Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 08 #2

Leary- I know who you are. How long has it been since I was on the Site? Long ago. You guys never got to know me long enough to understand anything or gave me time or day. Please leave me alone & grow up. I never lied to you all NEVER!.. Someday one you girls are going to end up making someone kill themselfs..I was rapped in high school! And, the guy was not charged because the police officer that found the guy ontop of me said well it was her fault. I got kicked out for 30 days and the guy stayed in school I came back and dropped out. And, since the cop that was working at the school was from the Kansas Police Deparement when the other police showed up he lied to the other police & so the guy was never put in jail because it was basically he said she said stuff since the police man never came up to the matter and said she was rapped and was screaming for help. I have been bad at grammer & spelling so there for some of my posts are confusing because I type really fast without thinking and click the go button. And since my grammer is horrible everything kinda blurs together..

There you have it all... Thats why you all were so confuesed. Because my post were all over the place. And everytime I tried to explain things got worse and no one listened.

Just leave me alone! And, if you keep contiuning with this I will press charges I will find who you are and press harrasment charges. There was no need for you to come on here and bash..

Flowerchild - I apologise again. It was never my intention to offend anyone. :doh:

To all the ladies here, please accept my apologies I would never intentionally offend any one of you. I was just expressing a humourous event that I have found myself in during these crazy times we are all going through. It was just for giggles girls, not to upset anyone. But I'll make sure to go AO if I need to share any more of those stories.

Babyfever - Good luck tomorrow with your results. :)

Babyfever - I was just about log off when I saw your last post. Are you ok? You can talk to me if you need to. I'm a very good listener. Here's a big :hug: just for you.

Hi girls, thanks for all the well-wishes and for thinking of me :hug: It was a lot of fun telling my parents and I can't wait until you all get to do the same! We even told my step sons today. They were thrilled. They both only want a sister though. To the extent that they are talking about selling each other on ebay if we have a boy :ROFL:

I'll be back in a few minutes with some persies. I'm jsut going through the posts now to see how you are all doing :)

Babyfever - don't know about being strong. I remember when I first found out she was pg. I was very jealous. She had a little baby, i'd just lost mine, she wasn't trying (she was actually talking about going back onto contraception), i've been trying for years. First thoughts - "should have been me". But today when her mum stopped and told me was "i'm glad it was a boy and i'm glad everything is ok" Maybe my reaction would have been different if it was a girl (that's what i think my angel was) and even though I'd dearly love to have a girl the ultimate would be a healthy bub to have in my arms - boy or girl. I don't "own" any names and probably would have used the same one as her if we both had had girls. I just don't like people to think we've copied. BTW her mum was very surprised when I said I hadn't seen her for months. This is a lady that I used to care for her kids when she went to work - I had the youngest girl from 6mo to 5 and a bit when she started school and the little boy from 6 weeks til about 10mo. I had always been invited to their birthday parties, and the kids mum considered me "mum" too (always ringing for advice if her own mum was away).

Hope you get good test results back tomorrow. :hug:

Anna- Thanks sweets. How was your weekend? And, what you got planned this week? I'm going to Florda my first plane ride & trip out of the state I'm so excited. Me and DH are celabrating our Honeymoon since we got married in the court house while I was pregnant so we didn't get to have a honeymoon.

Molly-:hug: Exactly we don't own names, But It does hurt to hear that someone is using a name you wanted to use for your own little child. Expechally when you lost a child that you were going to name that. I thought my angel baby I lost in July was a boy myself I just had that feeling. Glad I'm not the only one who can feel what our angel babies could have been. What would the name have been for your daughter if you don't mind me asking? My little ones name would have been Preston. :-D. That's so sweet of the other mum to be so kind. Thank you for the wishes.

I do have a question about turning someone in for harassment. I did pm the mod about whats going on and some of the things that happened over a year ago so, She wouldn't be lost. I don't need to lose a comforting supportive site again over some harasser. And, she/or he is scaring me and my life, I have children too & I have my myspace linked in my profile & I'm sure she does have pictures. For goodness sake its been a year I don't understand what I did to deseve this.. ..

Babyfever - Of course I will help you but I don't know what PM stands for. :redface:

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Babyfever - Of course I will help you but I don't know what PM stands for. :redface:

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I put a message on your profile vister message place. You can go to my profile and there will be a vistor message box and you can message me back. PM= Privete message.

Mollycat - What's with you and Jen sharing the dodgy thermometer? Lol, you both need to get one of the "good" thermometers hehe.
Yay for the ex-client having a boy! One of DH's cousins is due next month with her second child. She already took a name I like, so she better be planning on calling this one Madge or Clarence!

