TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ August 08

Hi ladies

Just a quick one to tell you i poas this morning and as i thought BFN. So upset just a matter of time until af arrives :(

BG - Usually the chatting starts once Jen wakes up, so usually around 11ish our time. If you see a post by Jen, it usually means she has popped in and is waiting in the chat room, lol.

Mollycat - Oh I almost forgot about your re-registration! It must be so nerve-wracking! I'm sure everything will go really well though. Your new little one sounds so sad. It must be hard when mummy or daddy first start leaving you at day care, but I'm sure you'll make him feel like he's at home in no time :)

Rach - You're definitely more than welcome in here :) There are quite a few girls in here that have one or more kiddies already, and I have two step sons.
I've having another peek at your chart, and there doesn't seem to be a huge temp increase yet. My guess would be you have either just ovulated or are just about to. If you can, maybe try to entice Jase into a little loving hehe. Even if it turns out you ovulated yesterday, the Friday night and Sat morning little spermies were probably still alive and kicking :)

Chappas - It's not over yet sweetness! Hold in there! :hug:

I am off to a late start...

Morning gurlies!

BabyFever...aww you're so sweet - I appreciate you :hug:

AngelBabies...LOL you're on FIRE!!!

jen...HIS TONGUE IS PIERCED??!! I am officially ENVIOUS ;) Oh and about the skydiving...wow...I wish I could try it I am betting it is a great rush!

Krystie...I am trying so hard to remain positive but it's getting tough...I guess I'll know by today's end...and thanks for being a sharer (LOL) unlike jen who keeps eating all the doggone cake!

jenushka...BIG hugs and ots of prayers for you...I hope you're doing okay

chappas...it aint over till AF shows...:crossfingers: for both of us

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Angel--Where did you go?

Internet dropped out... back again

Brig'sgirl--Hope you use these weeks off from work to spoil yourself, you deserve it! :hug: So happy you made it in to chat with us this am!! Hope you decide to stick around our humble little thread, I look forward to getting to know you! I foresee a facetious competition between you and Krystie, while we get to kick back and LMAO!! You two must be sharing smart arse pills! :lol: And, yes, Angel is a cheeky snitch! I'm just the innocent one that gets picked on....




Krystie--Sorry to foil your cycle list plan! It's a great idea, I'll just look at it with my "glass is half full" glasses--I like to be at the top of the list! ;)

Ok, why would DH want to go to hot, humid Florida when you could come to Cali to see ME??? It's still warmer here in winter than it is there in winter! No worries, I'll help keep you warm! Ooh, we could show you some really awesome hot springs that are right above Santa Barbara (and you have to drive by Michael Jackson's Neverland Ranch to get there!). That'll keep you warm for sure! Oh, but if we're pg then no hot springs for us!! Here this is better.... we'll BE pg by then, so not hot springs for us! Scratch that idea... lol...

No your "hot" comment re: DF is only inappropriate if he reads it, cuz then his ego will flare up again--so shhh!

Hey, I was wondering how my post count got so high!!! :lol:

You got your own name for AF wrong--it's not monkeybumfluff--it's bumfluffmonkey! Get it right, girl, you're the one that made it up! :cryinglaugh:

Loved your POAS excuses... had to :rofl: about your theory of ovary even/oddness!! And then I'm so glad that I read your typo excuse--I usually don't read them--but I was :chair: laughing!

Love you for making me laugh pill girl--well love ya even when you aren't making me laugh! :hug:

jenushka--Thinking of you, hon... hope you're healing physically and emotionally! :hug: I know it's the emotional part that takes the longest to heal, remember that we're here to support you! :grouphug:



Van--Hey my cycle buddy! Hope you're enjoying your break from BB... we're missing you and thinking of you always! I'm CD9, and you're just a couple days ahead of me... it's about O time, isn't it? Hope you've got your :bd: shoes on!!



joey--How was your camping trip? It's been more than 3 days.... hope things are ok with you! :hug: I've been missing your nuttiness!!


