TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08 #2

[berecca623]

Hi Guys,

So sorry that I have been "silent" for the past week, didn't mean it, bloody computers! :throw_computer: The problem is now fixed and so back here I am! What made it worse was that the home computer was stuffed and I couldn't get on here from work, some idiot has blocked it! Maybe they're on to me and my non-working in here!

Seeing as I have been gone a week I will save the personals until I have caught up with you all. However welcome to all the new ladies and I hope your stay here is a short one!

I also know that I am obliged to spread some around!

As for me, well the urine test at the docs was negative last Monday, what did she expect with AF due that day and it not being FMU??? So back again tomorrow arvo, but with FMU collected and brought in. So tomorrow will be blood test day. I am really nervous and keep going to the loo and checking, I know its not healthy and am now worried I could make it happen just by stressing about it! Idiot I know! Will keep you updated with how I go! Still not ready to post in the pg forum!

Good luck to you all and I want some more soon!!!

[danielsgirl1113]

Hi everyone! I hope everyone is having a great day! Yesterday was easter so we had a good day. I received my charm in the mail on Saturday that my DH bought me. It has 2 baby feet and says always in my heart. I wore it yesterday and everyone thought it was nice.

I wanted to ask a question if you dont mind. I appologize if advance if it is TMI.

I have been having some serious dizziness the past 3 days. At random points in the day I will get really dizzy and feel like the whole room is in SLOW MOTION and rocking back and forth. It is SOOOOOOO weird and a little scary. (i've never really had vertigo before and it sorta freaked me out the first time). Night before last it was REALLY bad, if I turned over in bed I would wake up because I could feel the room spinning and it felt as though I was falling.

Is this normal after D&C and bleeding? Is it a hormonal thing? ( I hate to sound stupid but I also dont want to run to my DR for something that is to be expected.) I have a DR's appointment on Thursday ( today is Monday ) so if I can just hold out until then I'll ask her. One other thing, I seem to be really "puffy" lately... my rings are really tight on my fingers (they are usually pretty loose) and now they leave indentions in my fingers IF i can get them off. My clothes are tight and my face looks puffy.

As most of you know I am a little more than 2 weeks POST D&C... These problems are showing up a little late. Still moderate bleeding that will OCCASIONALLY stop for an hour or so and then start back. (i did have some pretty harsh cramps 2 days ago for about 30 mins and "passed a clot around the size of a golf ball... after that the cramps stopped.)

I hope I'm just being typical me and over-reacting. But since you all seem so knowledgeable about this I thought I would ask. Any advice and feedback is GREATLY appreciated.

[Katiegirl]

Hi Everyone. I have had so much reading to catch up on! And now the site won't let me move to page 2 - so I thought I would type up a few hellos and try page 2 later.

MMTeacher - I am very sorry for the loss of your baby, but i am glad you have found this forum. As you have probably discovered, this forum is full of women who understand what you are going through and we are all here to support each other.

Danielsgirl - sorry to hear that you have started bleeding again. Just so you know, it took me 6 weeks to stop bleeding and for AF to arrive. I know how difficult it is waiting, as you just want the bleeding to stop so you know that your body is repairing. I found it very emotional and would get frustrated/angry etc every time it started again. I hope all goes well for you and things start to move forward.

Natty - I don't think I really had any early symptoms this time - in fact I don't think I had them with Nathaniel either. I only started noticing some things (going to the toilet a lot etc) around the time AF would have been due. I don't think everyone gets early symptoms and it is easy to confuse them with AF symptoms - actually the only thing I do get is feeling like AF is on its way - and then it didn't come but I still had that feeling. Confusing!

Angelbabies - I hope you are having a lovely holiday. And very funny that you do sneaky posts! Sounds like something I would do.

TM - I will keep my fingers crossed for you and keep you in my prayers for this cycle.

Bettyboop - how are you? Have you had any further news from you dr regarding AF?

