Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 2010

Melster, my prev two pregnancies I immediately knew I was BFP with sore bbs and nausea to boot. None this time around until 6+ weeks and even then it is nothing compared to last two pregnancies really.
I got preg with DD1 straight off pill. DD2 2nd month of trying. The first month off the pill this time I had the chem preg and the following month this pregnancy. Seems to me your chances are high that you are pregnant. Try not to worry about 'not knowing' it's prob just your fears creeping in and making you not think you are. I actually complained to the Dr about the lack of nausea and the dr was shocked at my whingeing about it......hmmmm

AFM I have just eaten a rice slice thingo I made with veges in it. Am now stressing about that....
If I have cooked it in my oven at 180 degrees for 1.5 hours and then and extra 30 mins at 200 degrees the raw eggs woulda been cooked (only had two in it) the reason I ask was the dish is slightly sloppy (prob cos of all the vegs and cheese in it) and my mind is now going WTF have I done am I bloody stupid, but anyways, the dish was burnt on the outside (cooked for that long) and steaming damn hot on the inside so they woulda been cooked yeah???
Oh I should add I normally only cook the dish for around an hour....and it was probably closer to 2.5 hours not 2 that I cooked todays for.

melster - i know how you feel. i was so terrified after my MC that it would be another 6 months before getting pregnant again and that scared me so much. i was so worried that i would fall apart if i didn't get pregnant again quickly....i became BEYOND obsessed with tracking my cycle!!

i also found my attitude to being pregnant (ie. excited and optimistic) has changed since my MC... it's a protective mechanism i guess. so i can understand how you don't feel confident at the mo...

there are no certainties in life but it's a really good sign that you have gotten pregnant so easily twice before, so remember that!!!

mum22 - i'm sure there's nothing to worry about - 2.5 hrs seems a long time to cook eggs?? and if they're hot you should be safe... eggs cook really quickly

Im just so darn negative at the moment i need to :wall: out of me LOL.......

Mum22...yeah those eggs would have defiantly been cooked by then..you'll be safe!

GlenGlen...i have actually been pregnant 3times and all on the first go...so really i shouldnt have trouble falling pregnant unless something has happened with the D&C or miscarriage or its just my body healing....I think not falling pregnant this time threw me....

My hubby keeps telling me how impatient i am..and i am...;)

Phew thanks for your confidence girls I am a stresser!!

Melster, I think it can go either way after a D&C with falling pregnant. My mum always stands by after it you are most fertile (she had a few late losses) and the drs seem to say that too. But the first month either your uterus will be strong enough and the lining thick enough for a baby or it may just need that extra month to build the lining up again to make sure your BFP stays put. So that may just explain last months BFN and this month sweetie you are in with a flying chance!! Plus melster cos you were 6 weeks it may have just taken that extra month to get rid of any l/o hormones. This month will be yours just you wait and see.

Glenglen I am soooo glad things are looking good for you sweetie. Just you wait and see you will see the HB in a week and a halfs time. I looked it up and after a Hb has been detected there is a 78% chance of it continuing this is what I keep telling myself to make myself try to stop getting too anxious.

Does anyone know when Dopplers can detect a HB at earliest?

mum22 - 78% sounds good, i'll take that! i'm feeling much more positive this time around. getting pregnant again so quickly has gone a long way to healing the loss of the last pregnancy and moving on, although i know not everybody feels that way. hearing HB by dopplers are much later aren't they... 12 weeks or something??

melster - if i was a betting woman i would say that your chances of getting pregnant either this cycle or the next are VERY VERY HIGH. so maybe set yourself that goal in your mind? i set myself a 3 cycle goal and said that if i wasn't pregnant in 3 months i was allowed to crack the *****s big time !! (not quite sure at who and what it would achieve but i think you know what i mean!)

so glenglen you only have a week and a half to get through before you get the 78% likely to continue. I also find it interesting that 10 weeks is the other milestone that the risk of miscarriage by then is only 10% and 12 weeks 1/2% nice figures to focus on.....10 weeks here I come.
HB here comes glenglen.

Oh its all good!!

Hmmm i agree with what glenglen said Melster!

thanks ladies...i really appreciate it..and you made me smile!!!!!!!!!

