TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 08 #2

[Canary]

Hi Ladies!

This is going to sound a little obvious, but I'd like to warn you all that 'knocked up' is NOT a good film to watch, until you are at least UTD, or preferably after the next one is born! Watched it last night and have that sinking feeling in my tummy, like everything is OK, but not quite.... I should have been more thoughtful!

Chalalan- Hi. I am sorry for your loss, please feel free to 'lurk' and join in whenever you want to.
Tina and Issy- we are almost cycle buddies. I am on CD 5 now, although my ticker is stuck again and says different. I agree Tina, temping can really add to the stress of things and I think it is a good idea to stop for a bit.
Mel- What did you decide? POAS is always a tempting option. This month, even though I KNEW I was not preg, I did almost POAS. Glad to say that I didnt though, cos AF arrived the next day as I knew she would. whatever you decide!
JMG: Good on you girl!
Jen- Good on you, counting us all! Arent there a lot of us? We need a few BFPs to thin out our No's.
Plc1805- How are you doin'? Am I right in thinkiong that you are in the 2ww now?


I am feeling really positive about this month. This will be our 3rd TTC following the m/c, and you know what they say..... third time lucky!
Good luck everyone,

[plc1805]

Hey Canary - almost in 2WW.

Have my ob appt today (post-lap surgery check-up) to get the green light for TTC this cycle (hopefully). DH and I have been a little naughty and unofficially started a few nights ago - figured we'd be right after 7 weeks and a very normal cycle in that time. I can feel I'll be o-ing soon but my last cycle (first full cycle temping) showed i o-ed on CD15 so will be interesting to see what my bod actually does this time around.
Great to hear the positivity in ur post - I certainly do hope it will be third time lucky - I'll get my BFP and we can be in it for the long haul together - now THAT'S positivity!
BTW - what's happening with CDs on ur ticker? Does it need to be changed?

Jen - hey it would be lovely to be pg together - u, me, canary and anyone else who is able to join us !! Re time difference, I'm fairly certain u would be at least 18 hrs behind - the time here now is 6.30am and ur posts come in at our time (not ur time). Ok, I just googled it - there are 17 hrs difference so it is 1.30pm on Monday there for u now - it was 18 hrs before our Daylight saving time changed a couple of weeks ago.

[pbstar]

hi everyone

jen- thanks for your support. i'm not sure on the exact time difference between US and Oz, i am pretty sure it shows the time for you in your time though- your last post shows me it was posted at 1:55am so i'm guessing that's our time unless you were posting in the middle of the night!

smilanatu- thank you, i am sure you will be blessed soon too

issy i can totally understand that your petrol tank is getting a little empty! i can't describe why but i just have a really good feeling that you are going to announce your BFP really soon, i really hope that's true for your sake. everything is in place and you are doing all the right things, just keep it up and i'm sure it will happen for you.

here's a little more for all of us

[Mel A]

Decided to wait untill Friday, thats when AF is usually due. 4 days.......... and counting

[ll80]

just a quick post so I can keep updated with the thread.

I'll be away for a few days as my grandfather has had a stroke so staying with my grandmother as she doesn't like to stay home by herself.

Catch up soon

babydust for all

Laura

[Trac73]

Hello Ladies
JMG - We are due on the same day. My EDD is also the 13th of December 2008. We can do this together how nice will that be.
To Everyone else i am thinking of you all in this time. Waiting for that BFP is is frustrating and exciting. Keeping my fingers crossed for more BFP's here.
AFM - I made my first Dr phone call today in regards to this pregnancy. I am having alittle back pain nothing to strong but just enough to be an annoyance. So as i have had 3 m/c's i was a little stressed the nurses were great and told me that i have to try and relax and that they understand why i am a little stressed. They also said that i could ring whenever i need. Every feeling i get down there i think is it going to be ok I think everything will be ok but i am just a bit scared as previous m/c have started around this time. I am keeping my fingers crossed as i really need to get through the next 3 weeks so that i can have an u/s and see that everything is perfect.
Sending and to the BFP's

[Jodsan]

Hi ladies, just popping in for a quick hello. Still sick with the tummy bug, everything is going straight through me (sorry TMI), arggh.

Laura - So sorry about gf, I hope he gets better soon. You take care

Trac - I understand how nervous you must be, it does all seem to be going quite well though! Sending you a million trillion Hope the wait til the US goes quickly. But in the meantime, lurk all you want in here, I really want to hear how its all going.