Toccara--Hope AF isn't being too rough on you! Thinking of you and sending lots of :hug:



plc--Now that I read Krystie's post to you, I understand the inspiration for the glasses! :lol: Cute! Love the belly pic--don't see any of the "flab" you mentioned--my tum looks like that sans pg'cy! :rofl:



Deevine--Thanks for the "crap load" of :bluedust: We never get enough of that! How sweet of you to just pop in and wish us luck! Thanks, hon.... I've run out of smilies, but lots of hugs and sticky vibes for you!!!

mollycat--:goodluck2: with the daycare re-reg!! Where's that maniac cleaning fairy when you need her? So no tests? Planning on getting any, or just going to wait for AF? Sending mega anti-AF vibes your way. There...I've put a protective force field around you! Big :hug: and I've got everything crossed for you (until my fertile days, when everything but my legs will be crossed for you!) ROFLMAO



Rach--I'm :pray: you caught that egg! Keep up the :bd: just in case--it's hard to say if/when you O'ed without seeing those missing temps... so keep getting your jig on, girl! Tell DH it's for the good of the cause... Such a cute pic of you and Jack! He's got you wrapped around his finger, doesn't he? :lol:



chappas--Aww, sorry about your BFN... it's not over yet, not until BFMFFFF rears her fat head!! I put a force field around you, as well! Using the force, I am! (Said in my best Yoda impression!) Stay AWAY AF!!! :hug:



smi--What are you jealous of? Me that his tongue is pierced? Or just that it's pierced in general? No worries, mine's pierced, too, so he's pretty lucky as well! :redface: That's not his only piercing! (that's gonna pique your curiosity!) :rofl: My tongue's not my only piercing either! (remember, curiosity killed the cat! lol)

Hey tut--Where are you hiding, girl? :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: Thinking of you! :hug: Oh, LOVE the ticker, btw!!!

jen...you naughty naughty ;)

smi--Nah, but I hear I have potential! :rofl:

Someone please send the cleaning fairy - running out of time fast (what am I doing on the computer?). Almost finished, just have to tidy away in the loungeroom - from the rest of the members in the family who wouldn't think of putting their own things away, and do the kitchen floor. In the middle of cleaning last night, DH decided to go to bed early (wonder why?), so couldn't use the vacuum - he'd complain about the noise, then my sister rang for a chat. So I'll be waking the boys this morning to the sound of the vacuum cleaner - they're gonna love that one.

KL - It's always sad when littlies are upset when they first start day care. His age doesn't help either (11mo) I find thats one of the worst ages to start babies. He'll be fine in a couple of weeks - he really has no choice, mum has to go back to work, and he's never been left with anyone before.

Jen - I might just wait for AF to show (or not to seeing as though there is a protective force around me). Depends how strong I can be. Can't get near a shop until Sat, so may as well just wait. Pretty sad, when we live one block away from a chemist and supermarket (I just wouldn't buy tests at either of those ones).

I'd better get back onto that cleaning now, seeing as there is no fairy around. I'll pop in later after my re-registration.

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Hey mollycat! My mom had a daycare in our home my whole life... the parent's are usually the ones that make it harder for the kids, especially if the child is crying when they leave. I can remember my mom trying to get the parent to leave, telling them that as soon as they leave he/she will calm down quicker without all the awww's and extra hugs, etc... It was usually the case that within 5 min. after the parent left, the child was distracted--it was just the anxiety of the parent that made it harder for the child to adjust! Do you find that's the case with your kids? (obviously I mean your d/c kids!)

What's wrong with the tests at the stores nearby? Are those the ones that only come up 1 line? :lol: Or is it that you don't want anyone to see you buying hpt's???

Good luck with your cleaning... should be doing mine, but I just have no motivation today--at least I made my bed! :clap:

Jen- Thanx for the force field and for making me :lol: for the first time today.

KL- You're right i shouldnt give up yet

Smilanatu- How are you going when you gonna poas again?:bluedust:

Rachelswirl- Hope you are ok and everything went well today.:hug:

AFM- Still gutted about bfn but AF not arrived as yet,i am going on holiday a week sat so gonna try focus on that.

Hey Angel, my cheeky little snitch mate! :p I was SO happy to chat with you this am! Thought my eyes were deceiving me when you logged in! :lol: It's always a good time, even when you're picking on me! I rely on your sarcasm and humor to get me through my day! Thanks for being you!! :hug:

chappas--Yay! :cheer: I LOVE making people :lol: My deed for the day has been accomplished! :clap: See, and my force field is working! :dance: How come you don't have a link to your chart in your sig? Don't you use FF? It's pretty hard to stalk your chart if you don't have one! :lol:

Jen- Dont use FF because DH thinks i stress too much about it all so have stopped temping and using ovulation tests.

chappas--Can't you just nicely explain to him that I really need another chart to stalk?? ;) I won't tell if you don't! :lol:

All done - except for locking the dog away in her run and picking up her droppings and DS2 will do them before he goes to school.