Im not exactly sure when a doppler can detect hb....i thought it was anything after 7/8weeks

Wow it's all happening in here this afternoon, melster hang in there darl sending you lots of positive vibes my dear and remember it aint over until we have AF on our door step so every day she is away is a step closer to our dreams darl, I have my fingers crossed for you.
AFM- I'm feeling like crap this afternoon, still feeling like I'm gunna pass out or something feeling really light in the head and now I feel a little like I'm gunna get the flue or something, had a couple of cramps this afternoon nothing serious and am now getting a headache to top it all off......woo hoo lucky me......lol.....still feeling pretty irritable(Annoyed) no idea why and worn out just wanna curl up and sleep but I won't....lol.... hhhmmmm ah well tomoro is another day.......I so wanna POAS but I won't cause I WILL WAIT FOR NO AF..........NO AF NO AF NO AF............lol....I think it helps if I keep telling her to stay away.......lol....

Clairesmummy - LOL@ your alfresco pee...

Melster - Count your cycle from the first day of full on bleeding. Ignore the spotting. Hope that helped! Technically speaking, I feel pg on cycle 28 after a mc. But before you bang your head on your keyboard.. (LOL) We weren't trying for 26 of those cycles. So realistically, I got my bfp in cycle 2. And I totally understand how bad it is wanting to be pg after a mc. It was very difficult waiting so long (more than 2 years) to try again, but I did so out of respect for DP. I wanted him to want our baby as much as I do. The worst part was being back on bcp and not trying at all. Every af was a reminder that there was no baby, and wouldn't be for a long time. So I feel your pain. Just think, you won't have to wait as long as me most likely! :) I don't know if that helps or not.

Glenglen - I'm not sure, maybe it's just wishful thinking because if I'm honest, I would prefer a girl. Not that I would be disappointed with a boy, I just see myself with a little girl, that's all. The little fluttery feelings are good, too. At first I wasn't sure if I was imagining it or not but it's continued and seems to happen more often so yay for that!

Mum22- I have lost my memory i think! Have u seen a heartbeat?! Woohoo if u have! How high was it?? I was speaking to my ob. and he said the same thing.. once a heartbeat is detected ur chance of m/c are very low.. and even lower if its a really good strong one.. made me feel a lot better! :)

Melster- Gosh u do sound like ur still in limbo land! I was the same last cycle, i think i told u that i went to dr and got a bt just to confirm that i had already O'ed cos i had no idea! I got my bfp that cycle too.. so not knowing can be a good thing! Just try and relax..(i know i know..easier said then done!) either u are or ur not pg tho.. if ur not then i bet ur next cycle is a lot less confusing and u feel a lot more in control! Ur bfp defintely wont be too far away. I fell pg 5 months after m/c, but i only had 2 cycles in that time.. my body was a mess after m/c.. it didnt know what it was doing!

Clairesmummy- Im going to be the devil again! Maybe u shld use the first response test tomoro morning and if its a bfn then atleast u know it cld just still be too early for it to show up and then use ur other hpt once af is late?? Im dying to find out.. ur symptoms sound so promising!!! haha.. but u are very very strong for not testing yet.. well done! :)

Forshelby- Oooh im so jealous that ur feeling fluttering feelings! I CANT WAIT!!! Im so glad that u can feel it so early on..its not so long for me to wait! Sorry to hear u felt so crap with a headache etc :( wonderful that ur dp came to the rescue tho! Maybe it helped him to realise that it IS hard work growing a baby! :) Oh and how about a tummy pic!!! :)

Glenglen- Wonderful results!! So happy for u!! Has the bleeding stopped completely??

Kell- Book ur scan in!! Honestly i dont think u have a blighted ovum.. im pretty sure i had one (they did a scan when i started bleeding at 9 wks, no baby, they said i cld have already m/ced it but i dont think so) and i just found out the other day that my levels were only at 1050 at 6 wks pg so very low.. i wish i was a bit more wiser and had known that it was low.. i wldnt have spent the next 3 weeks 'being pg!' U are going to be fine! Book ur scan!!!! :)

AFM- Feeling pretty good, still havent vomited.. im starting to think myself very lucky tho instead of thinking its a bad sign! Im very tired and have waves of nausea.. and really dont have much of an appetite.. but other then that..im great!

xxx

Reet, my scan at 6w3d was 138 HB. I'm not sure if that is strong or not? Really not sure. The U/S lady said anything between 100-200 was normal. So not sure if it is strong or not sorry.

Wooo hooo for no vomitting. That is one way to look at it I agree. I also have little waves of nausea but nothing severe or anything I wouldnt say (I have had my moments, but not recently) my hardest thing to do is find a food item which I actually want to eat. Nothing seems to really satisfy me. Unless it is cheesy that is :)

Reet- As tempting as it is to POAS in the morning I think I will wait until Monday darl, sorry........I just want to get my hopes then be shot down if it comes up with a BFN, that's the part that really really scares me at the moment. I feel so positive right now I'm really scared that if I test and it comes up negative I will feel like I have lost yet another battle and I really don't want to feel like that.
Forshelby- I'm glad you got a good laugh at my alfresco pee darl. But you know what they say......when you got to go you got to go......lol.....
AFM- As I said above I'm starting to feel really scared right now about the whole AF and TTC thing, not sure if I'm going to get a BFP or not I'm really worried that if I test I will be dissapointed and now I'm worried about the whole ordeal and how much it could shatter me. I'm worried about being so positive this whole cycle and then still not getting to be PG. Well I guess I only have 3 days until I find out if AF will be here or not as I always have spotting before she arrives.

