel so groggy!. My BB's keep getting bigger & now getting sore, I have horrible M/s but havn't quite vomited yet but close to it. I really hope that when it gets that bad DH will be next to my side holding my hair. Hes due to be home tomarrow at midnight. I will also getting my BT resutls back toamrrow.

Babyfever--You went out and got wasted after you got a BFP the other day? :o I know it was your b-day, but with the extremes that most of us go thru to become pg, I don't think you should be bragging about getting drunk and vomiting while you're waiting for BT results telling you whether or not you're pg! I mean no disrespect in any way.... just seems inconsiderate to boast about things like that when some of us have completely cut alcohol,caffeine, and smoking out of our diets in an effort to produce healthy, sticky bubs! I hope you understand where I'm coming from and aren't offended.... but I can tell you it offends ME to hear it--especially with AF standing on my front porch waiting to pounce! Sorry.... just had to get that off my chest.... I'm sure I won't be the only one offended by it, tho....so be prepared!

Krystie--Oooh, girl, give me strength! :rolleyes: I think I'm feeling some PMS coming on! If not for your BFP, I would think that Sept. was a total waste... I'm so truly happy for you that you got yours--sincerely--I hope you know that! :hug:


Hope you decided to take a sickie today--and if you did, I hope it's not because you're really feeling sick! Feel better soon! Miss you bunches! *kiss*



Angel--:pray: :hug: :pray: :pink-babydust:



Toccara--:hug: Hope your DH is home and you're enjoying your weekend with him! Thinking of you!



Hi plc! Hugs and :bellyrubs:

mollycat--It's happy crappy Monday for you, isn't it? Hope you kids are good today! Haven't heard about the renos much.... how's it going? Big :hug:



jenushka--Thinking of you! :hug:

Yes, I did a stupid thing knowing I was pregnant. I shouldn't have even picked up anything like that to drink and I felt horrible afterwards. I should have never listened to what my OB's nurse said about it being to early to hurt anything & to go ahead. I think she just told me to go do it because the fact they don't think I'm pregnant just because of that one blood draw they had on Tuesday.

I have been beating myself up every since that night & it hurts. All, I did that night was cry and pray to God that my baby was safe & to forgive the sins I did that night of drinking. I should have just gone out and had a good time without the Aholahal. It was wrong of me I should have just gone with my instincts and not have touched it, I wish I could take that night back & fix everything but I cant its too late. All, I can do is pray that bub's is okay and not do it again. Which I never will.

I Have been smoke free for about 2 months now & I only drink water, Tea, Or milk anymore. I did have some caffeine with my 2 pregnancy's (the girls) But, once and a blue moon because I hate chocolate.

So please girls, I know what I did was wrong & I trust me I'm never touching liqure pregnant/or not again. It did not feel good. I'm sorry & all of you have a right to be upset with me.

Angel - my thoughts, prayers and deluxe special positive vibes will be express chanelled to you today. I hope all went well with trigger and that today everyone does what they are supposed to do! :pray: and :hug: sweetheart! I really just want it so bad for you, BB!!

Jen - my thoughts are with you too - hope AF gets the not so subtle hint that she isn't wanted at your doorstep. I think you are quite a force having the guts to say things in this forum and looking out for everyone as you always do :hug:

hello and hugs to Issy, Easha, Mollycat (:hug:), dellydoo, Toccara, jenushka, Van, Chappas, WTH, Megsmum, Ruthie and the other lovelies I have missed.

krystie - keep looking after yourself :hug:

Jen- I'm sorry that I offended you you had your right to say what you did. I'm terribly sorry that AF is on her way I really hope she does not show up. :hug: I know theres not much more I can say but to try to be here for you. I have been praying for you and your family to have a beautiful BFP very soon. I know you have been through a lot and trying hard to get to wear you need to be. :hug:. I hope your weekend went well.


Krystie- I'm glad to see your family was very excited. :hug: Sounded like a wonderful time. I :pray: things keep going well for you.


Angel-:pray: That DH little swimmers go were they need to go! I hope your IUI went well. And, hopefully here in a few weeks you get your BFP. How was your weekend? Its Monday there today right?

