TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ Dec 07/Jan 08

[nicksterUK]

Thanks Laura,AJC and Angel Babies for the lovely welcome- and 'Hi' to everyone else! I'm so relieved to find people who really relate to what's happened. My DH is brilliant and supportive, and I know he was as shocked and upset as me when we m/c, but I'm sure he thinks I've become a bit obsessive TTC. He's off work today, unwell and been feeling rough over the weekend, but I still woke him up last night for bd!! I've been having (severe) hot flushes etc & although I obviously haven't had af yet I'm watching all the signs- obsessively haha!
It's madness isn't it, that our whole lives now seem to revolve around this, and how much notice I now take of my body (and his- I've banned him from using the laptop in case it warms his swimmers up! and keep dosing him up with bananas and iron-rich veg/steak etc) He's taking it all in good humour tho, and says 'there's nothing wrong with wanting something, especially when you've lost something already.' He's probably hoping we'll conceive quickly so he can have a rest as much as anything else!

Good luck to us all, hoping it'll be a short stay here for everyone xx
wishing, wishing, wishing,,,,,,,!

[Baby Angels]

I can so relate. Hubby now sits his laptop to the left hand side of him when he is sitting on the couch. Its not allowed on his lap. His Mobile phone is not allowed in the pocket of his pants. Smokes were cut out TOTALLY 6 months ago and Coffee has been reduced to about 1 or 2 cups. That still might sound like a lot to some people but trust me, we own our own business and are work a holics, we survived on coffee and smokes. 6 months ago we only ate one meal a day and the rest was coffee and cigs. OH BOY HAS THAT CHANGED.

As for the BD I decided last night that I would not discuss it. I thought about it a bit and I could be totaly wrong, its happened before, but what pressure. DH its time to perform now come here. Ohhh the thought of it stressed me out when I put myself in his shoes. So I have it figured. Lets go for once a week and then on the "special" week he might get an extra one or two or three.... who knows. lol

I started talking to him about days of the month etc last night and its as if the colour just drained out of his face.

I know that theory doesnt relate to our next IVF cycle but at this stage that wont be until about May or June and until then the attempts naturally will at least be enjoyable

He still swears that if the day ever comes where we decide that we are not going to continue TTC then he s going straight out and buying a packet of smokes.

[tempus moriendi]

nicksterUK: not sure how I missed your post last time I was on, but just wanted to say welcome, and I'm sorry for your loss--and on Christmas Eve of all times. Makes it doubly painful. I'll be praying for you for a happy ending. BTW, I thought laptops were "Better" than regular computers??? But I could be wrong. I limit myself to about 2 hours a day.

STARRYSKY: I try to commemorate the angelversaries (a word I learned here). I find it helps. I didn't keep track of my EDD's--just didn't think about it.

AJC: welcome to you, too. Good luck and I'll be praying for you at this difficult time.

ll80: When do you move? Sounds exciting--good luck.

Angel Babies: I don't carry my cell or cordless in my pocket anymore, either. But I can relate to how wearing it is to love on demand. We had trouble conceiving with our first and had to time it and it's a real romance drainer. Since then, we fall preg fairly easily, it's just holding them that's been the problem. Good luck!