Thanks all for your support. It has helped to read some of your stories although I wish none of us was going thru these experiences. After I wrote a couple days ago, I just kind of went numb and yesterday I was very, very sad. Today is a bit better but I know I am still in for good and bad days for a bit. I much dread the rest of this year as a friend told me she just finished her 12 wks and all was well w/ her preg. about the time I was unknowingly losing mine. Of course I wish her well (I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy) but I wish things would go as well for me too. She had her 1st child shortly after my 2nd m/c. It's going to be hard. But I resolve to try again.

Sharon19270: The reason I was thinking 3mos was that the anesthesiologist for my D&C said something about waiting 3mos and trying again - after he regaled me w/ the story of how his wife had 2 m/cs but now they have 4 kids. I know he was trying to be helpful but not what I wanted to hear at the time! I have since read that it is suggested to wait for one AF (4-6 wks) and then TTC. I should get it about the time that the results from the analysis of my D&C come back so I will start TTC then (if I can wait that long!). On a side note, so sorry to hear about the spotting.

Flowerchild: Thanks so much for your concern. Sometimes I feel so angry (and like such a failure) towards myself for the m/cs, I don't know what to do w/ the feelings. But it is important that I show my daughter (even at this young age) that disappointment should be met with strength and resolve. That is what I intend to do - even if on the inside I am distraught. Curious though -- do people going thru this go to counselors or find support groups? You also asked about why I chose to go w/ IUI after my 2nd m/c. After the 2nd, I was having trouble TTC. B/c of my age, the fert spec thought it would be more likely I would be successful sooner w/ some help. I'm glad I did it b/c it did work and now I have my DD. Plus I learned that I have 2 different clotting factors and was put on fragmin (heparin) and aspirin. Important info for the next time. Unfortunately he also told me my ovaries are 2 yrs older than my biological age which is why I'm concerned about turning 40. But I got preg right away last time and that was just 2 mos ago so I am hoping it will happen again (if I can manage to not get too stressed).

CrossingMyFingers: So, so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost mine around 6wks and didn't find out until 10wks. I feel really stupid for not knowing and for continuing to plan and get excited. I will be crossing my fingers for you as you TTC now.

Thx again all of you for your support. I have read some good info on this site that will help me ask intelligent questions of my OB when my results come back. Best wishes for all of you in your quest for that sticky bfp! Is there a dictionary for all these abbrevs somewhere??!!