Jen - yep, I find that the parents often make it worse for the kids. I have one little boy who is about 2-1/2 (had his siblings for years), so he was coming in and out of here two days a week since he was born, now its his turn and mum lingers, he gets upset, I usually end up sending mum out (it's pretty easy to send her as she has to put his brother on the bus - which she catches as well - i just tell her she doesn't want to miss the bus and she needs to go now), I find that as soon as she's gone, he stops crying and will go and play happily. I have another 2yo that mum brings her older sister after school and she gets upset cause she thinks its time to go home and mum lingers then cause shes upset giving her more cuddles, if she just left there would be no problem. I'm hoping when this mum goes back to work (in another couple of weeks) she won't have time to stay although he's okay when she leaves, he's just really dependant on any adult and will cry if I leave the room, or one of the kids goes to school or another parent leaves.
I don't like the nearby shops. They are really expensive and the chemist gives the third degree over anything you buy. I'll have to wait until I go into town (I don't like doing that with 4 or 5 day care kids - I will with only 1 or 2) Maybe I should ask for the ones that show up two lines. :p

You're one up on me. My beds not made, but I've made DS2's and the day care kids are all done, and I think DS1 has made his (his version of making a bed).

chappas...if no AF I may test tomorrow evening...how about you?

Jen - will maybe give it a go after next cycle as on holiday soon ;)

smilanatu- Will test again on Friday if no af. Will be :pray: that you get that BFP tom.

mollycat--Argh, those types of parents are the worst! When I put my 14 y/o in d/c at about 8 mo's, I remember his provider would make comments about how easygoing I was for a first-time parent. Like how I didn't freak out when she would try him out on different foods, etc... I think it definitely helped that my mom had the d/c, plus I babysat a lot due to the fact that she had the d/c... I sat for most of her parent's, and then of course, they all gave my name out. I started working, making my own money at the age of 11! (scary thought!) Anyhow, I knew how NOT to be as a parent, which not only made it easier on my DS and me, but on his provider, as well! My mom used to hate it when parent's would just stop by for no reason--of course she couldn't tell them no--but some parents didn't understand, even when she tried explaining to them that it just makes it harder for the kids.



smi--Still no AF? Ok, looks like I'm going to have to whip out my handy dandy force field for you, too--good thing for you girls that the force is with me today! Can you see it? Probably not, it's invisible--but it's there! :lol:

chappas-- *BIG SIGH* Alright, I'll wait if I must! :p Here's :pray: that you'll get your BFP before then and won't even need it! :crossfingers:

Was going thru the forums today and saw a thread called 5 Things We Didn't Know About You. Are we allowed to do something like that here in the thread? Went thru several pages, and didn't see anyone I knew, so thought it would be cool to learn a little more about each other. Anyone want to jump in and go first? I know, I know, it's my idea, so I should go first--I'm working on it! :p

Jen - you are such a bundle of energy!! damn - i'm tired just reading all your posts since i got up!!

Mollycat - my mum used to do daycare when i was growing up (14 years) and almost all the kids stopped crying as soon as the parents left. she ended up telling a couple of them to just go outside and peek in through the window cos it was almost instant. some of them started acting up really badly when they were getting picked up too - it was like the parents walked in, and they forgot the rules (or chose to ignore them!) cos they thought the parents would be in charge - but mum lived by the mantra "my house, my rules" - and until the kids had been signed out and the parents walked out the door, tantrums were up to mum to deal with!! Jen - i was earnin moolah looking after kidlets at 11 too! think the scariest was being 12 and in charge of a 5 week old for several hours while mum took big bro to the doctors - but mum wasn't the most maternal (or stable) person, so i think bub was the calmest she'd been since birth cos i just didn't freak out about it - i knew my mum was only a phone call away if it got too much...

thanks for the chat last night ladies - this tired little vegemite slept through TWO alarms in the middle of the night when she was supposed to ring her DH to wake him up! thankfully DH knew i was tired, so set an alarm himself as well - phew! he had to ring his boss and wake him (very convoluted - these men need to rely on alarm clocks more!!). he's sleeping now - and i'm awake waiting for my bro to come and build a fence (and leave me responsible for his almost four year old again!)

