TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08

[AJC]

Bereca - Hugs to you. Af arrived for me too yesterday and I felt exactly the same way as you, positive that this was our month. But BFN and af arriving dashed that little daydream. Am sorry to hear your best friend has been insensitive, what a cow saying that pg people need to stick together, that's really supportive of her - NOT!!!!

Angel Babies - sorry to hear that DH isn't making an effort. My DH has been ok but I think he could make more of an effort. Doc asked him to go for a Semen analysis over a month ago and he still hasn't gone (meanwhile over the last 5 months I've undergone countless tests and procedures and have actually looked forward to getting them done). Needless to say the multivitamin I bought over 8 weeks ago (with 60 in the jar) is still over half full and yet he says that he's only missed a few days. I'm no mathematic expert but we should be due to buy a new jar by now if he was taking them properly. I feel your frustration, as for the BD - I no longer tell DH when it the ideal BD time cause it's too much pressure it is almost like it's our first time again (like first, first time when it's trial and error). I would def. try to talk to him though?

Nickster - lol the the 'stolen from....' idea. Love it! I want to get more to put out there because I refuse to live in a world where I have to adjust my way of life because of low life scum bags! Will def. booby trap them though. We have a big red back spider problem here so I hope there were some in those pots (highly likely). Not saying I hope they were bitten, nature will just take its course that's all, he he he.

Welcome Brockstar - hope your stay in here is full of support and of course very short

Banx - thanks for dropping by. Success stories always give me a little boost so please please please anytime you think of us drop on and say hi would love to hear how you & bub are going. Best wishes for a happy and healthy remaining 6mths. XX

Bettyboop - Good luck for Tue.

Sorry if I missed anyone.

[Baby Angels]

OHHHHH (yes i m still in tanty mode) It is DH that this is all being done for.

I am 38 years old (well for the next couple of months anyway) My son is 19 in a few weeks and the other is 16. I thought my baby makin days were over. I thought the next step for me was Grandmother. Then I met DH (5 years ago) This is not being done for me (not saying that I wouldnt love to be a mother again.... i certainly would) but if it wasnt for DH then I wouldnt be doing it. He has no children (obviously due to his infertility) I as a wife and someone who loves him dearly I would do anything to try and give him that opportunity to know the love that you have with your children which is unlike anything imaginable.

Thats why i m throwing a tanty. I love him dearly but so far I have been through 3 operations, countless... countless injections, countless... countless medications, temping everyday, (waking each day and forcing TTC to be the first thing on my mind each day) Giving up smoking, nearly cutting out coffee (oh and if you knew me 12 months ago you would have said that was impossible) OMG the list goes on, I dont drink, I try and stay calm all the time (for the health of the eggs) I have accupunture weekly... Ohhhh I could keep going. He complains about not being able to smoke as much (cause he still does sneak them) complains about the herbs and wont have them.

To add to all that, I have his mother suggestion maybe we look at donor eggs and telling me that maybe the coffee i did have while I was pregnant was not good for my angels because coffee causes miscarriages (obviously I promptly put her in her place and told her that s a load of chit... in the nice way i normally....not today.... but normally... do) I also had someone esle say that if she could carry the baby for us she would......, I want to yell and scream sometimes...... it has NOTHING to do with me.... I dont need an egg donor, I have 2 children, I can carry a baby, In IVF I had 9 very healthy eggss and even through sperm injection only 2 sperm wanted to play the game. Why doesnt someone look at DH and tell him to pull his finger out.

Now tomorrow I ll go back to loving him dearly but right now.... ohhhhhh If i had a pillow in my hand he would cop a floggin.

[plc1805]

Berecca - so sorry honey about BFN. Chin up and onto next month - As for your so-called best friend, I've had "best friends" like that before and have learnt over the years that every-so-often you need to do a "friend spring clean" so that the "friend feng shui" is right again. U need good people around u now, sweety.
Angelbabies - I think u have every right to vent esp with the lack of understanding surrounding u!! I really hope it gets better for you.
AJC - also sorry to hear about the lack of effort that surrounds u too - hopin things will change.
pbstar - I use OPKs (my 3rd cycle now) and I think they are good in theory. I'm a little confused about my usage of them cos they've shown different o times for last 2 cycles so kinda keen to see what it says this cycle esp as it's my 1st full BBT charting cycle - good to compare. U get 7 in a pack and I find I use at least that many.
Hi to Katiegirl, nicksterUK, Canary, Banx, bettyboop and anyone else I may have missed.
As for me, on CD7 and thinking about how I have to not TTC this cycle so that the naturopathic herbs can kick in. Part of me wants to DTD anyway cos I don't want to wait yet another month but part of me couldn't risk another m/c if my bod is not up for conceiving yet. I'll be seeing my gyno on Tuesday and see what he says - don't know if he is open to naturopaths - so we'll see....

[berecca623]

Well AF is here ladies so I guess I need to start again

I have decided not to dwell or feel depressed, just look towards the future!

No time for personals so just a general good luck to all and lots of and to all!

[Katiegirl]

Berecca I am so sorry that your friend has been so insensitive. I would be taking the 'best' part of the friend title! I can't even imagine how much it must hurt you to hear her say those things. She obviously have no clue how traumatic your loss has been. Big hugs to you.

Will post more later.