TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

**Emmy-Lou** · March 19th, 2008, 10:49 AM

Well Hello all..
I'm new to this thread but am now TTC...please say a prayer for me and DH...that we will get the most precious of all christmas gifts - a lil bub..we have now started BDing hoping to conceive..
Your all in my thoughts and prayers and everyday i thank God to have such wonderful places of comfort as this site has been to me and as well as all you wonderful ladies and gents..
Take Care all and will be back soon..
xoxox

**ElleJay** · March 19th, 2008, 01:42 PM

Hi ladies, just thought I'd post in here because I'm having a bit of a panic attack.

I'm 8DPO today and although I know I should be posting this in the TWW thread, I just thought I could ask here. As I said I'm 8DPO today and I've got a fair amount of brown spotting. Yesterday I had pinky/brown streaks, then nothing, so I didn't worry about it - about 10pm last night, I started brown spotting, thinking that it was normal... Now, I've got a heap of brown spotting (and Watery/Creamy CM) and I KNOW I'm not due for at LEAST a week! Help?!

**pbstar** · March 19th, 2008, 01:48 PM

hey girls

i had to have a break from TTC and this whole thing for a week or so but now I'm back and trying to catch up with all of you- feels like it's been a lot longer than a week with all the news around here!

firstly berecca i am so so happy for you! i was reading your posts about how you were feeling a bit down about your DH's reaction....god i still think we are married to the same man! mine is so similar in the way he handles things...we really deserve a medal for being so patient and understanding!anyway i am sending lots of

for you and am glad to hear that little bit of bleeding has settled. you really deserve a happy and stress free pregnancy so fingers crossed it all goes well for you

congrats also to brockstar and

for you too

to everyone else it will take me so long to catch up so welcome to anyone new and hello to everyone else, hope everyone is well

well i had a breakdown/breakthrough last week....thought i could get away from this miscarriage without really dealing with it but it came back and got me last week after AF arrived...i cried and carried on so much and DH was wonderful...he did confiscate my thermometer though and that was pretty scary at first but then it was like a huge weight came off my shoulders....i am still quietly counting my cycle days but i really feel like i don't have to rush anymore...it might take a year or two but i will have a baby eventually!

anyway once again a big hello and big

for all of you ladies, look forward to catching up on everyone's news.

**Emmy-Lou** · March 19th, 2008, 03:46 PM

congrats xmuginsx...

**pash** · March 19th, 2008, 11:37 PM

Starryskay & Beaksie - *yay* congrats! I'm so glad to see you two UTD.

Tina It is natural to feel what you do about your SIL's PG. If it helps, it will get easier with time. And maybe you'll be PG together after all. And advice for BDing... are you sure you want to go there?

Canary About the TWW, I'd say definitely keep busy. Do something/lots of things so fun/intensive that you don't even get a chance to stop and think. I like all of Jodsan's ideas! Only can you come redecorate my place?

TempusHiya! Arvo = Afternoon. I guess it's an Australianism

Katie I'm glad DH is so lovely and supportive. And congratulations!

LJ Sounds like implantation?!

Congrats Xmugins!

*waves* at everyone else.

I'm just looking forward to when we can BD

I think I O at my friends wedding. Or maybe the day after, which is when we fly from the Gold Coast to London.... So I may have to convince DH to join the mile high club if we want things to happen this cycle

otherwise, might be waiting till next cycle to ttc properly.

Magda · March 21st, 2008, 08:20 AM

Hi Ladies,

I am back, I am sorry if my previous attempt to post went through.

I have missed so much as usual, I am sorry.

Rebecca and Xmuginsx:

Congratulations to you both. More

that's what I love to hear.

Canary: Thank you for the advice on your lst post regarding the short Luteal Phase, I was pretty bumbed to hear that. But this month I seem to have O'd on cd12 and am now 6dpo, so I am hoping and

Tina: I hope you were able to DTD.

Angel Babies: I hope you are having an awesome vacation and that you are relaxing alot.

And a Big hello to all of our new mommies to be. Hope you guys are feeling wonderful, I know that this period is rough but nonetheless I am sending you guys good and happy

Hello to everyone else that I missed and to the new comers.

**Canary** · March 21st, 2008, 09:17 AM

Hi Girls,
Oooh, I have so much to say. Where to start?

Well firstly, thank you Tempus, Jodsan, Katie, AngelB, Pash and Natty for your advice. I have decided to follow all of it! Tempus, it is really funny that you mention a relaxation CD, because I used to have a casette of calming music that I used to listen to when revising for exams and getting stressed etc. I lost that casette and could not find a replacement anywhere.. until I remembered the name of it and found it on the internet this week! It arrived in the post yesterday!
Jodsan, I like your ideas. I live in a rented place, so cant really paint the walls, but I might plant something in the tiny conservatory at the back of the house. I wonder whether it is too early for tomatoes??
AngelB, thank you so much for posting when you are on your hols. It's good advice, I am just going to focus on living for the moment and not thinking about how many DPO I am, or when I can POAS!
Pash, sorry, but cant really take time off work to come and decorate your place (would love to though!) Is the wedding that you are going to in London or Gold Coast?

Tina, sorry about your SIL, but I think that you should give yourself a pat on the back for getting through it. As for how to get into the mood for BD, I agree with Natty- laughter is the best medicine. How about watching a film that makes you laugh so much you wet yourself!!?? I have recently watched Blades of Glory (wilth Will Ferrel) and laughed myself silly. I also laughed at 'hot fuz' , but that is a british film and I am not sure whether the jokes would be as funny from an Oz perspective. I can also recommend Billy Connoly, he has been on the TV tonight making me laugh! Good luck.

