Ruthie sweetheart - Please know that tomorrow you have women all around the world with tears in their eyes for your pain. I am crying as I type this and just hope you know how much love and support there is for you.
BabyMiracles - Darling welcome to BB - You will have support and understanding from all here. I am so sorry about your loss. I too lost my first child via IVF 2 weeks ago. I was lucky to have amazing care and am so sorry that you were not treated with respect.
EmmyKate is right - you never forget; they are too important.
Love to you all
Adele
Ruthie- I am so very very sorry, sitting here with tears i cant stop. Wish i could say something to take away all your pain but know i cant. Sending you lots of hope you know we are all here for whenever you need us.
Babymiracles- Welcome, so sorry to hear of your loss
babymiracles......I know only too well the heartache of IVF. ............hopefully soon the fog will lift for you..... day by day you will learn how to manage your pain. Some days will be alright and some days it will hurt. It is all ONE DAY AT A TIME. TIme is the only remedy. Huge hugs to you hun...... I will say one thing for you... be true to your emotions right now. Dont try and be or do or anything... just be true to you.
Ruthie... everyone else has said it
AFM...update in blog
Last edited by Baby Angels; September 12th, 2008 at 06:57 PM.
It's cold in here feels like everything's upside down
I can feel you talking but I can barely make out the sound
I been kicking around these parts, feels like a year
I?m gonna change this world if I ever get out of here
She wants to dress me in pink, paints my bedroom blue
And I just laugh to myself, because only I know the truth
This love is my only emotion
Haven't learned any fear any pain
It?s kind of funny with all this commotion
I guess they've got me to blame
And they don't even know my name
And they don't even know my name
Well I've never felt so ready, think it's finally time
Cause that big old world is waiting, and it's mine all mine
Just then everything got real quiet, it got real bright
And a man took my hand said don't worry, your momma's gonna be all right
Then he opened the gate, & I followed him in
Said you can wait right here till it's your turn again
And his love is the one true emotion
Heaven knows no fear no pain
I never got to set my wheels in motion
But they loved me just the same
And they never even knew name
Didn't even know my name
You loved me just the same
And you didn't even know my name
There are some other beautiful sentiments on my web page which the link is always in my signature.... also remember October 15th.... International Miscarriage Awareness Day
Babymiracles - I'm sorry that the IVF messed you around so much, and even more sorry that your little miracle was not destined to be born into your arms. I had to have a D&C when I lost my angel, but thankfully the staff at the hospital were fantastic. I don't know how I would have gotten through the day if I had had an experience like yours. My obstetrician told me to wait 2-3 cycles before trying to conceive again, but at my post op visit 6 weeks later I told him we started trying again once I ovulated the first time. He then fessed up that the main reason they say to wait is so that if you fall pregnant it can be dated easier, and for emotional reasons. He said that he's had many patients that have had successful pregnancies after falling straight after a loss. He also mentioned a slightly increased chance of miscarriage though, due to the lining of the uterus possibly not being thick enough. He did mention not to have intercourse or use tampons for at least two weeks because there is a risk of infection due to them manually opening the cervix. Oh, and the time it takes until you ovulate is generally determined by the amount of hcg that is still in your system. For me it took between 3-4 weeks before I began to ovulated again.
The most important thing at the moment though is for you to allow yourself to grieve the loss of your baby. Do what feels right for you, because there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You have come to a great place for support, and I wish you all the best in yout TTC journey. PS. Like your username says... "baby miracles" DO happen!
Tam - How annoying about the ultrasound lady! You would expect that they would at least be able to tell you something in your own language! And to not know what a septum was when that's what she should be looking at! I hope you FS has some better answers for you!
Ruthie: i'm just sat here in tears reading your post. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Sorry i havent replied sooner, i've not been on for a few days.
You are in my and hope you can find the strength to TTC again. you will get your miracle.
hope you know we are all here for whenever you need us.
I had to have a D&C when I lost my angel, but thankfully the staff at the hospital were fantastic. I don't know how I would have gotten through the day if I had had an experience like yours. My obstetrician told me to wait 2-3 cycles before trying to conceive again, but at my post op visit 6 weeks later I told him we started trying again once I ovulated the first time. He then fessed up that the main reason they say to wait is so that if you fall pregnant it can be dated easier, and for emotional reasons. He said that he's had many patients that have had successful pregnancies after falling straight after a loss. He also mentioned a slightly increased chance of miscarriage though, due to the lining of the uterus possibly not being thick enough. He did mention not to have intercourse or use tampons for at least two weeks because there is a risk of infection due to them manually opening the cervix. Oh, and the time it takes until you ovulate is generally determined by the amount of hcg that is still in your system. For me it took between 3-4 weeks before I began to ovulated again.
and hope you can find the strength to TTC again. you will get your miracle.
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