my Dh gave me flowers on my first mothers day without Floyd and then i gave him some power tools for fathers day. his BIL said ' what do get a present for? your not a father!DH spat it and said we created a child that grew and had a heartbeat. he felt Floyd moving in me and he saw his boy be delivered and to him that makes him a father!!!
celebrate mothers day. no matter how hard and traumatic it is, as you are all parents, its just our special angel babies were needed somewhere else. i belive it helps the grieving process. it has been 6 years since Floyd left us but he is always remembered and i could not live with the guilt of trying to scrub ANY important date or milestone.
Take care girls
love and remember your angel babies passionately.
Rach - I agree with you, our children may not be with us but we can still celebrate their birth. We did birth them and they will always be our children and in our thoughts every day for the rest of our lives. Thank you so much for sharing the poem, it is so beautiful and I am sure Katy will love it, it brought a tear (truth be told I cried) to my eye
Lynn - My DH said the same about giving him suggestions, I guess it is hard for them to know the right thing to do because they want to do the right thing all the time but with our ups and downs its impossible. Maybe you could suggest dinner and a movie then, its something that you can enjoy together and if you feel a little sad its ok cause its just the two of you. I also find movies a really good distraction from my thoughts and emotions (which is why you hear DH and I go all the time) which surely cant be bad thing that particular day. We do deserve to do something special that day though, all of us
Sonya - Your poor DH having his brother say such an insensitive thing, people should think before they speak! To say our DH's are not fathers, or that we are not mothers, is just as absurd as saying if you have a live child who passes young you are not a parent anymore - it is ridiculous. I think I would cry so hard if anyone said that to me, I spend all my time trying to justify to people that I AM STILL A MUM because I know they dont see it that way, although I know that truth and most importantly our angels know the truth and this is all that matter.
Well I know I will be thinking of each and every one of us who have said goodbye to our babies a Happy Mother's Day on the 13th, as hard and sad as it may be we deserve it. We are all mothers and we all love our angel children just as much as any mother loves their earth children.
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