Hi

to Fiona and EmmyLou. I am sorry that you have needed to come here, but you are very welcome and I hope you have a short stay.

LJ: I agree with the others, sounds like implantation.

Wearing my sensible hat though, if you aren't preggers this month, it might be worth getting checked out by a doc because there can occasionally be a cause for spotting between periods. I really hope that AF doesnt come!

XMuginsx: Many congratulations! That is excellent news

Pbstar.:hugs: Sorry for how you have been feeling, it is nice to have you back.

Magda- Hello again, I hope you are feeing good. It's nice to have you back.

Happy Easter everyone! I have a whole 4 days off work - woo hoo!! DH and I go on our trip on sat for 2 nights of

Be good everyone, I'll see you when I get back

**Jodsan** · March 21st, 2008, 11:42 AM

Hi everyone, hope you are enjoying your Easter break so far. DH has to work both today and Monday (he's in hospitality) so it's no fun today!

Well, supposedly 5dpo (although I suspect I may have O'd a day or two earlier) and the symptoms are already quite promising: sore boobs since 2dpo, soft cervix, creamy CM (sorry TMI), ridiculous fatigue (I went to bed at 8.30pm last night), very mellow and sleepy (so progesterone levels are definately up), dizzy, lots of pulling sensations and cramping just above pubic bone.

for a really sticky implantation sometime in the next few days.

Canary - unfortunately I have no advice on tomato plantation, I've never planted anything in my life, it just sounds like a good idea LOL. Yeah, we're in a rented place too, wish I could paint a feature wall or something. Have a really fantastic and relaxing trip!!

Magda - Big hello, good luck in the TWW, got my fingers crossed for you, sending you some

Natty - I was of the understanding that the whole easter break is a reprieve from calories so I can eat the full fat ones! At least that is what I'm convincing myself.

Hope you have a really great easter!

AJC - Sounds like a really great weekend planned, hoping the

rubs off on you!! Gotta say, I'm a big proponent of the low GI too, I start to get sick if I eat too many carbs, dont think my body digests them well. Feel best when I just stick to protein and get all the carbs I need from vegis and fruit (and the odd bit of chocolate of course!).

Mel A - Really sorry for your loss. Good luck with TTC, sending you lots of

Fiona - Welcome, sorry for your loss. As I mentioned to AJ above, big fan of Low GI. I have read some articles which suggest that according to our digestive tracts, we were never meant to eat grains, that's why so many of us are gluten intolerant. Good luck with the diet, keep us informed on how you feel over the next few weeks!

LizJessie - Still sounding really promising, the pink streaks is apparently somethng to do with your cervical plug and brown spotting is apparently just clearing out a bit of old blood. The fact that you dont even have to wear a pad is good. It sounds like exactly what I had with Aiden, started out pink, then brown, but really light for a few days. I always think it is a great sign when you get the implantation bleed, it makes me think that it is a good strong implantation. Fingers crossed!

Bettyboop - You haven't told us how you are going? Are you TTC this cycle?

Pash - the mile high club sounds like fun, and it would be such a great 21st story. Hey if Ralph Fiennes can do it so can you

Good luck catching the eggy this month!

xmuginsx - Congratulations!!! Sometimes in here we get a little bit down and dainted by the TTC journey so its great to get some good news, gives us hope that we might be there soon too. Sending you heaps of

pbstar - Good to see you back again, but it does sound like you needed to take a break to resolve your feelings. Sometimes I think we try to trick ourselves that getting pregnant again will make us feel better, but I think we will always miss our little angels that weren't to be. I still cry too sometimes, maybe I always will. Big hug sweetie

Good luck this cycle!

EmmyLou - Welcome, look forward to sharing the TTC journey with you. Good luck!

This is as far back as I can go, sorry if I have missed anyone. Big hello and happy easter to all!

fiona264 · March 21st, 2008, 04:54 PM

AJC Hi to you too. I have just started on the Low GI diet and it works for me. I only have to look at bread or any type of carb and put on weight. The only trouble is, when I do cut down on it, I get extreme headaches and moody, like I am going into withdrawal. I can't give up coffee, so I started drinking decaf coffee. Honestly, I can't tell the difference, but I got headaches for a week.

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I am carrying a bit too much weight to be confident to conceive again, but I am totally running out of time. Maybe this Low GI diet might pick up my spirits. Thanks so much for your reply. I hope to continue talking to you.

Jodsan I will let you know how I go. Its just frustrating you know. But on the other hand, a hassle free pregnancy is a dream and I guess its just our bodies telling us to settle down and let it come naturally......if all else fails, theres always IVF LOL.

**bettyboop** · March 21st, 2008, 07:29 PM

It has been 150 days since my D&cC still no AF , doc is very sure that i have ashermans , i have my opp on 31march and then we will find out if we can have children , i am so scared, i just need to know, has been so hard not having a AF after the miscarrage i just felt like that would be the end and then we could move on and start again.fingers crossed they can fix it. so i have not been on so much on here , trying not to think to much about TTC and at my age it is so hard.

LJ wow looking great when will you test.

**plc1805** · March 21st, 2008, 09:35 PM

Hi everyone - so sorry to not have posted for so long!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 3 and 1/2 days!!!
Just wanted u to know that I am lurking and reading ur posts (as always!!) and I will be back to do personals tomoro morning - I have a sick little boy on my hands