Dellydoo - I hope you are having a wonderful time at your relaxation camp :) It sounds devine! My sister-in-law just went to a wellness retreat thing and she said the food was amazing. They only cooked organically and she loved it. Hopefully your experience is just as great!

Mannie - Thanks for thinking of me sweetness! Hopefully little chyan is still growing strong. Our scan is this friday and I'm not the praying type, but sometimes I find myself praying (to someone...) that we'll see a little heartbeat.
With the brown spotting, I wouldn't be surprised if it was left over old blood from the m/c. Or it might be that your hcg level dropped low enough for you to get AF. I ovulated before I got AF after my m/c though... Not sure if it's different girl to girl though.

Emmykate - Don't lose hope yet honey! I didn't really have any symptoms before I got my BFP. My only clue was a bit of a crampy feeling on the night of 11DPO. It felt a bit like AF coming, but was too early. I'll keep my fingers crossed that AF stays away from you!!!
Oh and how cute is the name dropping by you DH? :ROFL:

Jen - I'll pack one of the wizard chick costumes when I come to see you!
And yes, sms'ing is the same as texting. I think it stands for "short messaging service" or something. We use both terms over here though.
PS. I sent you an email and tried to attack extra "strength" to it. You know how bad I am with attachments though, so not sure if I managed it. You'll just have to catch the mental strength vibes I'm sending your way!

Anneebee - Sorry, you didn't make me jealous about the cappacinos because I've never drank coffee :ROFL: Now, if you had been drinking a Gloria Jeans white hot chocolate with marshmallows... ;) Hehe.
I've noticed that you have an 8 year old step son. Me too! And I have an 11 year old step son too. We have them about 1/3rd of the time, but the 1yo is coming to live with us next year :)

Easha - Oh my! There are more pregnant girls in your workplace than there are PEOPLE in my workplace! Lol! Oh, and it you are planning on having a pity party you should make sure that people bring presents for you ;) Don't worry sweetie, I'm sure it's your turn very soon!

Issy - Overdue!!! My fingers are so crossed that they are hurting! I hope you bought the sticks that have the 2 lines! Please please please!!!

Toccara - Sounds like you've been getting to play "naughty nurse" with DH this weekend. I hope he is feeling better! Oh, and that he didn't give you any dirty germies ;)

Angel - I hope things went "swimmingly" today! :D

Babyfever - Oh mate! I don't see it coming up on my profile and when I go into yours I can read the vistor's comments, but I can't add a comment. I don't have myspace account so I can't PM you that way either. From what I've read you are right about not having enough posts. Any other ideas. :lol:

my Myspace link is in my profile still.. I think & in order to see your profile the way you see mine you, have to lick on your own name and click veiw profile just liek you do me.

Babyfever - I've still had no luck with commenting in our profiles. I can't message you in myspace because I don't have an account. Any more ideas? I've just tried adding you as a contact and it came up "pending" so I might be able to PM you once it comes through. :)

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Babyfever - I've still had no luck with commenting in our profiles. I can't message you in myspace because I don't have an account. Any more ideas? I've just tried adding you as a contact and it came up "pending" so I might be able to PM you once it comes through. :)

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Once you have 20 posts you can PM me. I did add you as friend though. But, there is a big post on your visit message thing. I had my police officer friend come over to help me about the issue. So, I have that all fixed.

I just cannot believe someone would stalk someone after a year and out of no wear. I don't get it & why that person wont give up.

Anyways, I'm feeling better. I just hope my family will be safe..

Babyfever - You poor little thing. I'm sending love and :hug:. In 4 more posts I can be there for you in a more PM way. Ha ha ha. So keep talking. Geez it must be late there for you by now?

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Babyfever - You poor little thing. I'm sending love and :hug:. In 4 more posts I can be there for you in a more PM way. Ha ha ha. So keep talking. Geez it must be late there for you by now?

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:cryinglaugh: Yes, It is 1:30Am, And I should be in bed I feel so sick to my Stomach right now. But, I'm so hurt that I cannot sleep. I'm scarfing down an corn dog..
Thanks for being supportive. Wow, Wat a great Sunday it was for me.. Geeze.. What you up to?