Mel - good girl being so patient, I usually test at 12dpo. Really hope its a BFP! :goodluck2:

JMG - I think that is a really good sign that you just FEEL positive, that's how I felt with DS and I didn't feel it with the Mc. I guess somehow we just know... Hope the wait til the US goes quickly.

Pbstar - Your post made me teary, you are doing so well sweety, I was really happy to read it. You are such a strong and positive person, I'm so glad to be sharing the TTC journey with you I'm sure there's a sticky one coming your way soon.

Issy - Welcome! I really do think that BFP has to turn up soon, it soooo must be your turn. I hope that we can help you fill that petrol tank to keep you going until the BFP show up. Good luck.

Plc - Really hope you get the green light, sounds like you've officially given it to yourself anyway. I really believe that you know best when your body is ready. Really hope you catch the eggy this first cycle!

Canary - Yeah, Knocked Up may not be the best thing for us to be watching atm. I watched it a couple of weeks after my mc, silly mistake. Really hope it is 3rd time lucky, good luck this cycle!

Smilanatu, bettyboop, jen, AJC, tina and everyone else - big hello, hope your all doing well. Angel are you ok, haven't seen you for a while?

[issy02]

Hi everyone,

Thankyou so much for all the warm welcomes, I'm so glad there are such wonderful women in here to take this rollercoaster journey with It makes it so much easier to get through.

I cant remember everyones names yet, but to those who have got their bfp's...well done wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy pg.

To those still TTC, goodluck, im along with you that we all get our bfp's really soon.

Well, take care for now,
Issy

[jen805]

Canary--I think you're right about this being a lucky month. It is Spring, after all, which always means new birth!

plc--Thanks for doing the google search, I guess I could've just done that myself! Wow, so 17 hours--so it's Mon. here, and Tue. morning there? So do my posts always seem a day behind, or what? Lol, jk... Good luck at your appt today! Here's hoping April will be the lucky month for us all!

pbstar--That's funny, I definitely wasn't up posting in the middle of the night! When I wake up in the morning it shows the posts from there as being very early in the morning, as well! But now I know, 17 hours--it's crazy! Hope your feeling better!

Mel--Strong woman! Four days, how exciting! I hope I'm as strong as you next week--next Fri. is the day for me! You must be a very patient woman!

ll80--So sorry about your grandfather! Sweet of you to stay with grandmother. Take care of yourself and your little one, too!

Trac--Stay positive, honey! It's nice that the dr's office was so understanding. Can they just do an earlier u/s? Try to stay calm and relaxed, and try super hard not to stress--everything's going to be great, you'll see! Remember, you've had 1 child so that's a very good sign that there would be no complications with this one! I had my youngest after 3 m/c! So relax and be happy--it'll be perfect!

Jodsan--Sorry to hear your still sick. Hope you feel better soon! Same thing happened with DF last night and this morning On a happier note, it looks like our cycle days are only 5 days apart! Woo hoo! Gotta be lucky this mo!

Hi Issy! Hope you're doing well!

[pbstar]

hey jodsan

never meant to make you cry! but thanks for your kind words- i don't always think of myself as strong or positive but it is nice to be thought of in that way. am so glad i am sharing this journey with you too.

[jen805]

Having some slight cramps tonight--oh, please, oh please, oh please be from implantation! The only other thing I could think of is that maybe my chart was wrong and maybe I'm only just now O?? Although we've been trying since Sat. 5th, so technically it really could be from implantation, right? Hope I'm not just grasping at straws... Also been spotting for about an hour now after bd'ing. Going to keep my eyes open for anymore signs (actually I'm going to get ready for bed, so I guess I won't be keeping my eyes open for these signs tonight!) But tomorrow, I will be desperately searching for any sign I can find! Hope I don't sound as desperate as I feel! Sweet dreams everyone, will check in on you all in the morning!

[Abbey B]

Well.. today my partner and i decided that we are activly going to TTC from this month on.

Im very excited but cautious at the same time. I know how difficult it is to concieve and if i do then there is that over hanging thought of "will i m/c again?" which im sure that people in here would know all to well


Hopefully i'll get a BFP soon.... Good luck to all you ladies trying as well!!

[bettyboop]

sorry i have not had time to read all, my ex is really stressing me, and today my father inlaw passed away. hope you are all doing ok.