PLC - your massive post inspired me to do these personals. Good luck for April 15th.

To everyone else that I have missed - I hope you are all doing well and look forward to hearing your news. Fingers crossed for some more BFPs

As for me - we are catching up with our preg friend next Saturday morning. It has worked out well - we didn't offer them to stay and they didn't ask. So they have suggested breakfast which I think I will be ok with. I know it will be hard but at the same time, this has become another fear that I need to face. She is a lovely girl and her DH can be a bit useless sometimes, so I do need to be kind to her.

I also started getting anxious again yesterday. I started thinking that my symptoms were not getting strong enough or were non-existant. It basically was a multitude of little thoughts combining to create one big ball of anxiety. I am seeing my Ob tomorrow so hopefully he will be able to put my mind at ease. I need to learn to control my thoughts spiralling. I am going to do a meditation course so hopefully that will help me learn to relax.

Happy Easter to you all. I hope it was full of peace and happiness for you and your families.

[Katiegirl]

Okay have fixed the computer problem and have now ready page 2! Okay where to start...

Magda - I agree that across the board it is more common to be having babies in the late 30's and early 40's. Both of my SILs had their last at 41 each - and neither had any problems with either pregnancy. So stay positive and believe that your time will come. It must have been very difficult to deal with the mc and have your daughter run off as well. I hope things have improved with her?

Fiona - I think it is very harsh of your dr to say that you need to lose weight before he will look at alternative methods to help you conceive. I say ditch him and get a new one. Brisbane has some wonderful drs - both GP and Obs so I am sure you will be able to find someone who is sympathetic to what you are going through. Of course the GI diet will help as well - probably as much that you will have more energy etc which is always a good thing. I need to lose weight as well - but hey that will have to wait until after this baby. So don't let him get you down.

Nickster - good luck getting past the 11 week mark. I know this must be a stressful time for you. I will keep you in my prayers. I am now 7 weeks 3 days and counting down until 12 weeks. My milestones will be 12 weeks, 15 weeks (when Nathaniel passed away) and 20 weeks (when we discovered his loss).

Berecca - can't wait to hear how the next urine test goes. Please keep us posted. Fingers crossed for you.

Danielsgirl - I don't really know if there is a 'normal' recovery after a D&C. My ob had said that if I got a temperature or heavy cramping - then I needed to call him. If you keep getting the dizzy spells, I would definitely ask about it. It could be related or totally unrelated. A few years ago, I had a middle ear infection without knowing (no pain etc) but started getting the worst vertigo as a result. So best to ask about it if it continues.

Alright had better accept that I have to work today. Sigh....

[fiona264]

Katiegirl Thank you for your encouragement. I think I will find another one. It is so hard though, sometimes you don't know what the doctor is like until you visit him/her. I have had good doctors in the past but you know the story....when you find a good one, they move or just disappear.

[Katiegirl]

Fiona - I totally understand. It is hard to find a doctor that you like and feel comfortable with. This time around I have managed to find a GP and an Ob that I like, respect and can trust. I also know that my Ob will not simply brush off any concerns I have, which makes me feel so much more relaxed about calling him. Good luck finding someone new.

[tina_k]

just popping in to say a quick hello and to see how everyone is...
dont have time to do personals, will catch up first tomorrow..

my parents are going home today after being here all weekend...
for those of you who offered advice on BDing, just letting you know that we were successful! just really quiet...so managed every 2nd day around o time so fingers and toes xed!

any one else now in 2WW and going crazy with me?

welcome to the new guys that i havent met yet...we are all in here paying for BFPs

[Magda]

Hi Lovely Ladies,

I hope you are all doing well this evening. Thank you to everyone's kind words.

Fiona, Yes having your daughter and your son for that matter see you go though nine months and having a baby is beautiful, I couldn't agree with you more. Now regarding your dr, I am so sorry he made you cry. You don't need that, I agree with the other ladies' , it is time to find another dr. Maybe you can ask some people you know about their drs. That is how I found my dr my good friend recommended him to me and then I found out that 2 other ladies in my office also went to him and really liked him. I feel like I hit the jack pot with him. So keep you chin up you are doing the diet which is good, 1st step 2nd step.... you guessed it new dr.