Jen - Yep, crappy monday - hoping the kids will be lovely today. Four in today 1x4yo, 1x3yo and 2x 2yo. Still feeling a little sick (not crappy like last week) just got a cough that won't leave. Reno's still going on (just very slowly) we've pulled out the old bath tub, still got the vanity and toilet to pull out, the wall on the vanity's side to rip out and the floor. Everything else is gone (looks very messy as we haven't taken all the old timber outside yet. I think i've convinced DH that it needs to be done soon as he was in there working yesterday morning.
I've been re-arranging the house all weekend, moved my computer out to the new area, (so now I can watch the kids and the computer), although the three year old is here now and he's sitting in the loungeroom watching television - can't win. When the next one arrives i'll have to turn it off and bring them out to play. I've finally got new curtains for the back windows as the morning sun comes in (which is lovely but will be too hot soon)

I was just told that my ex-client who fell pg just after my m/c (this is the one that had a little baby and feel pg without trying) has had a little boy. Either I'm getting over myself or i'm totally horrible. I'm so glad it was a boy (the father already has five boys and two girls - it is her second boy she has two girls as well) because I know if it was a girl they were going to use the name we have in mind for our girl (WHEN we get one) - see positive thinking.

Good morning beautiful women.

Angel - Fingers and toes crossed for you today and a huge :hug:. I'm also having a big belly laugh for you and sending over all my angels to you. I :pray: you are blessed today.

Jen - I know that 7 months isn't that long to be trying but it must feel like forever for you. I had to wait 3 months (2 cycles) before my doc gave us the green light and that felt so long. I kept thinking that I'm just wasting precious baby making & baking time. Apparently you can't rush this process, but it feels like a race to me.

Unfortunately for us we need to get pregnant again so we can determine if my other fallopian tube is blocked. If it is we have to operate again to remove it and then we can commence IVF. Our doc said that if I lost my first angel because of a blocked tube then we will more than likely have the same experience with my other tube. So I'm a little nervous about what might happen and that my body might do this again to my next angel, but like my DH said we don't have a choice unless we want to stop trying for a baby. That's definitely not an option for us. If it does happen again I've got a 5-6 month turn around before we can start IVF (2 months of pregnancy and then at least 3 months recovery). Unfortunately, I think of everything as a time frame now.

This is going to sound horrible, but when the doc told me I had an ectopic pregnancy I rang my family and asked them all to pray that I would m/c our angel. I found out in the morning that I would be operated on that night (I called that operation a compulsory abortion - I'm all for pro choice but abortions would never been an option for me) and at the time a m/c sounded like the better of the two evils. Unfortunately, our prayers weren't answered, but apparently I should be grateful that I survived. I didn't feel very grateful for agreeing to that operation. I know I didn't have a choice and my bubba would have past away anyway, but she was still alive and her little heart was still beating when I went into that operation and that really hurts me to think about.

What a sad sack I am.

Molly- You are brave darling:hug: I think I would be terribly ****ed if someone did that (used the name we were going to use type thing). I'm glad your happy for her & trying to be supportive even though its hard. You have not lost it your just hurt. Its totally understandable where you come from. It's not easy.

Annabee- :hug: I really hope that your Tube is not blocked & that you get pregnant with a baby that is in a healthy place to grow strong at. Did they not check or do a dye test afterwards to make sure? I really hope you don't have to go through all that & that when you do get your BFP things will go well for you. :pray: that your tubes are not blocked darling. I don't believe in abortions myself unless (the mom has a condition that will kill her, AKA eptopic as one of them, Or the baby has a conditon where he/she wont make it at birth). So, don't down yourself you never really went against yourself on abortions if you continued to let the baby grow you could have been seriously sick and could have died. And, about your toy.. Lol. Whats it called may I ask?? I wanna see what it looks like.. :-D. That sucks that the batterys died. Are they replacable??

BabyFever - I don?t know if I?m breaking any rules on this forum by putting this on, I?m not promoting the website I?m just using it for it?s picture of our new toy. Sorry in advance if this offends anyone, but it?s basically turns my DH into a vibrating doodle. Honestly, it was pretty good during the short time the batteries lasted.

