Beaksie, I'd suggest temping. If you do that you can tell the day you O and also work out when AF is about to arrive (from the temp drop & because of your luteal phase). I've found it very handy to know when AF is due. I used to think I was a 28 day cycle and found this not to be the case once I started temping and I also found a get AF 11-12 days after Oing. I'd recommend temping for sure. We are not TTCing as such as the timing really is not right, we just weren't careful. Also I haven't had my lap yet so a pregnancy probably will not survive until I have the D&C done. It would probably be best if I'm not pg because if I am it will be stressful.... worrying if it's the right thing to do while we are trying to heal things but also worrying about the possibility of another m/c and all the damage it did to our relationship last time.