Katiegirl, Thanks I love hearing about other ladies having their baby at 41 and over. Love that. The meditation course sounds great, it is actually something I have been thinking about with all the stresses I am going through. I know this is a difficult time and it is natural for you to have these feelings, it is normal for all of us to feel this way when we get pg next time around so I am not trying to belittle your feelings. I am routing for you I know that your baby is going to be born beautiful and healthy.

Danielsgirl1113, I didn't have a D&C I m/c naturally so I don't know about having blood clots after that. But since you are still bleeding you can be low on iron, which is why you are feeling dizzy. But dif ask your dr about that. Take care of yourself.

Berecca623, Don't be nervous hun, it is going to be fine.

1180, Wow, that would be a great suprise. GL.

Jodsan, Thanks, That's the thing I always think I am pg. But truly hoping this month is the one.


As for me I am feeling all sorts of cramps so I don't know what is going on, I get upset alot.

[fiona264]

Magda I will have to look around and ask for recommendations. Good idea. Ta

Low GI Diet going well and I have found some yummy recipes. My DH turns his nose up a bit at them. Too healthy probably LOL. Want to try and attempt to make Lentil Soup or Minestrone Soup. I picked up the recipe from my Low GI book. I will let you all know what its like.

Another question I want to throw out is....Has anyone been on Clomid, can you only get them from a Obstetrician and what are the side affects?

[Natty]

Hi Jodsan

Thanks for that about when to count DPO. Are you still having vivid dreams? I dreamt last night my DH went off with the female bully from my high school. Wierd. I never hardly remember dreams.....

I used First Response last pregnancy at 10DPO and it was a very + positive! I'd recommend them (also for OPKs). So you are 10DPO today or tomorrow? I didnt like Confirm - it gave me false negatives too often.

Gotta fly

nat

[Brockstar]

Hello Ladies! Just read back thru the last 6 pgs of this thread... gee, a lot happens when I go away for 6 days...!

Anyway, congrats to any and :babydust: to all in the tww.

Things are still cruising along here, symptoms are much, much stronger than last time, nausea is really bad (no red meat - cooking, buying OR eating - for me, it's gross!!!) and the bb's, well, it hurts to put a bra on some days...

OB appointment on 8 April, so that all is well. Am guessing I'll be about 7-8 weeks then.

to everyone and I hope that you all had a lovely easter break.

[AJC]

Wow - what a day. 2 BFP's -
CONGRATULATIONS Natty & Magda
Wishing you both the very happiest and healthiest of pregnancies!

Jodsan - understandable that you might be ready to take a break. I felt so good after we had our 4 month break at the end of last year. It's so hard not to let it consume your life though. Maybe you need a nice holiday too?

ll80 - good to hear you are relaxed. Spread it around if you can, he he he.

Angelbabies: am now taking Clomid hence the chuck chuck chuck. Have been fine ever since but I'm only cd8 today so long way to go. I think working on your relationship sounds like a good idea. This month I have decided to focus on romance month so I went out and bought a stack of candles today. Have big plans for next week. Glad you'll still be here to bake our cakes

smilinatu - did you test today? Good luck

The Mummies to be - glad you are all doing well.

Mollycat - Ah ha - same Ob/Gyn. Would be a tough to embark on the IVF journey. Good luck with the meds and hopefully things will happen.

Good luck everyone in tww!!!

So much has happened, sorry if I've missed anyone.

[bettyboop]

wow congrats on 2 BFP anybody else.
trying to keep busy, my opp is 11am monday, trying to think positive , after all this i am praying the doc will say yes you will be able to have children , deep down i am so worried he will say sorry you will never have anymore children , i just wanted to give my new husband a child .