Babyfever - What a horrible day that turned out to be for you? But guess what. This day will make tomorrow that much more fantastic when you get the good news about your BT. What time to you get the results? ATM I'm cleaning down a set of timber doors so that I can vanish them. Pretty exciting stuff. :D

anne-I just relized I have been calling you Anna for awhile. I should get my BT results in around noon. Possibly ealier. Just depends on how busy they are ETC...I'm so ready for them to find out I was right all along. I'm pretty sure I'm going to be asked for more BT results when they call be about my HCG & progesterone numbers today. But, I will have to wait till Tuesday to get another blood draw due to hubby wont be home till Midnight tonight & I hate driving and since my car isn't the best anyways I don't like driving in it with the kids in there just incase it broke down. Very old car 89. Then I'm leaving to Florda Thrusday AM I'm so excited!!! Sound's like fun, I wish I could help you with that.. Would take out some depression and sadness atm. Are you a SAHM? = Stay at home mommie?

Babyfever - Don't worry about the name thing ... I've been called a lot worse. :lol: I'm a 'stay at home wife' at the moment I'm renovating our house, but I intend on being a sahm once I can get pregnant. How many and how old are your little ones? Are you not expecting good news tomorrow???? I can only imagine how excite you are about your holiday/honeymoon, might be just what the doctor ordered. Are you taking the kids?

Anne- I love being a SAHM. I do miss work sometimes :-D. I have 2 living children and there ages 2 and 1 (so 1 year 1 month apart) Hailey 2 year old is April, And Aspen 1 year old is May. I better expect good news tomarrow, Or they have some issues with the people that deal with my blood or something. I may have to find a new OB if they say your not pregnant!.. Wow, That would make everything bad this week. I'm very exited I need to get away with DH for once and enjoy. No I'm not taking the kids. There going to be staying with there grandma. We will be leaving Thursday and be back Monday.

How was your weekend?

I think I'm going to head to bed its 2AM. Here, I'm going to send you a PM when I wake up about whats been going on. And, FYI going to be long.. Thank you for staying up/Taking your time to talk with me I aprishate it very much. I needed someone to talk to. Long day ahead of me.. :-)

Babyfever - We had a good weekend. We have my step son 50/50 and this was not our weekend with him so it makes for a much cruisey weekend. He is 8 so he will be at a really good age for when our babies come along. He so excited about them. Poor little fella gets a bit lonely being an only child (at the moment). You are going to have your hands full with another bubba on the way. You started young .... lucky girl. I wish I married my DH earlier so I could have had our bubbas earlier. We have actually been friends since I was 17 and I went to his first wedding. I was dating his mate/flat mate. How bizarre is that? I was never friends with his ex-wife though, which is probably a good thing now because I think that would make the relationship a little strange (if it would have eventuated at all). I'm not really a dating my friends ex-boyfriends/husbands type of girl. :lol:

Hi everyone,

Sorry, no time for personals today but I just wanted to stop by for a quick hi to everyone!

Angel - Thanks so much for the reply to my last post about the IVF stuff, it was very helpful and much appreciated :) but sorry it took so long for me to get a chance to reply. Hopefully it will help overcome all the wierd stuff that has been going on with my cycle :rolleyes: but I guess at least we don't have DH problems to deal with as well. Wishing you heaps of luck for your IUI today :hug:

AFM - just sniffing my nasal spray and jabbing myself with needles still :lol: But I'm not feeling too bad so far, and I have a scan on Friday to check how my follicles are going. Fingers crossed for a good result! Talk to you all again soon :)

Hi girls,

Still thinking of you all lots and lots. I have been stalking your charts to keep up to date. Jen and Vanaithi - any thoughts on a BFP or BFN coming your way? I hope it's the BFP. :dance:

I have updated my blog if any of you are interested.

Take care everyone.

Joey
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Ready ... catch ... :pink-babydust::bluedust::pink-babydust::bluedust::pink-babydust::bluedust::pink-babydust:

Well ladies, i'm having the worst Monday morning EVER!!!!!!!!!!

Our managing director has just sent an email out saying that our company are making 50 redundancies. So i'm a little scared at the moment, i'm not sure if my job is safe.

This is added stress i dont need at this time of my pregnancy.

Fingers crossed that everything is ok.
:pray::pray::pray::pray::pray:

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Babyfever - I don't know who you think I am but I am not stalking you! Insanity! And I don't know what I said that made you think I am other than me just being paranoid because of an incident where someone faked having cancer. There's no way that could have been you? Good luck today and glad to see you have updated your ticker. How horrible to lose all those poor babes at exactly the same gestation (if I'm reading it right, forgive me if I'm not!) I had no idea you lost TWO at 19w!

Sorry ladies for the interruption. I realize that my concern has crashed into your safe-haven and I apologize. I will definitely let this go and will go back to reading until I'm ready to share my story, if that ever occurs.

Firstly can I just say its been a while since Ive been on but I have heard through fifi that sadly some of our members have had losses and can I just say.. I am so so sorry for you both (Ruthie and Toccarra). You are in my hearts girls and Ill be sending my prayers your way.

