TTC After Miscarriage or Loss June 07

[claireabel]

Hi gals

I've been out of town for a few days and have missed a bit - you lot can talk!!

Salt and Leyla, i reckon both your charts look fabulous, i'm expecting good news later this week! Salt, yes, i was crampy before my BFP and for about a week and a half afterwards. Leyla, I wouldn't read too much into that temp drop, it's still so high.

Pash - how are you hun? I haven't had a natural m/c so don't know what it's like. I guess all i can say is hang in there. as the others have said, bleeding is common and you do have a good chance that things will go very well. Let us know how you go, i'm thinking of you. i'm glad you've got such good support at work too.

Princess confused, some docs tell you to wait a cycle or two after m/c but mine didn't, and i fell preg again right afterwards.

Bun, the m/s sounds very promising! have you heard about your scan yet? good luck, things sound like thy're going great.

Las - i'm sorry to hear your news, what a rollercoaster of emotions. is the 100 you're talking about the HCG level? if so, try to have hope, there is such a huge degree of 'normal' in HCG. Many successful pregs have very low HCG - check out www.betabase.info. good luck with the next round of bloods.

Lee - cannot believe your SIL! my god, that's unbelievable. some people just have no compassion or common sense. have you got someone to talk to about your feelings? i hope you've got lots of support out there in the real world, what you're going through is very hard.

TimNik - things sound very promising for you too. wow, so many 2WWs coming up, i really hope you all get the good news you deserve.

Satya -

I'd already had to endure the going to buy her a present and the baby shower we had at lunch time for her.... and the comment from a work colleage something like..... come on Satya you need to get pregnant so you can get all these presents. She also knew about the m/c and how I am seeing a specialist, and how I have to have the op and still she says something like this. She also knows I tried unsuccessfully for many years with my ex.... how could she be so insensitive. Twice yesterday I wanted to burst into tears.... I don't know how I didn't but somehow I kept strong and it just didn't happen.

Incredible. she deserves a good slap, some people say the stupidest things.

Nothing really new with me. still an emotional mess but trying to be positive, as you just never know. i'll be 7 weeks tomorrow and am having a scan again next monday, for 8 weeks. even though i know statistically there's a bigger chance of m/c between now and next week, it's the week or two after that i'm dreading, as that's when i lost the baby last time.

i went to syd on the weekend as my sis bought me tix to swan lake for my birthday. the guy in front of us proposed to his girlfriend with the biggest diamond i've ever seen (we stalked her after the show to get a look!). i love seeing moments like that - a little bit of drama!

other than that, DH came home with a book on first-time fatherhood, which sent me into emotional tears. i just want him to get to be a dad. we told his parents tonight and i'm glad they know, but feel a little vulnerable i guess having the news out there. his mum is terminally ill, so i feel very hopeful that she will get to meet her grandchild before she dies, the m/c was so disappointing for her and i just hope she will be around in another 7 months (and i hope there's a baby for her to meet in 7 months).

better get on to dinner, speak to you all soon. x

[Lee]

Salt - I felt a tiny bit crampy, and had a few "twinges", which felt like movement in the uterus area, before my +tive. I'm for you this cycle, it seems to have come around quickly this time!

Claireabel - thanks, I did get some counselling, which to be honest I found not so useful. I didn't get much out of being told "take one day at a time" and "some things just happen". I know that sounds a bit cynical. I'm a fairly spiritual person, but even that side of me has been tested to the extreme. I know my grief is something I have to live with, and I also know that the only way to survive it is to live well, to live a fantastic life - to live the life my son cannot I owe him this. Still, it's a huge amount of sadness to live with, and I sort of cram it into tight spots wherever I can. I've decided to steer clear of negative people in my life too, no room for them!! Hope your scan goes well, it'll be so nice for you to see that little bubs heartbeat!!

Lee xo

[satya]

Hi everyone

Zionsmum - Glad you are so happy about your AF arriving - completely the opposite to me - it always sends me rock bottom.

Bun - The m/s apple thing that I saw in the mag was eat half an apple before you even get out of bed then you have a light breakfast and then eat the other half of the apple. The woman who wrote about it said it had helped several generations of her family through morning sickness so it's probably worth a try.

Salt - Fingers crossed that this is your lucky month.

Lee - that webcam incident must have been just awful. It is unbelievable how insensitive people can be.

Claire - Your pregnancy is probably giving your MIL an extra reason to live and therefore prolonging her life somewhat.



Well it's CD16 for me and it appears that I have not Od yet. I've never O'd this late before. The longest cycle I can ever remember (apart from my pg ones) was 29 days and that was immediately after my m/c, before it I was 28 days almost every time and never over 28 days. Since the m/c my cycles have been 29 days, 26 & 24 days in sequence.

I've had no O pains this cycle but have had them every cycle since the m/c. I don't know if I had them normally before the m/c as I was not obsessed with getting pregnant back then. My CM no longer looks fertile, more lotion like and my temp has not gone up. If I have O'd today there's very little chance that I'll be pg this cycle as we haven't BD'd since Friday night.... we've both been too tired. Can't wait to do my temp in the morning.... I'm very curious to see if it's gone up..... hopefully not and then the BDing tonight will do the trick.

[zionsmom]

Satya~ I was a tad disappointed but I was happy because my cycle has returned back to normal and that also means that I was right about when I ovulated. We are now ACTIVELY trying to conceive starting on our 1 year anniversary. I really HOPE that you hit it right on this cycle! This could be your month.

Lee~ I am sure sorry about your sister in law, it really annoys me when people just don't think! People who haven't gone through this just can never understand.

Clariebell~ I know you must be so nervous, I get nervous just thinking about being in that place again. But you will be fine and I can't wait to hear the good news I will be checking in to see how your us goes.

Timnick~ It already seems so positive thats great!!! I am sorry about your sister feeling that way, that always bothers me as well. But can't wait until your TWW is over so we can hear the news.