[JMG]

Hi everyone

To AJC, Bettyboop, pcl1805, jen805, smilanatu, canary, and jodsan thank you all for your kind words of encouragement. It's great to know I have support here, especially since I haven't told anyone except dh, and a close girlfriend who I'm hoping will come with me to my scan. You know, I don't want to make the mistake again of telling people only to tell them when they ask that I had mc.

pbstar - You can deffinately do this ttc thing. Just know what you've gotta do, but don't focus entirely on it. Have some fun along the way and before you know if you'll be staring at a .

issy02 - Stay positive in your ttc journey. DH and I have been ttc for nearly 4 years and had 2 mc along the way. I understand how you feel. :goodluck2:

ll80 - I hope your grandfather is okay and your grandmother is coping. It will be a great comfort for her to have you by her side for support.

Abbey B - Goodluck on your ttc journey.

trac73 - cool pg buddy. for both of us. I've had 3 mc too. We both are probably elated with a bit of stress and nervous energy mixed together. My u/s is on the 3rd May, when's yours. Here's hoping we can support each other all the way to the end and come out of the journey with a healthy baby each.

[JMG]

Bettyboop - Sorry to hear about you f.i.l. Sending your way.

[jenushka]

Hi Ladies,

I have been lurking for a while and would love to join this thread - just wanted to say straight off the bat that I have been reading your posts for a good few weeks now and they provided a HUGE amount of support to me. And the amount of encouragement and positivity in here is just lovely - it seems like a very safe space.

My story (25 words or less!) - conceived bub number 2 in Jan this year on our first month of trying and we were ecstatic. Had a scan at 6 weeks and saw a lovely heartbeat at 120 bpm. Went to ob for initial appt in March at a bit over 9 weeks only to find out that the bub was there and measuring good for dates, but there was no heartbeat. No bleeding or cramping at all (missed miscarriage)... D&C the next day...

I'm sure you all understand the emotional wreck I was for a while so I won't dwell on that ... BUT .. I have a wonderful 2 year old to give me lots of chubby-armed cuddles and goldfish kisses, a lovely husband and the other good news is that my first AF arrived yesterday meaning that I am pouring every ounce of energy I have into looking forward and TTC a brother or sister for my DS (even though the thought is a bit terrifying)

Thanks for listening and lots of and the stickiest to you all...

[mmteacher]

Hey Everyone!

Sorry it's been awhile for me-just lots of craziness going on...
AF came this weekend right on time which I guess is good because I can't start taking Clomid again this week and hope for a BFP. Obviously O'ing on my own didn't work out so well for me last month. Also, don't know what it has been like for all of you the first month after m/c but AF has been AWFUL-super terrible cramps and medication doesn't help...they lead to migraines and then the migraines make me sick to my stomach-YUCK! Hopefully I have seen the worst of it! On a good note, DH was very sweet this weekend and cuddled with me and took care of me-not always usual for him! Anyhow, looks like I'll be starting Clomid on Wednesday and hopefully we?ll get lucky the first time with it again, but after almost 18 months of trying I am not sure...I have decided that the TWW is really the worst time of the month for me as I wish the days away and am consumed by every possible thought of being pg-I am going to try VERY hard this month to let go during the TWW and remember to keep living instead of being so darned focused on what I can't control! When I had my m/c this little poem from when I was a kid came to mind and it has been helping me keep going and put this in bigger hands than my own...hope it helps a few of you!

Broken Dreams

As children bring their broken toys
With tears for us to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God
Because He was my friend.
But then instead of leaving Him
In peace to work alone,
I hung around and tried to help
With ways that were my own.

At last I snatched them back and cried,
"How could you be so slow"
"My child," He said, "What could I do?
You never did let go."

Let go and let God
Author Unknown

Congrats to the BFP's and GL relaxing to the TWW's! More persies later!

MMteacher

[smilanatu]

Morning ladies!

Welcome to the board jenushka! I'm so sorry for your loss...here's hoping you get a BFP ASAP!


JMG...you're welcome and everything WILL be fine!

bettyboop...sorry about your FIL...things are about to get good for you my dear!

Goodluck to you Abbey B!

jen805...I told you we are BD partners! I sincerely hope it's all about implantation for you!

Jodsan...feel better soon!




AND LOTS OF POSITIVE THOUGHTS TO EVERYONE TTC!!!