AFM... I am now 7 weeks but I have had bleeding for over a week now and so have had to take time off work and have emergency scans, my latest being this morning and I really did doubt that there would be anything there... I have been convinced with the pain and the bleeding that I was loosing... there on the screen was a heartbeat and my little 7 week old bean...
Please can you send me some sticky vibes as I am still loosing some blood and I am terrified... they can do nothing for me other than wait and see...

Megsmom-I wish you luck on your Follie scan & you have a few good sized follies growing and ready to rupture in there. :hug:

Joey-:hello: How are you doing sweets? Getting ready to read blog Just wanted to say hello.

Fifi- :hug: I really hope things stay well & safe for you. Try to have little stress darling. I have you and family in my :pray:

RachelSwirl- I'm sorry you have been having some bleeding I hope bubs and you are doing well. I most def have you and bubs in my prayers that he or she is tucked nice and strong in there and has a Heartbeat. Try to get some rest and not be on your feet to much. When is your scan?

What's happening to our safe little thread? :( All this talk of drinking when pg, harassment, stalking, committing suicide.... sounds like a soap opera! This is supposed to be a place of comfort and support, not a place to make drama!

Babyfever, while I appreciate your apologies, I have to truly say that I think the issues with you began when you shared with us that you were cheating on your DH, and that the last angel you lost (and the one you thought you were pg with at the time) weren't even his! My ex husband (DS1's dad) cheated on me with a 17 y/o--so I have no patience or respect for people that cheat on their partners! Because it was never really brought up again, I really just tried to forget about it.... I couldn't just forget about the drinking, tho.... you've done nothing but complain about your BT results, and how you just know they messed it up, and how you know you're pg.... yet you're supposedly terrified of losing another baby, but then you go out and get drunk and are bragging about vomiting on the street.... it just doesn't make sense! How is that showing compassion and support to the woman that has just m/c... or the woman that hasn't had a cup of coffee in a year because she doesn't want the caffeine to affect her chances of conceiving... or the woman that's already pg but has fears everyday of losing another child.... or the women that haven't even been blessed with 1 child of their own to hold and care for....worse yet are those women that have been trying for YEARS to conceive, only to be faced with a BFN every month. These are real women with real feelings.... you can't compromise that without expecting repercussions!

I have come to rely on this thread and the girls I've met here.... this is my sanctuary, the one place I can be myself and feel SAFE.... without the drama! You really have to consider your words before you speak--it's a sign of respect! I am grateful that Leary shared her feelings with us--she was affected by what you said and she's not even a member of our thread! Imagine how you must've made the members feel--and most of them are just too polite to comment to you about it! I'll fight tooth and nail for the friends I've made here--we support each other whole-heartedly!

Thanks at least for the apology... it does help some... maybe after time it will all blow over, I just don't know right now....

Babyfever--I think your issues with your DH should've been left between you and him--not shared in a TTC forum. While I feel sorry for you for the way your life has turned out, it's my opinion that you shouldn't marry a person simply because you've got one child, another on the way, and because "no other man would take you" due to you having kids! Marriage is a sacred vow--yet you openly admit to not loving your DH, cheating on him, and still trying to get back together with your ex, all while TTC another child!

I'm sorry for what you went thru in high school.... I would never want to see anyone suffer--I don't want you to suffer now. It makes my heart sink to hear you mention suicide... you're much stronger than that! So please--no more of that! You do have a lot of support to offer, you've given me a lot during your time here with us, and I hope that I've been supportive of you in the past. I just honestly felt shocked at some of the things you've decided to share with us.... maybe if you just stick to the issue of TTC there wouldn't be any further complications. I know that you wouldn't hurt anyone on purpose... and I forgive you...like I said earlier, I think people just need some time, and eventually it will blow over. Thanks again for the support you've given me :hug:

So sorry girls, I'll have to do persies later.... DS is home sick and wants me to cuddle with him... taking him to dr at 11:15, then have book fair, so will post later. Sorry, I know it's late! :grouphug:



Special :hug: for the Fantastic 4 :grouphug: Love you all! Thanks for the chat this am, plc! *kiss*