That's funny BG--my mom wasn't the most maternal person, either--why she chose d/c is beyond me! In high school I used to babysit over the weekend--alone at their house--with no supervision! And a lot of times I had never even met the kids or the parent's prior to that! It's crazy! I made really good money babysitting, and I learned a lot, but there's no way on earth I would ever trust a teenager with my kids the way people trusted me with theirs! The kids always loved me, and I was actually really good with kids back then (when I had more patience), it was when they were in bed that I got into trouble! Talking on the phone, inviting boys over, smoking in the backyard--I was definitely Trouble with a capital T!!

you?? trouble?? would never have guessed.. :p

I used to babysit for three little boys ranging in age from about 4 months to 4 years. The 4 year old was a little turdface, but the other two were really cute, especially the baby. A couple of times after the kids went to bed the house would get really quiet and scary. Then I would freak out a little (especially when the loud scary heating kicked in), so I would go and get the baby and sit in the lounge room watching tv with the baby. The baby would mostly stay asleep, but I guess it was pretty mean of me to disturb it's sleep :ROFL:

Hi All,

I am back from my ski trip with no broken bones :dance: Had a ball and am getting much better at skiing , next time might be able to progress off the beginner slopes. I am sore, very sore.... every muscle is still aching but it certainly was a great distraction.

Jenushka - I am so sorry to hear about your loss....... what an awful thing to have happened to you... I pray you get a very compassionate Ob/Gyn who will treat you and your concerns with respect :hug:

Tut -:dance::dance: I am sooooo excited for you.... cant wait to hear about you U/S in a few weeks

Angel -thanks for the cake.... YUM... although I need to get back to healthier food after not making the best choices whilst on holidays

Babyfever, Rach75, Briggsygirl - welcome... hope your time with us is short

Tina - :clap: for the HB... how exciting

Toccarra - spewing about AF showing - hope she leaves quickly

Joey - where are you !!!!!!!! you have not returned from school camp it appears

AFM - I think I have Ov early this month - yayayayayayayayayayayay!!! Dont have a coverline yet but with such a huge temp shift it should come up tomorrow. Maybe the B6 has helped - very excitied I may have Ov on day 15 instead of 19. Now in the TWW although I am not charting any symptoms this time (Doc orders) just my temps, sort has been nice not checking CM and cervix positions

Back later

Hi girlie wirlies!!

OMG it seems like a life time since I've been on here. Actually, it's only been a week. So, I'm not even going to try and read the fifteen gazillion posts that I have missed. Would someone be so kind to give me a quick update on everyone? I did do a little chart stalking tho, and Tutmae ... was that a BFP I saw? :dance: Congratulations girl! I wonder if he/she will be a singer!?

AFM - School camp was awesome. I joined in the high ropes and a giant swing, where they pulled you 10-15m high in the air and then let you go. Ahhhhhhhhhh! (That's me screaming). It was so much fun. HOWEVER, me being the nana that I am, struggled with the 11-12pm bed times, so I was very tired, and only now am I starting to pick up!! I slept for 12 hours on the Firday night when I returned and 10 hours the following night!

So I have been home since then, but just been so busy/tired to even think about posting. Yes, that must be tired!!!

I was a bit doubtful if we would catch the little eggy this month. Woke up one morning and said to DH, quick, my temp just rose, come back to bed. This totally stressed him out, and he did his best, but couldn't let those little swimmers fly. So we tried again that night, same. So I sent him a txt during the day saying that O was over and the pressure was off, and we had a great BD last night. He told me there'd be millions in there!! So let's hope that it wasn't too late. According to my temping I think I should have Oed on Monday, but used OPK's for the first time this month and Monday morning was the darkest one, so that means I should O within 24-36hours of that test, which means Tuesday some time. My temp doesn't match with that. Any ideas? I was starting to stress cause I didn't think those little swimmers would hold on from Friday night, but if the egg hangs around for 12-24 hours, than maybe we got it with the BD last night.

So fingers crossed!! Please have a look at my chart and let me know what you think.

Off to Perisher Blue skiing this weekend, so I'll be off line for another week, and hope that I have lots of BFP's to come back to (one of them being my own!!)

Looking forward to hearing all the goss. Take care. Chat again tonight. :hug:

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re-registrations visit all over and done with for another twelve months. Only a few little things to take care of (getting DH to move some of his stuff thats sitting around) and putting a gate of some sorts on the bottom of the stairs. They have a huge checklist and they go through room by room. Very annoying they were here about hour and half. Now I have to talk DH into moving the stuff.

BG - I tell that to the parents (or something similar - as my windows are too high), I usually tell them to duck around the corner and listen, as soon as there out of sight the crying stops. Amazing how the behaviour changes when mum or dads turn up. It's like a switch has been turned off.