Melster - dont get too disheartened i know your baby is just waiting for the right time
i hope its this cycle for you FX
It took about 10 months to get my first BFP i dont think my body had a clue what to do or me lol. then we lost it and got preg on the second cycle after that which made our gorgeous DD. then this year had the chemical preg and it took three cycles after that
I really believe our DD was destined to be with us so maybe all that happened had to for her to be here. not that we dont miss our lost babies. its a strange thought to think another child could be here and she wouldn't be here. now i have rambled:redface:

Mum22 that sounds like a great heartbeat - your baby is a super strong

Reet - your OB sounds fantastic. how cute you saw your bubba again. glad everything is going good for you and FX the nasuea stays away
Yeah my first m/c my levels were 1000 at 6 weeks. if i knew more then it would have been obvious it was going to end bad.
We saw a yolk sac so surely a blighted ovum wouldnt even have that. i did google it but it sent me mad so i stopped.

glenglen awesome levels you have YAH! congrats

NO AF for you clairesmummy def your month i reckon

Shelby how cute is your little lemon - how cool for the flutters i cant wait to feel it again

I dont think a doppler picks up the HB till much later. i know why OB didnt use it till about 14 weeks. i could be wrong

well i decided to be positive thanks girls and i booked my OB today and 12 week scan.
going to book a 9 week scan in the morning for hopefully next friday as cant see my OB till the 12th oct. im scared already i hope we see a HB
had another vomit today - which makes me excited how strange this journey is sometimes

ALMOST 8 WEEKS NOW :D :dance:

Kell- Yay for being sick darl, sounds horrible but hey it's a good sign that your pg is progressing well. I'm sure you will have a great scan darl and you will get to see a lovely healthy little bub and a very strong HB darl. And I so hope your right and AF is a no show for me I really really really do, we are off away to another draft on Friday afternoon and be home on Sunday night so at least it will make the week end go by quickly for me. Bring on POAS day (Monday) lol....I feel like my emotions are all over the place at the moment, feeling great 1 second then up the creek the next. I was watching telly last night and started crying over a horse dieing on there and I mean I was actually sobbing watching it. But hey it's either AF coming or maybe just maybe I'm UTD.........hoping and praying....:pray::pray::pray:

UTD UTD UTD - im so excited for you for monday ill be stalking you!!!!!

I can only hope and pray you are right Kell, and thank you so much for your positivity darl, I really appreciate it alot, sending you massive cyber hugs to say thank you. And please feel free to stalk me as much you like as if I am lucky enough to get my BFP I want to be able to share it with you all asap. Ive just had some cramping again like AF is going to show been to loo but have nothing there and is feeling dizzy an early PG sign cause omg I don't ever remember feeling so light headed it's scaring me a little bit, feel like I'm gunna pass out. Feeling a little confused atm.

Kell- My Ob. is fantastic!! I think im in love with him!!! haha well not quite.. hes like a 60 yr old man.. but i just love his attitude/personality-hes very quirky. I think sometimes.. hhmm does he want to see me every 2 weeks for the next 6 weeks just for my money??! But u know what.. i dont care anyway! I am more then happy to pay the money for that reassurance on a fortnightly basis :) Ive been seeing him for the last year as my gyno so ive gotten to know him really well.
Yay for booking ur scan! I cant wait to hear ur great results! :)

Clairesmummy- Oh isnt it awful when ur emotions are all over the place.. one second ur on an almighty high..the next u come crashing down and feel like crap. Only a few more days to go. and ur symptoms do sound very very promising. Altho i never had any of them!! And still dont! haha

Mum22- Thats a good heartbeat! I think its going to be a boy :) thats only cos i heard that girls have really high heartbeats and boys not so high. I think everything will be just fine for u! And yeah thats my exact problem.. no food appeals to me! My tummy can be rumbling like crazy but i feel like nothing.. Oh well hopefully i dont put on much weight! :)

AFM- I really want to stop counting how far along i am and maybe check my ticker in a weeks time and get a big shock and think wow! 9 weeks! haha i dont think ill be able to do it tho.. time is going pretty quickly tho.. thank goodness :)