Jen-After talking with a close friend last night he mentioned I should not discuss personal stuff. So, No long with that and will just talk about TTC with you girls. I'm sorry for being a little to open to everyone. That's the down side about me, That I never learned to change. I'm again truly sorry for the hurt I caused you or "anyone else". :hug: I know you have been struggling in the short time that I have known you & you have a right to say what you have said. And, the reason I mentioned Suicide is because of the fact that, what happened last night which I'm going to let go becuase I already know whats going on there is no need to mess with it anymore. But, the reason I mentioned is because a girl that was 16 on myspace had a mom that was stalking her and causing her issues and she killed herself because of the emotional stress. Everyone is a person and has feelings & we all need friends to make life better. Without support its hard because there is no one to talk to.
I try to help everyone as much as possible just the same as everyone here does. :hug:. I really hope that you do get your BFP soon & a baby to hold in your arms darling. You deseve it as much as anyone else does. :hug: I thank you for the support you have givin me as well, I very much so apprishate it. I will try not to post anything out of the ordenary again.. And, if I do maybe some you girls can help me watch out for that??
I hope DS gets better sweets..

I just found out that my husband may not be making it home tonight. I really hope he does though would be nice to be able to spend time with him. I find his job really hard on me and family. I wish someone would call him from his applicants he put in for jobs and get one at home..

Wow...lots going on in here this weekend...

Happy Crappy Monday Gurlies!

BabyFever...Jen was on the money you can't be upset with her for speaking what I am sure many are feeling...


Welcome newbies *wavin* here's hoping you find comfort and support here...God knows these ladies have been my saving grace on many occassions.

Angel...I sure hope your day off went well!!!

molly...jen...Krystie...Rachel...joey...tut...the ones I've missed...:hug:

I have begun the dreaded apartment search...shoulda done it a while ago BUT I've been hoping something would change...wish me luck!

Friday was a tough day...one of the guys here at work announced his wifey was pregnant on the day I came back from m/c...Friday their beautiful baby girl was born...

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:stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy:

ATM-No BT results yet and the office is about to close. Look's like no blood results till Tuesday. I'm pretty upset because I'm so anxious. Most of the reason I'm upset is because my Husband will not be home till Tuesday=tomorrow.

mollycat--Yay for positive thinking! :clap: I have complete faith it will happen for you! :hug: Ingenious idea moving the computer so that you can watch it and the kids!



anneebee--While it's been 7 mo's since my m/c, it also took us 6 mo's before that to fall pg.... so feels like it's been a long time! There's other's who've been waiting longer than me, tho, and going thru far more extensive lengths in order to become pg. I feel privileged to be a part of this group, it's been a life saver for me! I :pray: your stay here with us is short and sweet,and you're blessed with a quick BFP... and of course I pray that your other tube won't get blocked, and you'll have a happy and healthy pg'cy! :hug:



Leary--Thanks for looking out for our thread! I appreciate your input and your support! :hug:



Toccara--Sorry to hear DH was sick... at least he got to be sick at home with you, and wasn't stuck away from home! How's the job hunt going, have you started looking yet? :goodluck2: Hope you're doing well, hon, and healing emotionally. Lot's of :hug:



Flowerchild--Thanks for moderating! We appreciate you and all you do! :hug:

Krystie--I see you finally put the thermometer away! :clap: If no BFP for me by the time you make your trip out here, maybe you should bring me your lucky BFP thermometer! ;) Thanks for the e-mail, I sent you one back. Hope I did the right thing.... I feel like you're saying, "jen jen, you've got some 'splainin' to do!" :rofl: Going to send you another e-mail in a while... plc and I missed you in chat this am! *kiss* :hug: and :bellyrubs: for little Chyan



Angel--I'm waiting so anxiously to hear how the IUI went! :excited: I've prayed so much and so hard for you and for those little spermies to do their job! You're killing me, girl, let us know how it went!!! :hug: *kiss*



megsmum--Hey there, my junkie friend! LOL... :goodluck2: on Fri's follie scan! Hugs...

Jen - what's the go with your temps. I see they've gone back up - obviously that broken thermometer. Are you still getting cramps and twinges or are you going to POAS and put us out of our misery? :p

Jen-How is DS feeling? Hopefully hes feeling better. :hug:.

Rachel - remember our thoughts are with you and we're sending lots of :pray: for your little one. Rest up.

Jen - hope DS is feeling much better, nothing worse then your kids feeling sick.

joey--:hello: How's it going in PAML? Miss hearing from you! Hugs and :stickyvibesgirl:



fifi--Sorry to hear about your worst Monday ever! :hug: Keeping my :crossfingers: your job is safe and secure!



leary--If/when you're ready to share your story, I pray you feel comfortable enough to share it with us. Thanks again for your input--you did nothing to ruin our safe haven! :hug:



Rachel S--Oh no, so sorry to hear about the bleeding! How scary for you! I'm so relieved that your scan went well, and you were able to see your little bub and that tiny little :heartbeat: Sending hugs and loads of :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: Keep us posted!