Hi Mandyr
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby.
I know what you mean about not wanting to try next month, I was exactly the same after losing Noah... my DH and I tried the month earlier and nothing, then DTD once the next month and bammo, I fell pregnant with Harrison, in the cycle I didn't want to fall on. Knowing I would have him close to the date that Noah was born on terrified me... I hated the month of February because I found out about Noah being ill, and gave birth to him in February... so I felt it was cursed for us. Now, we have a reason to celebrate February because we have a healthy little Feb baby.
In regards to your caregivers, honey you can decide on what is best for you during your pregnancy. I am not sure if you go through an Ob or just though the midwives at the hospital. After losing Noah, I got a lot more care than I received through my pregnancy with Noah... as soon as I got my BFP I called the clinic and booked in (as requested by a midwife) and I started going there from 4 weeks. I also kept visiting my GP throughout my pregnancy... but I found that I got all the care I needed from the midwives, I think it was because of losing Noah, they wanted me to feel more reassured that I was being looked after. I'd suggest going through shared care if you're concerned... or perhaps calling the midwives and having a chat with them and voicing your concerns.
Sorry I can't help you with your OPK question... I have no idea about those because I only ever got really faint lines or nothing when I did them.
Welcome to Bellybelly
Lisa