Mollycat ? I totally understand what you?re going through. Many years ago one of my workmates (we were actually really great friends) fell pregnant and we were talking about baby names and I told her the name I would use one day for my baby girl. I didn?t really think anything of it, until a week later we were eating in the lunchroom and she announces that baby names they had chosen. Wouldn?t you believe it, she said my baby girl?s name. I nearly fell off my chair. I was shocked and pinged off. That was just wrong. She ended up having two children over the next few years ?.. both boys. I think it was karma. I was secretly a little glad too that they were boys. You never steel baby names off your close friends.

BabyFever - What time is it where you live? Is it Sunday or Monday? It's 11am Monday where I'm at. Just wondering when you get your BT results. I'm thinking it might be Sunday where you are. You must be hanging out for those results.

I've thought of an upside of having an ectopic pregnancy, who would have thought there was one. When we fall pregnant next time the doc will start doing scan from about 5 weeks. The norm at his office is a 10 week scan and apparently you can't request earlier scans or so I've read (unless there have complications of course). I can't wait to see my little bubble with my healthy bubba inside with a strong heartbeat. Last time we had an empty bubble in my uterus and my bubba got left behind in my fallopian tube. Not really sure what happened there. I'm just :pray: that our next bubba has more of a slip n slide experience through my other tube and comes flying out the other end and crashes straight into my uterus wall (we call it my cocoon and my papa calls it my nest) and snuggles in for the long haul.

Mistyfying - Ooops! I'm so sorry about that. Is that because of the nature of the image or because it was classed as advertising another website or both. This is my first forum I've ever been on so I'm still learning the ropes. I have just read through the guidelines, however am I permitted to have a link to a song on YouTube or is that classed as advertising another site. I never meant to intentionally break the rules, so I'm just checking before I put on another link. :)

So I've lurked for a long time and never joined but I read lots of threads and feel like I know some of you ladies real well! What caused me to post is BabyFever. Getting that drunk after so many BFP's? That just didn't mesh with how bad you seem to want to be pregnant so badly and then I saw your siggy with the year "2003" as the year of your 19w loss, and again, something didn't seem right and this quote from you explained why: ,

"I havn't fallen pregnant again yet after the recent loss I had But, I do know its scary I lost a baby at 19 W exactly over 3 years ago and Its been hard everytime I fell pregnant I was always afraid to see the nightmear I had happen. I know its hard to hear and say to yourself try to relax. But sometimes when you stress out more its not good on the baby nor you either..."

Could be a typo, but I would think you, of all people would remember the date of such a horrible, horrible experience. I know I do, down to the second, and will never ever forget that second, minute, hour, day, month, and especially year that has changed me forever!

Sorry ladies for just jumping in here. I'm sure it looks strange to everyone that a stranger just pops up even though I feel like I've grown close to so many of your stories over the past couple of months. I will delete this post if I am causing trouble or offending anyone. I've just been burnt a few times and all kinds of things can happen on the internet.

Hey jen jen yeah my DH comes home every weekend ... he got sick on friday so I had to take care of him all weekend I hope him being sick don't effect his training ...

Leary- I lost my baby exactly in 2003 in January, And I had another loss that I lost 3 years ago 2006 that I did not put in my siggy. I remember every waking detail to my losses and will never forget them. I was almost going to be 17 so I was about 16 1/2 when I lost my first child & then my second was 3 years ago. With your siggys being able to only have so much to hold because of the guidelines I had to make get as much as possible in before I got cut off. With me going to post my HCG numbers tomorrow I wanted to make sure I could get my angel babies in. I had 2 wonderful full term pregnancies shortly after my first two losses, then I had 3 losses this year.

I think I'm going to go ahead an go MIA for awhile till the tread calms down. I had already apologized for my mistakes and cried all night that night and tonight once again for it.. .All, I can is say sorry for all the hearts I broke. No ones perfect and I know I sure am not perfect & never will be. I really regret that night, And I totally cannot take it back but wish I could. I feel like crawling in a whole now because I feel so bad. I now feel like the worst parent in the world..

Anna-Its Sunday here, Its 10:29 PM atm..