Easha: Glad the trip went fantastically!! No broken bones is always a plus when it comes to relaxing holidays!!

Joey: YAY! You're back! And you're going away AGAIN?? :( Do you consider us girls in any of your plans, missy? Heehee.... Glad the camp was super fun (I don't know how you managed to do the giant swing thing! I'm scared just reading about it!!).... Yep that most definitely is a BFP you see, heehee, 4w1d now :dance:

Jen: Sorry hon, been in a frenzied cleaning mode and therefore not online much. Maybe the cleaning fairy has been buzzing around me.... Sheesh, there's SO much to do!!

Mollycat: So glad the reg is over and done with!!!! Must be a BIG load off! Congrats hon!

AFM: Was really really positive about 2 days ago then started having those dreadful pregnancy dreams you hear so much about and have just been blue the past couple of days (a lot better today, though). Just so nervous and scared and all those things that you expect to be but hope not to be. I'm booked in for the u/s at 6w3d and I've heard differing reports, some saying you will be able to see the heartbeat, some saying you wont. I don't know if I should put it off or not. I just want to see my baby is all and being able to see a heartbeat would put my mind at rest so much, but I don't know if I could hold out for those extra days.... Sheesh.... talky today ain't I!!

:pink-babydust::bluedust::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesbo y: for all you beautiful ladies!!!

Tut all I can tell you is to pray and do what feels right of you stop stressing and just enjoy being pg I'm sure everything will be fine and I will pray for you too :hug: ...

:hug: and thanks for your kind words ladies you guys are the greatest ...

Tutmae - I'm sorry I'm going away again. Why don't you all join me? I'm going to Perisher Blue. Wanna come??? How much fun would that be!!

I am soooooooooooooooooooo happy for you. What sort of dreams have you been having? I haven't heard of them. Perhaps I should be having them? I'm pregnant too, by body just doesn't know it yet. I think I am O today, or may be yesterday or the day before. The little swimmers are there waiting, so I am 2 weeks preg today! In another 2 weeks I'll have a blood test and that will say that I am definately UTD, and then I can put one of those flashy little signs up!! :dance:

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Joey: YAY! Perisher blue sounds lovely, alas, my fear of flying wont allow me.... boo to that!! You'll just have to live it up for me! But not too much, of course, those little swimmers have to do their work!!
Apparently when your pg you start having really vivid anxiety dreams that only make you worry more, but then they subside, eventually. Damn stupid dreams. I'm feeling a little bit crook today and my bbs are starting to get sore, so I'm taking that as good signs. I'm SOOOO hungry but not at the same time, and light headed and general blerg. Over analysing every singly twinge and having crazy mad mood swings. Sheesh. I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer::hooray::loveshower: YAAAAY!!!!

Hey Joey.... can you PM me the details of your Perisher Blue holiday... just the accomodation and stuff like that.... I have been trying to plan a couple of days down there next week... probably the 12 th and 13th but when you havent been there before and you dont want to use a travel consultant.... i just dont want to book somewhere and it ends up being miles form anything....

Tutmae - If you leave now, you can drive and we'll be there at the same time! :p We're driving down from Brisbane, leaving early Saturday morning (3am) OUCH!

Jen- was just about to reply to your 5 twdkay post and this stupid :computer: kicked me off. Nevermind

Easha- Glad you had such fun at ski trip, hope 2ww flies by.

Joey- Off again you lucky thing

Mollycat- Glad re reg over for you.

Tutmae- Sounds like symptoms kicking in so:D for you.

AFM- Dont know whats going on with stupid af at mo, for last 2 cycles been 2 days early now 2 day late and bfn yesterday :wall:

hi girls

well i was supposed to wait to tomorrow morning to test

but i sort of couldn't wait....

and i sort of got what i guess you might call a little bit of a BFP....but don't want to say it yet...am only on CD25 and when i bought the test for tomorrow morning there was a 3 pack so i thought why not? and i did a little POAS and it was afternoon so it was diluted but it came up straight away. it was lighter than the control line but still a definite line....and definitely more of a line than the one's i was getting when i had the chem preg...

so anyway, had to tell you girls but please no congratulations yet...just help me get through to sunday when af is due and if still no af i guess i might just start to believe it...

can you tell i am slightly freaked out right now???

sorry for the all about me post...just a bit shaky....will bbl to catch up with everyone

oh and big welcome back joey and easha!

Pb star - ok. so no congratulations, but wow... how exciting :dance: